whizqueen:
All your points above are just a piece of bullshit
Why should you go to a guy's house on your first date? It doesn't even speak well sef. It shows how cheap you're. Owing to the fact that majority of Nigerian dudes are sex starved, they will definitely throw advances at you.

Only a cheap, broke ass n hungry lady will eat on a first date like she has never eaten before.

amokeme:

If she wants to eat like her life depends on it sef, she should PAY herself!

bestestgirl:
The other OP was not saying that the guy should never ever invite the girl to his house, she was annoyed with the fact that most guys do it right from the chatting stage, sometimes, the house offer is even proposed as the first date.
The submission of the other OP is that guys should woo the girls slowly and thoroughly seduce her, they should be in a defined relationship and then naturally, they would begin to hang out at each others' houses.
The first dates of the relationship does not necessarily have to be in restaurants (since your major complaint is expense), what happened to long drives and picnics in parks, what happened to walks on the Beach, movies, concerts, art shows, museums, carnivals, circus acts, etc.
The truth is that the guys these days have absolutely no creativity and they are in a hurry to have sex (so as not to be called a maga or friendzoned). And I really don't blame them because the girls have seriously lowered their standards.
So OP, every girl who has finally agreed to be in a relationship with a guy will DEFINITELY want to go to his house, not when the guy is still a 'toaster'

Whew! *drops pen*

francababy:
I am creating this thread in response to another thread on fp on guys telling girls to come to their house.

1. It is better for a guy to have a date at his house rather than an expensive restaurant given the unthoughtful was of today's nigerian girls. Imagine my cousin invited his new girlfriend for a date at an expensive restaurant. She came with her friend. They ate like that was their last meal. After that, they remember their flat mate who they promised to get something for when coming. My cousin both them the takeaway. After that, while they were leaving, they remembered that their cab man has being waiting outside while they were eating. So they order for snacks again for their cab man. Now, if it was my cousin's house, would all that nonsense take place?

2. When a girl meets a guy that looks well to do, deep in her heart, she wants to explore and assess everything. She wants to check out his crib. She wants to know if it's comfy enough for her weekend getaways. Ladies, we should stop lying to ourselves.


3. If a guy does not take a girl to his house and always takes her to a hotel, she would be the one shouting and complaining. Is he married, that's why he can't take me home? Does he take me for a who.re? Does he take me seriously?

peeparty:
If i share my experince here you will all cry for me.
All the same have learnt my lesson oo.if she like make she no come my house.

amokeme:
you are really funny! And what if he can't handle the expenses?? In my opinion, if the girls have no intention of paying for themselves.. Then they are really shameless are we still talking about a first date here

naijaboiy:

I take my girl to buka sometimes

suzzy16:
inyama,I can't even go dat place to eat alone,talkless of a guy taking me there

And how is that any fhuucking business of mine?

Last I checked you were not my girl.

naijaboiy:

And how is that any fhuucking business of mine?

Last I checked you were not my girl.

bestestgirl:
yes it is shameless for a girl to show up with longthroat friends when a guy asks her out. But we digress, you are asking what if the guy can't handle the expense, let me ask a question of my own;

Is it your submission that because a guy cannot handle the expense of taking a girl out on a date, it is justified to 'toast' her by telling her to come to his house?

And yes I listed those other places as alternatives to restaurants, even for first dates. What is wrong with taking a new girl to a lovely park or amusement park on the first date?

suzzy16:
okay

bestestgirl:
yes it is shameless for a girl to show up with longthroat friends when a guy asks her out. But we digress, you are asking what if the guy can't handle the expense, let me ask a question of my own;

Is it your submission that because a guy cannot handle the expense of taking a girl out on a date, it is justified to 'toast' her by telling her to come to his house?

And yes I listed those other places as alternatives to restaurants, even for first dates. What is wrong with taking a new girl to a lovely park or amusement park on the first date?

And going to parks or wherever aren't expensive too?

Madam it's a very simple thing. If a man invites you over to his house and you don't want to go simply turn him down.

No need going back and forth on this issue.

There are still many girls who by themselves ask to come to a guy's house.

So what are we saying here?

naijaboiy:

Good!

suzzy16:
"hiss",wats good in taking ur girlfrnd to a buka,it sounds so dirty

What the fhuuck is wrong with this prudish being forming posh?

Since when did you start advising me on where and what I do with my girlfriend.

