Many of us today are living very confused lives. We live a life without purpose, vision, clarity or direction. We live a life of distraction, inconsistencies, complexities and frustration.
We are keen on making good success of our lives, but absolutely disorganised and chaotic in our approach to success.
After struggling mentally and psychologically to find answers and we can't, we let go of all the lofty dreams and high expectations and eventually settle for what we already have.
I'm sure left to many of us, we would want better houses, better cars, better clothing, better lifestyles and more money, if we know exactly how to acquire all these, we would indeed give it a shot, but we do not know how to go about acquiring all these without risking what we already have, hence we are scared
Many aren't making effort or venturing into greater endeavours due to uncertainties. They are not sure if their great plans would work or fail, they focus more on the realities of failure rather than the possibility and glory of success and they'd rather remain as they are than risk all they have.
Many hold on to jobs they really hate and don't enjoy simply to secure that monthly income. Many tolerate difficult work conditions; travelling many hours in the morning and evening through intense traffic just to retain their sad employments. They can't just imagine losing that employment; ah! for them it would be disastrous.
This remains their attitude and thinking because they don't understand the why's in their lives. They do not have good reasons for doing what they do in, and with their lives.
As mankind and individuals, we are daily faced with choices that we must make; some of these choices are hard choices with consequences, hence when we make our choices, we must know why and be convinced and fixated on our reasons for the choices we make.
Too many people are making choices today without giving much thought to these choices. Some make these choices because a friend made the same choice, some make the choice because it feels good, some make the choice because its trending, some make choices because it's easier and many settle for choices because it's the only option they believe they have.
When you don't have super reasons for the choices you make, you will eventually be fickle in running along with your choice and you'd not give it all it requires to deliver the goals intended at the end of the day.
When you're unstable with your choices, you would mishandle these choices and lose out at the end of the day.
Confusion in the lives many of us live today can be traced to choices we made flippantly. You didn't give much though or deep enough thought to it, you just made it and today it's tearing you apart and bringing you frustration and pain.
As individuals we make decisions about our jobs, businesses, careers, friendships, finances, religious and social associations, client and customer, our spouses, in-laws, relatives even our children. We make decisions about our appearance, our health, habits, lifestyles, purchases and investments; we make decisions about so very many subjects.
If however we do not maintain a concrete why; that is a firm reason for our choices, we would at the end be frustrated, confused and probably filled with regret.
If you don't know why you chose what you've chosen, you cannot identify what is wrong when anything goes wrong, and when you can't tell exactly what is wrong, you definitely can't know how to fix it - that is getting it back on track simply because you don't even remember where and what the real track is.
Many people today don't have strong reasons for their employments. Many just seek employment for income sakes. When they now get employed and discover that salary cannot solve their financial problems; as the more they earn the more they spend, they then become disappointed and frustrated. They don't do their jobs passionately anymore and they're mad at their bosses. This is because they assumed salary was the solution to financial crisis, they did not know discipline and financial literacy are the keys to financial success. Their reason for seeking employment was a wrong reason, hence the frustration and disappointment at the end of the day.
Many ladies are married today simply because they got pregnant for a man they would naturally not want to marry. Many men are married also because they impregnated a girl they just wanted to date not marry, but they had to marry since a baby was coming.
Their reason for ending up as a couple is in the first place misplaced, hence there is a tendency they would have very troubled marriage, as both of them would see gaps and find faults with each other.
The why for their getting married is not the reason for marriage; so they'll end up as parents to their children but hardly see themselves as the right husband or wife for themselves. The mistakes and weaknesses in each of their lives would be looked upon with dismay and regret; each party believing if they had married who they really wanted, these gaps wouldn't be there.
When the reason for a choice or decision is not concrete or sensible enough, you would eventually feel disappointed, discouraged and down cast. You will feel used, abused and misused, you'd become upset and sensitive and you would begin to develop a victim mentality – you'd feel as if the whole world is against you.
This is because your lack of understanding of your life due to flippant choices made in time past is rendering you helpless and your life is out of your control; you're not in charge anymore, you have become a victim, in fact a tool of your own life.
Too many people today are angry because their lives are out of control, hence they hold those they feel are now in charge of their lives responsible for all that happens to them. They have become experts in blame games, finger pointing and criticism.
Their parents are at fault, their rich uncle is at fault, the government is at fault, their spouses are at fault, their employer is at fault, the devil is at fault, somebody is always at fault when things don't go well; it's never their own fault, its someone else that is always responsible. A sure mark of loss of control.
Ladies and gentlemen, it's time to put ‘the whys' behind ‘the what's' in your lives. It's time you define clearly the reason and objectives for everything in your life. This is the first line of action in regaining control of your life.
Why are you in that employment, why are you in that business, why are you married to that spouse, why are you living where you're living, why do you belong to that religious group or denomination, why are you learning that skill, why are you seeking that employment, why are you seeking that post graduate admission?
You must have good reasons and commit them to memory and not swerve away from your reasons and the objectives.
For example all my years in paid employment, I was more interested in learning than salary or promotion. I had my future all planned out so I was seeking relevant knowledge and know how, I wasn't competing for promotion or desperate for relevance; all I wanted was knowledge.
What you want would determine what matters to you and what gets to you. When you know what you want and you're getting what you want, you would be satisfied. Satisfaction comes from knowing why. You would know when to move, how to move and the move to make. You would know when to stop or change, you will be in control when you define, understand and stand by your whys for doing all you do.
Knowing the whys in your life would restore control to you and you would begin to give your life its true meaning once again, dear friend, know the whys in your life.

