Let's not deceive ourselves.We can exchange secrets with our patners but that does not mean that there should not be some elements of secrecy in the relationship.

My partner is so transparent to me but no matter what I do, I still hunt her with what she told me previously. I know she did it out of love but there should be a limit to your past lives esp. But if there is any issue going on while you are together. the partner must know of it.

I must confess I love open mind in my relationship. Honesty and transparency.

Cant stress it enough some thing are meant to be kept secret. . . .

TOYOSI20:

can't stress it enough some thing are meant to be kept secret. . . .

Like what?

Ummm. . . .like things that dont really matter,. . . . . .

and things that guys arent able to stomach. . . . .

TOYOSI20:

Ummm. . . .like things that don't really matter,. . . . . .

and things that guys arent able to stomach. . . . .

1. How do you decide what matters and what doesn't?
2. How do you know what your man (my humble self) can't stomach?

Ras Pwn:

1. How do you decide what matters and what doesn't?
2. How do you know what your man (my humble self) can't stomach?

LOL!!!!

This can take all day, but I'm going to try and be real brief. . . .

Whatever it is that doesn't make the relationship better, is essentially not important. . . .

eg. . . .i used to have several girl friends in the past. . . .i used to be a player, reh, reh, rehh, !!!!

please keep that stuff to your self abeg

And secondly. . . . .i should be able to know what u can and can't stomach. . . 

it ain't rocket science, please don't ask me anymore personal questions, 

general questions yes. . . .I'd be glad to help those out there too. .  .

TOYOSI20:


general questions yes. . . .I'd be glad to help those out there too. .  .

You sound like you're helping a random dude, it's you and I here and helping me is helping us. Anyway, no more personal questions

Kuro lona jare, whats so funny too??,

The first part was for some random whoever. . . .

Just to end this: I'm concerned. Everything, good or bad, makes you who you are and makes you the person I fell in love with. On a lighter note, I see you stopped saying "Kuro lana."

Awwww. . . .seriously?? Sweetest thing i've heard in the last half an hour. . .

Well as to the lana thing. . . its the ara ilu oke in me i blame for that, and thanks to u

no more 'lana'(s)

TOYOSI20:

some things are meant to be kept secret. . . .

Say all, break all.
Many guys women can never in a life time bear it all, you just must keep some secrets.
Usually, secrects from waka waka !

sorry to deviate but wot do u think about this thing m keepin from my guy

well der some stuffs u must keep abi.m still thinking if i should let this one out. months ago when my bf and i wer having it really hard in our relationship n i tot it was almost over i did some playing around. well nothing serious not even as much as a serious kiss just some touch touch with this guy( who has always bin my friend right from uni asked me out and i never agreed). my bf knows about this guy who has always tried to get me and kinda hates his guts.

its over now and wer fine again. sometimes i feel guilty and want to just mention it. do u think ders any need for this?

when a man is very serious with u,i 'll advise women to speak d truth.what's 50% truth?that's foolhardy.He'll definitely find out in future.remember men make friends easily and they always talk about d women they slept with,infact one way or the other rumours will spread.i have experienced all these.

@ Topic.

If we tell, then there is nothing called SECRET any more. . . . .Secrets are not to be told to anyone.

Moreover, there are some stuff I cant tell my woman even when I marry her. . . . .
There are some stuffs Ive done and. . . . . . .

I cant tell her everything. . . .Period.

Let her find out if she can. . . . .then we take it up from there.

Secrets are noy meant to be told to ANYONE!!!