ahsekeena:
the fact that a lady agrees to date you doesn't automatically mean she doesn't fancy other guys, doesn't mean she is not gonna have "toasters" anymore, or that she won't find other guys attractive.




Ur lucky she tells u all these, she knows u trust her.





I'm in a good mood today,else I would have said something like "arrrrggh,this is what you get when kids fall in love!"

caslord:
I really appreciate your comment but why do you wanna end it with something provoking

ronald4lif:
Do you react jealously whenever she talks about her male admirers?. She might have realized you're a jealous type and she's acting that way to make you jealous and get you to appreciate her the more. It's not bad to be jealous but it's counter productive when you display it too much. And when a girl realize you're a jealous type she'll always employ different tactics to tell you about guys admiring her.

Tell her straight up that she shouldn't tell you about her admirers anymore although this would make her do it the more and could start uploading their pics on her social media profiles or alternatively whenever she talks about them engage her happily showing interest in the gist. Say things like yea he's cute, I like his dress sense etc and once she conceive that you don't give a hoot she'd stop talking about them. But it's very hard though.

ahsekeena:




Lol,I just like being mean. Sorry

caslord:
just pulling your legs though and thanks for your advice dear

ronald4lif:
Do you react jealously whenever she talks about her male admirers?. She might have realized you're a jealous type and she's acting that way to make you jealous and get you to appreciate her the more. It's not bad to be jealous but it's counter productive when you display it too much. And when a girl realize you're a jealous type she'll always employ different tactics to tell you about guys admiring her.

Tell her straight up that she shouldn't tell you about her admirers anymore although this would make her do it the more and could start uploading their pics on her social media profiles or alternatively whenever she talks about them engage her happily showing interest in the gist. Say things like yea he's cute, I like his dress sense etc and once she conceive that you don't give a hoot she'd stop talking about them. But it's very hard though.

MrsChima:


Good points. My husband always talking about his female coworkers and how they come to work looking like dolls. I don't get dazed about it because a man is going to do what a man will do. If I talk about my male coworkers or admirers...he gets an attitude and jealous. He even told one guy that I wasn't available and to seek business elsewhere. My issue is some men thinks that it is okay for them to do whatever but a woman can't do the same.

ronald4lif:


Hehe! Chima and double standards like myself. It seems it's a bloodline thing lol. It's okay for him to talk about his female colleagues but it isn't alright if you do likewise.

Most time when a partner start adulating an opposite sex and admirers it's targeted at making one jealous and see how they react. It's a mind game designed to evaluate individual's relevance in their partners life and once plummeted they would never be relentless in springing up more talks. The remedy is to comport oneself and behave as if you don't care, even if you do. I'm insusceptible to petit mind games.

MrsChima:


One day, we were at the airport on our way back to the States from Nigeria. I think we just finished sex before leaving so I was a bit bowlegged ANYWAYS we were waiting to board the plane and some African guys began talking to me. We talked for 20 minutes until Chimay jumped in and whisked me away. He scolded me for being to friendly and said it was my fault I am pretty. SMH. I asked why didn't you marry an ugly girl...he said Igbo men likes pretty girls with thick ikebe.

The guys tried to introduce themselves but Chima slapped their hands and growled a bit. Chima is my baby but he got issues.

ronald4lif:


Lol! He was just protecting his diamond, deal with it.

MrsChima:


I don't need a growling man protecting me! . He is also nosy! Haba!

"Where are you going?"
:"Are you going to eat?"
"Who are you trying to look sexy for?"

I said it. It's a geneological trait of we Anambarians and Igbos in general. We can be very inquisitive and caring when we're in love. Little wonder why females all over the world flock around us. Chima is representing us wella.

"Where are you going and are you going to eat" depicts concern and affectionate towards someone very special. A man who doesn't care wouldn't be perturbed, would they?.

There are times I'd just not want to display too much concern so as not to portray a wrong impression by asking similar questions especially as a bachelor. But for married couples it's different and they should be more receptive and open-minded and set no barriers in showing concern to each other.

