Dubemkelly:

They are referred to as paedophiles not gays

laykorn:


As a matter of fact, I don't carry female children on my laps. It's not about having a perverted mind. It's about taking precautions. Many of those animals naturally don't have paedophilia on their minds.

As a matter of fact too, we (I and my brothers) don't let males carry our kid sisters who are less than 3 either on their laps or otherwise for nobody is a paedophile until they are caught.

Next2Bezee:


Precaution against what biko? As long as you have it in your mind then you sir are a paedophile and only God can save you.

Please, keep staying away from other people's kids for their safety biko.

masquellett:
Its so true. That's the best thing to do. I will rport to the mother as soon as possible

uplawal:
Yes he might be arrested immediatelyfor safety pourpose,but as investigations goes on they get to free him and know the truth.

Well spoken. I don't know how op can ever narrate this story and come out smelling like roses

masquellett:
I don't know if this is the right room to post this, but am really disturbed.

I was watching "This morning" on TVC this morning when this little girl and her siblings walked in. She will be clocking 3 this year as I heard. They usually come around like that and most times I joke and play with them.
Today, when this little girl came in. She jumped on my legs, so I left her to sit on my laps while I watch my program.

Before I knew what was happening, I felt a touch on my joystick. At first, I was confused. I looked at her to know if she did it on purpose or not. I removed her hands to be sure, then I continued to watched my program. Then again. She started rubbing my joystick!

At that time. I knew something was wrong. I didn't know how to caution her, because I never believed a girl of 3 would know what a joystick is and not to talk of rubbing it with her hand.

Then, I dropped her on the floor and used a pillow to cover my laps and joystick. I was watching what her next step would be. To my greatest surprise, this girl came again, removed the pillow, sat on my joystick and starting making some funny moves. I was dumbfounded! I had to spank her hard and I sent the whole kids outta my flat. It was embarrassing.

So right now. Am still confused, I think someone around the neighborhood is molesting this little girl, the mother is not around, only the dad. I intend reporting her to her mother when she comes back. What' do you think about this?

linearity:


So, you acknowledge that, this guy might be arrested but after the investigation, he get to go free? Do you know want an arrest entails in 9ja? He will be the first suspect, since the three year old is too young to understand what is going on and to name names. He will sleep in ceil for days while he plead his innocence and could be tortured to 'extract the truth from him', he will miss work and depending on his job situation, he could be fired for missing work. The public would have passed their judgement on him by the mere fact that no one else has come out to take the blame.

As a parent, if a grown man work to me and tell me that, my three year daughter touch his 'thing', I will call the COPs and throw his ass in jail until he tells me the truth. No parent will believe that, their three year old is been molested, even when faced with the facts, my natural insights is to deny it immediately, with time I might accept the fact but not immediately, meanwhile the OP will be the one to suffer the consequences. All these is naturally insight on my part to protect my daughter and hide from the truth and I will be oblivious of the suffering of the OP behind bar, in fact I will want the officers to deal with him more until he confesses. Yes, at the end of the day, when he has proven himself to be innocent or the actual person is caught, I will eat humble pie and come and apologize for not believing him in the first place.

I read some of your other post and it appear you are a social worker or know one or two things about social workers....if you are given a case where a three year touched the "thing" of an adult and the only person that reported it is the adult, are you going to thank the adult and let him go his merry way? What if, he is the one that did it and is just reporting it to cover his tracks, the investigation must start from him, the authorities must satisfy themselves that he is not the one molesting the kid and as a social worker that is what you will do. You will open a file in this guy's name and if it is in the U.S. Context even if he is found as clean as a whistle, he will not go free...he is the adult in the room and by his actions, behaviors or whatever, he placed himselve in a position for the little girl to reach out and touch his "thing", believe me, no one is going to blame that little girl or ascribe any wrong doing to her, all the focus will be on the adult in the room.

You are looking at this, heavily from a social worker's standpoint, which is good and commendable; also be realistic and tell this guy the truth, let him know, that as per the protocols, he is the first suspect and that he will be thoroughly investigated and that, as a social worker you are concern about how he presented or placed himself to have allowed the girl to even touch his thing in the first place...tell him that the protocols requires investigating that circumstance also and to determine if he is partly at fault or not. Also, let him know that, you will be a staunch advocate for the little girl and will be representing her to the fullness and by law, you cannot represent him or give him legal advise but will take his report into consideration....at the end of the day, all the investigations might just be for nothing and the incident might just be the curiosity of a growing little child and the only investigation left is the conduct of the OP and how as an adult who would have known better will allow a three year old touch his thing.

