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Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by deebee13(f): 3:27pm On Jun 26, 2015
So I got married recently, and my in laws are quite religious. Last week I got a new job after waiting for so long for it... T

he problem now is, my in-laws claim they prayed about it, and I shouldn't take d job. It's at an NGO, with a beautiful package and future for me.

I also have till 2nd of July to give my answer to the regional office.

I need mature advices on how to handle this matter pls!!!

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Tbillz(m): 3:28pm On Jun 26, 2015
If they insist U shouldn't pick Up the job, ask for alternative from them. But U need to carry out a personal research on why they dont want U to take the job. Lastly your pastor, imam or baba nigbejo can help U out.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by southernbelle(f): 3:34pm On Jun 26, 2015
i feel your husband should handle this one, not your in-laws. if he knows you are really passionate about it, then he should put his foot down. unless he doesn't want you to have the job as well?

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by ammyluv2002(f): 3:34pm On Jun 26, 2015
deebee13:
So I got married recently, and my in laws are quite religious. Last week I got a new job after waiting for so long for it... d problem now is, my in-laws claim de prayed about it, and I shouldn't take d job. It's at an NGO, with a beautiful package and future for me. I also have till 2nd of July to give my answer to d regional office. I need mature advices on how to handle dis matter pls!!!

And your hubby's opinion?

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by zinachidi(m): 3:38pm On Jun 26, 2015
ask them if they'll be paying u monthly like the NGO, if they say no, then take the job... All dese inlaws wey no want pesin prosperity.. Jobs are hard to find nowadays

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Tallesty1(m): 3:38pm On Jun 26, 2015
ammyluv2002:
And your hubby's opinion?
Same thing I wanted to ask.









What does the job entail?

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by eph12(m): 3:41pm On Jun 26, 2015
That was how someone told me her pastor told her not to take a job but this same pastor won't help her get one. Smh

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Rosarie(f): 3:43pm On Jun 26, 2015
are u stayin with ur inlaws.i dnt get how ur inlaws ve a say in d job u got.u ask permisson frm dem or wot.rilly dnt get.am married too.anytin is btwn i n ma hubby .xternal familes is to greet dem wen chanced.dey dnt interfer in our issues.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Nobody: 3:49pm On Jun 26, 2015
They better employ you.
What's the worst that can happen, hmmm? The company may sack you huh??

Their prayer didn't show the main job for you,. Or they have a better offer?

And whats your honey saying about your inlaws intrusion into a decision that should be for both of you.

Lady, Nigeria's unemployment rates is at an all time high now, so it's either you answer now or park well make another person try him luck. No dulling.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by mutter(f): 3:59pm On Jun 26, 2015
Tell them you prayed about it and God showed you that he decreed this job for you. Are their prayers superior to yours?
It is always good to be in a permanent job before getting pregnant. Besides if the job is mot suitable you can always look for another or quit. A job is not a bondage. You have better bargaining powers looking for a job when you are already in one.
The most important thing is not the message but how you convey it. . With respect for them and their opinion and in all humility. Assure your husband that you wish to support him and gather some job experience before the babies come.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by 1k001(m): 4:07pm On Jun 26, 2015
since when other peoples start dey see vision for you. Their motives are unclear and there could be a conflict of interest. My take, enter your own prayer and fasting. If the vision is that important surely God will reveal it to you too. If you no get revelation, diplomatically inform your in-laws that you too have prayed and that your answer is that despite the potential pitfalls it will give you plenty of experience and stand to you for good.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Nobody: 4:09pm On Jun 26, 2015
What's the nature of the job?

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by premConcept: 4:25pm On Jun 26, 2015
They got a better offer?

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Mamaflex(f): 5:37pm On Jun 26, 2015
Now, this is funny.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by onegig(m): 6:46pm On Jun 26, 2015
Please tell me this is a joke.


I have heard many Nigerians are myopic but if this is true then I must say Nigeria still got a long way.
No wonder this place is a shithole.

You got a job; a means of empowerment and someone somewhere is telling you to flush it down the drain without a commensurate alternative.

I guess you have no siblings who are still growing up and would need all the help they can get or no aged parents who would need to be taken care of.


I hope those in laws also saw you in their dreams and prayers begging for money to buy Maggi and condiments from them in a few months time....


Mtshewww...


