baby4u2:
this is a faceless forum. My status should not determine your answer.

I just sent you a PM.

Chizoba36:


2. Make sure you in laws like and accept you. In African marriages you marry the whole family! My marriage was destroyed 50% by the fact that my in laws hated me even before they met me because of where I am from! I should have walked away at that point because they wanted my husband to marry someone else but I naively thought our love could conquer all! How wrong was I

this is so true! But sadly a lot of people ignore this part..

Jorussia:
I just sent you a PM.

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baby4u2:
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i have sent you another one.

Dyt:


Well
Is she supposed go into the relationship without that?
She has responsibilities
Of what use is it actually when he can't love me and fens for me?



One truth about most single mums is fear of getting married again
Most not all
Trust me there are suitors right and left that don't even mind but its really tough on some even when they feel the mushy feelings and very comfortable

Yes I know of this young vibrant hardworking single mum with a very cool job and earning, with men I mean well to do men that all she does need do is accept one and she's married again
But truth is, does she really want it?
Yes she says sometimes she does, she wants the home, the man, her heart is pure, she's got it all but there's this FEAR somewhere she can't trace.
Well shiit happens

Its beyond what we see and feel
Good luck to all the pretty single mums out there and make the right choice

Hmm...you still dey for Nairaland?
I disagree with the fear factor. You have to understand that not all single mothers were married before. Some got pregnant out of wedlock.
Some men see this women as burdens or 'transferred problems', so they hardly take them serious.
Very few do, and sometimes they may not be the favourites.
So fear is just the secondary aspect, availability of good men or suitors is the main reason for their loneliness.
The fear only comes when there's a serious relationship.

cantell:

Hmm...you still dey for Nairaland?
I disagree with the fear factor. You have to understand that not all single mothers were married before. Some got pregnant out of wedlock.
Some men see this women as burdens or 'transferred problems', so they hardly take them serious.
Very few do, and sometimes they may not be the favourites.
So fear is just the secondary aspect, availability of good men or suitors is the main reason for their loneliness.
The fear only comes when there's a serious relationship.

I dey ooo
Well it all boils down to the kind of human
Its hard to find good souls these days

Are u a good soul

Dyt:



I dey ooo
Well it all boils down to the kind of human
Its hard to find good souls these days

Dyt:


I dey ooo Well it all boils down to the kind of human Its hard to find good souls these days

Speaking from experience? Weldone.

Obodo999:


If the woman was a good wife, her husband would not had cheaterd on her.

not true,a cheat will always be a cheat even if the woman is an angel.

pickabeau1:
Are u a good soul

You might wanna find out

cantell:

Speaking from experience?
Weldone.

Well
What can I say
We all have experienced diff phases
Some men are just crazy you know

Dyt:


You might wanna find out

interesting...

how is family
you don't update your diary again...

pickabeau1:


interesting...

how is family
you don't update your diary again...

We are doing great

Diary?
Hehehehe
I vex deleted cos I was getting too much attention
You should know it's not easy to be hawt na

Dyt:



We are doing great

Diary?
Hehehehe
I vex deleted cos I was getting too much attention
You should know it's not easy to be hawt na

ehya

pickabeau1:


ehya

Its not pathetic

Dyt:



We are doing great

Diary?
Hehehehe
I vex deleted cos I was getting too much attention
You should know it's not easy to be hawt na

Picture or we......

bellong:


Picture or we......

Right here

Dyt:


Right here

Ojoro... You are not a mongoloid.

Dyt:


Its not pathetic

OK..no p

its a decision I'm sure u made in good faith

enjoyed the tales of mama dyt..

bellong:


Ojoro... You are not a mongoloid.

Look beyond the pic
Hehehehehe
I am too hawt the whole of here can't contain the smoke


Pickabeau1 stop lurking around
I ain't interested

baby4u2:
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Hi,how are you doing? I haven't been able to sign in to my e-mail since Thursday last week,that's why i haven't informed you,how i come walka concerning the book when you say make i get.Do you an account on any of these social media platforms ( Facebook, Skype ,and viber)

Jorussia:
Hi,how are you doing? I haven't been able to sign in to my e-mail since Thursday last week,that's why i haven't informed you,how i come walka concerning the book when you say make i get.Do you an account on any of these social media platforms ( Facebook, Skype ,and viber)

Facebook deactivated, Skype can't remember password, viber I no get, what's app abi, I don't hv too.

Dyt:


I am glad you said you are not matured enough

story...story....you want to eat you cake and have it abi
...single mother looking for fresh blood in this era of young ladies every where....my dear we have to be realistic......no make love movies deceive you...
which young guy will want to marry a lady with children..nt a child oh.....to be sincere if the O.P IS really searching fr love which is good cuz @ 35 she is still very much young and i dnt xpect her to stay alone..life is to precious to spend it alone..it should be in a matured man 40 nd above or a single dad like her.....if she goes for any guy below 35..it wont last oh..forget maturity..it wont last unless youre willing to share

Kimoni:


Chizoba, the bolded is why single men get discouraged when it comes to courting single mothers. They guy was not part of your decision to have a child outside wedlock, so why do you want to make it a condition for you to love and settle down with him? That's very selfish in my opinion.

If you choose a good man in the first place, he will naturally be civil towards ur child and loving ur child as his own would be an added bonus and it's something that you would expect yo happen over time and not be a precondition for you to love or date him. That's why people will always end up with pretenders because they set unrealistic goals for their partners.

Looking out for a man that will shoulder your responsibilities as well as that of your child is the biggest scam ever. I would run far from any woman that tells me so. See, I am up for a man taking care of his wife and family 100% but when you start forcing the responsibilities of your love child on him, then, maybe, you are not looking for love but a maga. If a man will take such responsibility, it should come natural to him just like loving the child should too and not because you imposed it on him.

And guess what, men are usually not bothered about this stuff, once they love the mother, they find it easy to love and treat all the kids alike. Women are usually the one who discriminate against their husband's love children or step children. The most important thing for you is to attract a good man and the goodness in him will be transferred to your child but making this as a condition for love reveals you are the selfish one in your relationships. Pls don't do that.

All the best as you get a great guy!

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best advice so far...OP should take note of the last paragraph