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you really enjoying nairaland this days!

Am coming let me read

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Why me oh why me

Why why why

Why o why why


Chorus

Wen I was rich
Why o why

I used to flex all d ladies
Why o why

And parry all nyt
Why o why

Until I had hiv
Why o why

And dey all ran away
Why o why


Why, o why, why ooo oo why!

Midehi:
you really enjoying nairaland this days!

Who is nt? Nairaland is a fun place to be.



I'm sure u r enjoying it too.

naijaboiy:
The poster below me has something to say.

looooooool...

Long range novel

Most peeps who discover threir purpose re plain lucky.

Okobaba1:
Most peeps who discover threir purpose re plain lucky.

Discovering ur purpose is no luck. Its a matter of making deliberatE effort to impact ur world. U have to work towards it.

Chai!! Wwwwwwwwwwhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhyyyyyyyyyyyyy

what bout u op......? y d longggggg post yyyyyyyyy..... yyyyyyy tahhh!!

Op learn to summarize and leave the source for more insight

All good,

Noted

Long Post. I will read later

TheYoungRebel:
Atleast a sensible thread which I wasn't expecting from the op.

absolutely

The poster below me didn't read this.

Cutehector:
Why me oh why me
Why why why
Why o why why

Chorus
Wen I was rich Why o why
I used to flex all d ladies Why o why
And parry all nyt Why o why
Until I had hiv Why o why
And dey all ran away Why o why

Why, o why, why ooo oo why!

hey bro can I jump on the remix?

BANGERLEE1:
hey bro can I jump on the remix?

lol yeah

This girl is xoxo jobless lately..even tho u still preparing 4 jamb... Don't u have tutorials 2 go for? Na handsome dude post ur pic next 1 one ugly girls! Nice post cos I read it.

Cutehector:
lol yeah

you go 1st then I will come in..

Cutehector:
Why me oh why me

Why why why

Why o why why


Chorus

Wen I was rich
Why o why

I used to flex all d ladies
Why o why

And parry all nyt
Why o why

Until I had hiv
Why o why

And dey all ran away
Why o why


Why, o why, why ooo oo why!

Why o why.

This girl is xo lame

Why o why


Cutehector owns the song and I jump on it to show love

Unlike some crazy bitches writing craps, I'm thr 4 u my nigga 1hundred grams


Why o why

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Some girls are xo boring

Why o why

Writing this long bullshit

Why o why.


She thought I was reading


Why o why

But seriously I was singing

Why o why

Now am through
Why o why

CuteHector shey make I read am
Why o why

The only thing positive abou her is her HIV status


Why o why.

i no read am but i'll guess it was sensible.
But abeg, STOP BORING US WITH TOO MUCH STORIES.
#MarathonThread

BANGERLEE1:
Why o why.
This girl is xo lame
Why o why

Cutehector owns the song and I jump on it to show love
Unlike some crazy bitches writing craps, I'm thr 4 u my nigga 1hundred grams

Why o why
. Some girls are xo boring
Why o why
Writing this long bullshit
Why o why.

She thought I was reading

Why o why
But seriously I was singing
Why o why
Now am through Why o why
CuteHector shey make I read am Why o why
The only thing positive abou her is her HIV status

Why o why.

These guys tho.

IamLEGEND1:



These guys tho.

wetin

Cutehector:
wetin

una dey sing for the guy/girl thread.
#BhetWhy?

IamLEGEND1:


una dey sing for the guy/girl thread.

#BhetWhy?

na derailing tinz na

Cutehector:
na derailing tinz na

Derailing!!!!!!!
and u no invite me?
#YouAreHeartless.
[Rick Ross] Audemar on my wrist Diamond, look like they glowing 50 stacks, all singles, I make it look like its snowing Black unmarked cars, gotta peep how they playin' Treat 'em like jack boys, catch 'em slippin' then slay 'em Lord forgive me for my sins, that's my confessions if they put me in this benz I got possession of a federal offence I'm talking pressure in my criminal intent So wear ya vest's and I'm still gon' stunt Like it ain't no tomorrow, Bleep ya house note nigga Blow that bitćh on a bottle The Ferrari just a front, got the Lambo in the back Tell you "we the best forever" DJ Khaled handle that.
[T-pain - chorus]

Welcome to my hood Everybody know everybody And if I got it everybody got it Welcome to my hood Look at all these old school Chevy's 24's so you know we roll heavy Welcome to my hood They outside playing hopscotch And every know this is the hot spot Welcome to my hood Them boys will put you down on your knees (Woop, woop) That's the sound of the police In my hood