You love such questions and empathic gestures init?. Admit it. Actually we all do.

ronald4lif:


I said it. It's a geneological trait of we Anambarians and Igbos in general. We can be very inquisitive and caring when we're in love. Little wonder why females all over the world flock around us. Chima is representing us wella.

"Where are you going and are you going to eat" depicts concern and affectionate towards someone very special. A man who doesn't care wouldn't be perturbed, would they?.

There are times I'd just not want to display too much concern so as not to portray a wrong impression by asking similar questions especially as a bachelor. But for married couples it's different and they should be more receptive and open-minded and set no barriers in showing concern to each other.

You love such questions and empathic gestures init?. Admit it. Actually we all do.

MrsChima:


(Rolling eyes at represent Igbos wella) Chima doesn't let a day by without saying he loves me and and I am a woman like I forget I am a woman.

Why do Chima shakes his third leg when he gets out of shower and grins at me? OK at tmi!

Why aren't you married and would you seek a Nigerian lady?

MrsChima:


(Rolling eyes at represent Igbos wella) Chima doesn't let a day by without saying he loves me and and I am a woman like I forget I am a woman.

Why do Chima shakes his third leg when he gets out of shower and grins at me? OK at tmi!

Why aren't you married and would you seek a Nigerian lady?

Why should he go a day without saying I love you?. Those three words are his daily obligation to you, by virtue of marital vows. And likewise. Once someone embark on an affair as committed as nuptials they 'must' say it as many times as possible. There are some days one just have to say it infinitely and rightly so too.

Come on. He's simply saying lollipop is ready for 'mouth' lashing by grinning at you after a warm shower. 'Big daddy' needs 'refurbishing'.

I'd prefer settling for a Nigerian but I'm open for other options as well. Can't say why I ain't committed yet. Prolly terrorized by responsibility and regulation of my freedom. My mates haven't started plying that route either. And some of the stories out there ain't propitious. It's a notch to you lots who have been able to weather the storm, notwithstanding the challenges.

ronald4lif:


Why should he go a day without saying I love you?. Those three words are his daily obligation to you, by virtue of marital vows. And likewise. Once someone embark on an affair as committed as nuptials they 'must' say it as many times as possible. There are some days one just have to say it infinitely and rightly so too.

Come on. He's simply saying lollipop is ready for 'mouth' lashing by grinning at you after a warm shower. 'Big daddy' needs 'refurbishing'.

I'd prefer settling for a Nigerian but I'm open for other options as well. Can't say why I ain't committed yet. Prolly terrorized by responsibility and regulation of my freedom. My mates haven't started plying that route either. And some of the stories out there ain't propitious. It's a notch to you lots who have been able to weather the storm, notwithstanding the challenges.

MrsChima:


In other worda...you don't want to be tied down to one toto? It is not common to hear an Igbos man to fear marriage. Both of our families are married and engaged.

Once you find a chick to your likings, you will feel good marrying her.

ronald4lif:


A lot do, just that they still end up taking the bold step after much reluctance, a necessary evil. I'm the next in line of my kinsfolk to take that bold step and I sure will soon. Just want to 'taste' varieties before confining myself to one toto. We only have one shot at life.

MrsChima:


That's what dating is abiut. You shouldn't sample every meat out there for it has its consequences but do you boo.

When I was dating I made sure I didn't give the goodies until I was in an exclusive relationship but of course Chima wanted to play house and I told him I don't shack with unmarried men that isn't legally my husband and of course months later we were married.

Well that's true but life itself is consequential and little things as trivial as sleeping could effectuate expiration of life. Sometimes one just can't resist toto, there's something about it. Dang!

Chima is unique if he settled and commit for an untested punnah. That's a no no for me and there's no way I'd bend my rule of sampling before nuptials. God himself knows that's never gonna fly where I am. For what?

ronald4lif:


Well that's true but life itself is consequential and little things as trivial as sleeping could effectuate expiration of life. Sometimes one just can't resist toto, there's something about it. Dang!

Chima is unique if he settled and commit for an untested punnah. That's a no no for me and there's no way I'd bend my rule of sampling before nuptials. God himself knows that's never gonna fly where I am. For what?

greenstar:


Talk of charcoal calling pot black...

And you are?

Slimbeth: