I wonder if there is anyone who has ever not worried about being boring—maybe only people so full of themselves that it never occurs to them that they could be anything but fascinating to those around them. Or maybe people who really are fascinating, and just don’t know it.

What we don’t need to wonder about is what makes people come across as boring. There is actually systematic research on that—not a lot, but enough to provide the first set of answers.

In the first set of studies, the researchers asked people to describe things “that other people do that make them seem boring to you.” Then they made a list of the 43 kinds of things mentioned most often, and asked several hundred more people to rate how boring they thought those behaviors were. In the end, they came up with nine categories of boring behavior.

Starting with the most boring, they are:

Negative egocentrism. The #1 most boring way of behaving was what the researchers described as “being negative and complaining, talking about one’s problems, displaying disinterest in others.”

Banality. “Talking about trivial or superficial things, being interested in only one topic, and repeating the same stories and jokes again and again.”

Low affectivity. Showing little enthusiasm, speaking in a monotone, engaging in very little eye contact, behaving in a very unexpressive way.

Tediousness. “Talking slowly, pausing a long time before responding, taking a long time to make one’s points, and dragging conversations on.”

Passivity. Having little to say, not having any opinions, being too predictable or too likely to try to conform with what everyone else is saying.

Self-preoccupation. Talking all about yourself.

Seriousness. Coming across as very serious, rarely smiling.

Boring ingratiation. “Trying to be funny or nice in order to impress other people.”

Distraction. Doing things that interfere with the conversation, getting sidetracked too easily, and engaging in too much small talk.

Here are a few of the ways they discovered that boring and interesting people behaved differently:

Interesting people disclose more of their thoughts and feelings than boring people do. (This is different from just talking about yourself all the time.)

Interesting people also contribute more information, not just emotions, to the conversation than boring people do.

Boring people use more “empty words” and say more things that don’t mean much—for example, saying “uh-huh” to agree with other people, but not much else.

Boring people also contribute less to the conversation overall than interesting people do.

Culled from http://blog.krackbid.com/2015/07/02/lifestyle-9-ways-boring-people-can-bore-you/

dantewest:
I wonder if there is anyone who has ever not worried about being boring—maybe only people so full of themselves that it never occurs to them that they could be anything but fascinating to those around them. Or maybe people who really are fascinating, and just don’t know it.

What we don’t need to wonder about is what makes people come across as boring. There is actually systematic research on that—not a lot, but enough to provide the first set of answers.

In the first set of studies, the researchers asked people to describe things “that other people do that make them seem boring to you.” Then they made a list of the 43 kinds of things mentioned most often, and asked several hundred more people to rate how boring they thought those behaviors were. In the end, they came up with nine categories of boring behavior.

Starting with the most boring, they are:

Negative egocentrism. The #1 most boring way of behaving was what the researchers described as “being negative and complaining, talking about one’s problems, displaying disinterest in others.”

Banality. “Talking about trivial or superficial things, being interested in only one topic, and repeating the same stories and jokes again and again.”

Low affectivity. Showing little enthusiasm, speaking in a monotone, engaging in very little eye contact, behaving in a very unexpressive way.

Tediousness. “Talking slowly, pausing a long time before responding, taking a long time to make one’s points, and dragging conversations on.”

Passivity. Having little to say, not having any opinions, being too predictable or too likely to try to conform with what everyone else is saying.

Self-preoccupation. Talking all about yourself.

Seriousness. Coming across as very serious, rarely smiling.

Boring ingratiation. “Trying to be funny or nice in order to impress other people.”

Distraction. Doing things that interfere with the conversation, getting sidetracked too easily, and engaging in too much small talk.

Here are a few of the ways they discovered that boring and interesting people behaved differently:

Interesting people disclose more of their thoughts and feelings than boring people do. (This is different from just talking about yourself all the time.)

Interesting people also contribute more information, not just emotions, to the conversation than boring people do.

Boring people use more “empty words” and say more things that don’t mean much—for example, saying “uh-huh” to agree with other people, but not much else.

Boring people also contribute less to the conversation overall than interesting people do.

Culled from http://blog.krackbid.com/2015/07/02/lifestyle-9-ways-boring-people-can-bore-you/

are you a victim

ELTON123:
are you a victim ;-\

Lol, before nko

Hi
How r u
Am fine
K!

I seriously hate Overly Serious People!!

Cutehector:
Hi
How r u
Am fine
K!

Lol..iv got this girl ehn..she chats like this. But call her and una go talk tire ...she doesn't know how to chat...

Nothing bores a guy more than a girl who chats without using smiley,hian!!!!

kunlesufyan:

Lol..iv got this girl ehn..she chats like this. But call her and una go talk tire ...she doesn't know how to chat...

she is even good.... Some u will call dem, dey won't even contribute anythn....

Cutehector:
she is even good.... Some u will call dem, dey won't even contribute anythn....

Hehe!!

kunlesufyan:
Nothing bores a guy more than a girl who chats without using smiley,hian!!!!

So you like gals who communicate with smileys....

Like...

Kunle: howdy ggrin?

ggrin:

Kunle: are you okay?

ggrin:

Kunle: alright bae....any gist for me?

ggrin: : D

Kunle: what the fvck!

I hate that number two like shit!

lanicky:




So you like gals who communicate with smileys....

Like...

Kunle: howdy ggrin?

ggrin:

Kunle: are you okay?

ggrin:

Kunle: alright bae....any gist for me?

ggrin: : D

Kunle: what the fvck!

Lol...is that how you'll chat with me if I add you ?

didnt u learn about something called a paragraph in school?

lanicky:



So you like gals who communicate with smileys....
Like...
Kunle: howdy ggrin?
ggrin:
Kunle: are you okay?
ggrin:
Kunle: alright bae....any gist for me?
ggrin: : D
Kunle: what the fvck!

---------------------> yabaleft straight

ggrin:
---------------------> yabaleft straight

Na....I don't want to join you there

ELTON123:
are you a victim

Yes o