Edit: Just checked your profile and it checks out. In-laws got another puppet to their list of puppeteers to pull strings on and see them dance to their "sorrowful" lyrics. cheesy

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by thorpido(m): 6:52pm On Jun 26, 2015
I hope your husband is matured enough to handle this.
You should take up the job which you can always quit if you don't find it good for you later on.
Discuss with your hubby and let him find out what problem they have with the job.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Dyt(f): 6:55pm On Jun 26, 2015
cheesy grin cheesy cheesy

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by lastnogood(f): 7:04pm On Jun 26, 2015
Once again, why haven't you gone and prayed for yourself. I'm so dumbfounded when people refuse to test the spirit as it was commanded for them to do!!!

"For I know the plans I have for you..." Jeremiah 29:11-13

"For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives," Colossians 1:9

God has a plan for you, and you can ask him to fill you with the knowledge of his will.

So... That's you answer

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by limamintruth: 7:41pm On Jun 26, 2015
Simply discuss the issue with your husband & ensure you make him understand why you need to accept the job offer.
If he consents, then no need bothering yourself about what your in-laws may think my dear. wink

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by deebee13(f): 9:26pm On Jun 26, 2015
ammyluv2002:
And your hubby's opinion?


He's torn in between...
Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by angelTI(f): 10:23pm On Jun 26, 2015
deebee13:



He's torn in between...

He is torn in between undecided This is more than serious grin grin cheesy

BTW, is that you on your dp?

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by msmon(m): 10:47pm On Jun 26, 2015
@OP, Kindly PM me. I will link up with some1 who will be willing to take the job and share the salary with u. That's better for u only if u understand.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by lovinhubby2wife(m): 10:48pm On Jun 26, 2015
The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is having wicked beasts as in-laws
. There is absolutely nothing you can ever do to please them.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by ShakurM(m): 10:48pm On Jun 26, 2015
all those type of inlaws ehn angry

I know their type , Pray about it too n seek ur 'pastors'. I'm sure it would be a positive result and discuss it with your husband, have a heart to heart talk with him.

Since u told them about the high prospects of the job, they sure feel insecured especially when their son isn't like a CEO of some company.

N.B: You married ur husband and his in-laws

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by sexaddict08(m): 10:48pm On Jun 26, 2015
kneel down n beg them. if they insist forget them, na enemy of progress.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by tellwisdom: 10:49pm On Jun 26, 2015
Who gave you a job??..Your boy friend??

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by colossus2: 10:49pm On Jun 26, 2015
Inlaws ke, not even your hubby undecided





The tellwisdom above dey always crack me up cheesy

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Omotayor123(f): 10:49pm On Jun 26, 2015
Pray about it? Where



Some in laws funny sha...

And going against them na Wahala...



hmmm*
Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by ijbeauty(f): 10:49pm On Jun 26, 2015
Can you refer someone else to them?? I mean the NGO?


Pls if yes, I need it.
Just tell your in-laws to keep praying...

#yeye.de.smell ;sad undecided

On a serious note, babe if your in-laws doesn't have another alternative, pls pls and pls take the job..

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by IlekeHD: 10:50pm On Jun 26, 2015
These kain in-laws, I no want am.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Bonethugss: 10:51pm On Jun 26, 2015
Damn, I am a lady oh, but if that's you in your profile pic , damnnnnn. Girl u hot...

Now to the topic:
It seems to me that your in-laws are too informal with you, to the extent they pray on a job offer you secured. Next time, I feel you don't need to discuss such personal issues with them, your husband can know but not your in-laws.
Secondly, in this era of unemployment, explain to them that, they should join you in praying against whatever demon they saw that formed their conclusion.
Lastly if they insist I guess you shouldn't take the job, as I personally hate negativity and they already introduced that.

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Re: Finally Got A Job After So Long, But My In-Laws Won't Let Me Have It! by Cyriloha(m): 10:51pm On Jun 26, 2015
Rosarie:
are u stayin with ur inlaws.i dnt get how ur inlaws ve a say in d job u got.u ask permisson frm dem or wot.rilly dnt get.am married too.anytin is btwn i n ma hubby .xternal familes is to greet dem wen chanced.dey dnt interfer in our issues.
I like the picture of tired baby. ........
sorry back to the matter maybe the in laws at large joined hands and paid her bride price

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