If the OP truly want to help this kid and get some level of protection for himself at the same time, I think he has to spend some money. Call a lawyer, narrate the story to him/her, let the lawyer call the Police not even the parents. Then, the Police can talk to the parent and take the investigation from there. I doubt if you will spend lots of money with the lawyer on that. This does not mean, that the OP is in the clear, he will still be looked at as a suspect, but will have some level of protection. Your lawyer can also discuss with you on your complacency in the touching incident, then will advise you against future occurrence and might provide you with a soft-landing on that front with the police.

Minet16:




No its in a state of OTOMOPIC TALIDUBAI with an ODORIFEROUS SAGA... KUMGAGA KUAGAGA

Skmoda360:

let me say PRESCISTIMO, The SUCERENCE of the kid has been taken thereby causing TERKE TERKE MORPHASINE of the parent and the culprit needs to be transferred to OBIOPO CONTEXT prison.

Flashh:
Reporting her will make you look like a fool in the presence of her parents. How do you want to start your explanation?

Anytime she do that, beat her very well for her to know what she did is very bad.

Shes till a little girl, she don't know it's very bad... So it's left for you to stop her from such act.

*Modified*

I have gone through some comments here saying... (YOU SHOULD FREE THE GIRL).

If you free her just like that, the corrupt spirit in her will grow and God will blame you for that also.

Let her keep coming for you to know if she has stop that corrupt behaviour. When you continue beating her she will surely change.... I no say make you kill pesin pikin with beating o.

Ewuro4:
Why in Lord's name are children allowed to wander people's apartments for no reasons. Na by force to watch TV shows??

3yr old? Lord have mercy.

Minet16:




No its in a state of OTOMOPIC TALIDUBAI with an ODORIFEROUS SAGA... KUMGAGA KUAGAGA

Flashh:
Reporting her will make you look like a fool in the presence of her parents. How do you want to start your explanation?

Anytime she do that, beat her very well for her to know what she did is very bad.

Shes till a little girl, she don't know it's very bad... So it's left for you to stop her from such act.

*Modified*

I have gone through some comments here saying... (YOU SHOULD FREE THE GIRL).

If you free her just like that, the corrupt spirit in her will grow and God will blame you for that also.

Let her keep coming for you to know if she has stop that corrupt behaviour. When you continue beating her she will surely change.... I no say make you kill pesin pikin with beating o.

standd:


Ok , you don't live in Nigeria, that is obvious. Out here, some parents do not bother about their children's movement or activities.
Most cases of molestations is 90% the parents fault as most are so careless and non-chalant about the well-being of their kids that you had begin to wonder who forced them to have children in the first place.

Ewuro4:


But I grew up in Nigeria and we aren't allowed to roam the front lawn not to talk of neighbour's house unmonitored, ordinary tenten sef , my brothers must be out there playing soccer with their boys. Our Dad watched us like a hawk. I only have a mental layout of my neighbours house as described by them. Even when invited to birthday parties, I dare not peek in their homes. so are they. This was late 80s/90s up. Till we all flew the nest. this is the same parenting pattern I chose to follow. My eldest kid always give me heck for that but I don't care. My house my rules.

So the sudden nonchalant attitude we read on NL are just unimaginable to take in. I mean how could a mother swallow even her spit without knowing her kids whereabout & wellbeign?? A 3 year old inside one random guys apartment. I just can't phantom it. #deep sigh#

damiso:


I cant even deal na wa o

Minet16:



lol pretty lady, you feeling me right

Ewuro4:


But I grew up in Nigeria and we aren't allowed to roam the front lawn not to talk of neighbour's house unmonitored, ordinary tenten sef , my brothers must be out there playing soccer with their boys. Our Dad watched us like a hawk. I only have a mental layout of my neighbours house as described by them. Even when invited to birthday parties, I dare not peek in their homes. so are they. This was late 80s/90s up. Till we all flew the nest. this is the same parenting pattern I chose to follow. My eldest kid always give me heck for that but I don't care. My house my rules.

So the sudden nonchalant attitude we read on NL are just unimaginable to take in. I mean how could a mother swallow even her spit without knowing her kids whereabout & wellbeign?? A 3 year old inside one random guys apartment. I just can't phantom it. #deep sigh#

thorpido:
Unfortunately,a lot of parents are running around for one thing or the other trying to make ends meet probably.It's a kind of relief if they can get someone's flat to hang in for some hours while they sort out other things.

Ewuro4:


Okay sir. But There're other possible ways to get a FREE sitter besides thrifting a 3yr old (girl) around the block. Just saying ni, not judging anyone here coz I'm a parent too so I get the struggles fitting everybody in a tight schedule.

biaka1994:
It's kinda funny

Minet16:



thanks