Do I even know you?

Please take a walk!

bestestgirl:
yes it is shameless for a girl to show up with longthroat friends when a guy asks her out. But we digress, you are asking what if the guy can't handle the expense, let me ask a question of my own;

Is it your submission that because a guy cannot handle the expense of taking a girl out on a date, it is justified to 'toast' her by telling her to come to his house?

And yes I listed those other places as alternatives to restaurants, even for first dates. What is wrong with taking a new girl to a lovely park or amusement park on the first date?

naijaboiy:

What the fhuuck is wrong with this prudish being forming posh?

Since when did you start advising me on where and what I do with my girlfriend.

Do I even know you?

Please take a walk!

suzzy16:
I think something is wrong with ur head,waka pass abeg

You should check your own liquidised brain first.

Next time learn to quote me with courtesy

francababy:


I guess u watch to much movies. Please mention the lovely parks and amusement parks in your area.

naijaboiy:

You should check your own liquidised brain first.

Next time learn to quote me with courtesy

suzzy16:
"hiss,no sense

naijaboiy:

And going to parks or wherever aren't expensive too?

Madam it's a very simple thing. If a man invites you over to his house and you don't want to go simply turn him down.

No need going back and forth on this issue.

There are still many girls who by themselves ask to come to a guy's house.

So what are we saying here?

suzzy16:
"hiss",wats good in taking ur girlfrnd to a buka,it sounds so dirty

amokeme:
funny thing is they have the best foods... Prepared in the local way and very tasty.

suzzy16:
sorry,vry local and vry dirty,I can't imagine d foolish guy dat will take me there for a date,I will just cut him off

bestestgirl:

The whole point of that OP opening the thread is to educate guys that many girls do not find it okay, that a girl who is getting attracted to you might suddenly lose interest if you invite her over too soon. The OP was calling on guys to dig deep into their heads and get more creative when it comes to wooing women.
It is not just about turning down an invitation if the girl does not want to go, it is about revealing to boys who didn't know before that it could cost them that pretty smart girl they really like. It is also about explaining to some guys why that girl they were chatting so animatedly with suddenly became frosty and began to reply with 'k'.
I don't how else to explain this and this discussion is getting tedious already

I get your point totally and you are right.

But one thing you should know is that whether a man takes a girl out on a date first or invites her to his house it's the same thing they want at the end.

Which is sex.

One way or the other it will happen. Girls/ladies just think going out on a few dates is just the formal way of doing things before sex takes place.

On the other hand,,men don't want to go through all those long processes when she can just come over once.

In my opinion,,none of the options are wrong. Whether I invite a girl to my house or I take her out somewhere,,i don't have a problem with that.

But the problem will come when I take her out a few times and she starts seeing me like a maga of some sort.

amokeme:
If we can't meet at any eatery or hangout spot, then it has to be my house (if I've known you to an extent).. Visiting people in their homes (male and female inclusive) has never been my thing right from when I was very little.

And seriously, "some" girls should just stop embarrassing themselves.. Will it kill you if you pay for something that will enter YOUR stomach even if you don't pay for the guy, pay for yours, and if you don't have money, the meeting should be postponed! until when you have money
Me o, I can't go out with a guy if I don't have money... Not every guy has the brain to process "am broke" statement from a lady. 99% just think you are indirectly asking for money.. So I'll rather keep giving excuses till am buoyant

amokeme:
If we can't meet at any eatery or hangout spot, then it has to be my house (if I've known you to an extent).. Visiting people in their homes (male and female inclusive) has never been my thing right from when I was very little.

And seriously, "some" girls should just stop embarrassing themselves.. Will it kill you if you pay for something that will enter YOUR stomach even if you don't pay for the guy, pay for yours, and if you don't have money, the meeting should be postponed! until when you have money
Me o, I can't go out with a guy if I don't have money... Not every guy has the brain to process "am broke" statement from a lady. 99% just think you are indirectly asking for money.. So I'll rather keep giving excuses till am buoyant

starlingslimnet:
What is she saying

whizqueen:
All your points above are just a piece of bullshit
Why should you go to a guy's house on your first date? It doesn't even speak well sef. It shows how cheap you're. Owing to the fact that majority of Nigerian dudes are sex starved, they will definitely throw advances at you.

Only a cheap, broke ass n hungry lady will eat on a first date like she has never eaten before.