Ending a relationship is one of the hardest decisions to come to
in life. This is because there are a lots of things to worry about,
fears that exist in the relationship and problems to conquer but
none of this beats that which comes with breaking up the
relationship. This is because your mind is filled with doubts on
whether or not you are making the right decision. You’re
thinking if the relationship is the right one that you need to fight
for and if you’d regret throwing it away. You don’t know if you’re
over exaggerating the problems you have and if you let this one
go, you don’t know if you’d ever find love again.


These questions are those everyone that is on the verge of
breaking up a relationship asks. Some even go on to ask if
they’d ever be with a member of the opposite sex again, if they
are jinxed to be alone or if they are too choosy in their choice of
a partner.
While we can’t tell you if that relationship you’re in will last a
lifetime, we can categorically tell you that love alone is not
enough to sustain a relationship. Certain things would happen
that will make you realize you have to let go. And here are some
of those things and times.


1. When you have different life plans
The chances of a relationship going the long haul when the two
people involved have different life plans are near zero. Take for
instance you are the type that wants to settle down and have a
dozen kids and your partner is the type that wants to travel
round the world and doesn’t want children, it’s probably best
you reconsider the relationship. Life plans are a very important
part of your relationship and it is important to be with someone
that have and want relatively the same things as you do.


2. When you have different ambitions
Chances are if you are an ambitious person that is self
motivated and you have a partner that is mostly satisfied with
his position and has very little motivation to move forward either
at their jobs or life in general, a lot of problems might arise later
on in your relationship.


3. When the attraction isn’t there
This is a problem given the fact that irrespective of how much
you love someone, if you are not physically or sexually attracted
to them, the relationship is bound to hit the rocks. Despite what
people say, sex is actually a core ingredient of a healthy
relationship. If you love your partner but you have no sexual
desire for them, loving them is definitely not enough. You will be
doing both yourself and your partner a great disservice if you
stay in a relationship with very little sexual commitment and
unsatisfactory physical attraction.


4. When there’s too much baggage
Of course, everyone has a form of baggage or the other which
comes from our past that is mostly not pretty. However, some
baggage might just not be tolerable enough for you as they are
too much to bear and handle. Some baggage are ingrained so
deep that it is difficult for you to fix and it inadvertently puts a
strain on your relationship. It is mostly difficult to accept and
move on with people that mostly dwell on their baggage.


5. When they have hurt you too many times
In your mind, you know when you’ve had enough of the
emotional and sometimes physical hurt that you constantly get.
There’s no way a relationship can survive a relationship
bedevilled with too much hurt irrespective of how much love
existent therein. It does you no good to play the role of a martyr,
get out of the relationship because you deserve way better than
that.


6. When you’ve outgrown them
A lot of people can relate to a situation where they mature faster
than their partner in the relationship. This is mostly awkward
especially if it is the woman that it happens to. Unfortunately,
this is a relationship breaker if you always find your partner
throwing tantrums. It is evident that what you feel isn’t enough
if they can’t grow with you.


7. When you need more from him
If you find yourself in a scenario where you’ve been dating for a
while and they are still shy of commitment and you realise that
you need more from them than they are willing to give, it is
perhaps the right time to break up and move on with your life.
They might change after they realise that they have lost you or
that might be the end of the relationship, either ways, you’re
better off away from them while they make up their minds.


Well, the truth is love is a beautiful thing and as such it is
essential to always give your all in a relationship so as not to
look back in the future and have regrets. This does not however
mean you should tag along in a relationship that is not working.
Most times love is a strong enough foundation for any
relationship but at some other times just like the 7 Things
above, it isn’t enough and you should just get out of the
relationship.

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Well said

Bkd

when your spouse forgets Ur birthday date"

Number one is not applicable to Nigerians

Yet to meet a Nigerian who doesn't want kids

The main koko is if you guys share good freindship and a healthy wordlview of life