Dyt:


Hehehehe
Thanchu
At least I am not coming to you ehn


And even if I do
You will love me so much that you will give me everything before I ask
Ms charmer
Pickabeau1
Muchechecheche

I believe you

pickabeau1:

I believe you

Awwwww
Iyaf charmed him so already

Chizoba36:


How very reductionist of you! So because I am single mother I don't deserve a second chance at love wow!

Naa babe, that wasn't intended to belittle your chance at love. I was just suggesting that you shld start out slow. From friendship to beyond friendship. You get me sugar?

Dyt:



Awwwww
Iyaf charmed him so already

OK o

All I see is a proud,arrogant and gold digging woman,who would,nt wanna take blame for anything,


Men should run from this op

That's because most of them are into single gals.
For now just focus on yourself, your children, your career and friends. Love will come at some point.

Chizoba36:
@ayando absolutely! I have just not been lucky to meet any. Although I must confess I would prefer a single dad who lived with his child / children. It's not always pleasant dealing with baby mama's especially when she is still interested in the guy!

Chizoba36:
At the age of 36, as a single parent I have to wonder if this is the end of it for me........... I wonder if it is too late to find love........
Any single ladies in the house what are your thoughts? I am absolutely devoted to my children, but I am so lonely.......
Have you given up on love completely? Let's chat

You'd have to be thread carefully..men these days are so unpredictable.

Most single moms are selfish..."Any man dat love me must accept my child"

Unconditional love is of God not man.

Goodluck in ur search for love.

i just escaped from one. i nearly paid sch fees for a child dat aint mine wen her baby father is still breathing. single mother are not for guys below 35. except for fvck sake

Safari29:
i just escaped from one. i nearly paid sch fees for a child dat aint mine wen her baby father is still breathing. single mother are not for guys below 35. except for fvck sake

I am glad you said you are not matured enough

parrygee:
Most single moms are selfish..."Any man dat love me must accept my child"

Unconditional love is of God not man.

Goodluck in ur search for love.

So you don't wanna accept the child? But you claim to love her?
Men of these days are more terrible than I thought
Its your type that will eventually defile if its a girl.

kevinberry:
All I see is a proud,arrogant and gold digging woman,who would,nt wanna take blame for anything,

Men should run from this op

Proud and arrogant you say?
You will be surprised how men are flocking around her already
I won't be surprised if you have a bit of interest too.
Do you know her?
Why judging?

Let me not call you anuofia

Cutehector:
awwh..... What do u advice to young girls out dr who are so keen on gettn married early.

How early is early?

Some married at 18 and are still going strong.

bukatyne:


How early is early?

Some married at 18 and are still going strong.

only a handfew of them

Cutehector:
Picture of u looking for love

Guy please grow up!

I don't have any problem about getting marry to a single mum,it depends on the circumstances that made her a single mum.I will never consider a single mum who left her legally married husband,either through divorce or any other similar means.I can only consider a single mum,who is a widow, or have a child out of wedlock.No decent man will ever consider marrying a divorcee. Op,i am not judging you,but i believe if you share what made you to separate from your husband, you may be at fault.

Jorussia:
I don't have any problem about getting marry to a single mum,it depends on the circumstances that made her a single mum.I will never consider a single mum who left her legally married husband,either through divorce or any other similar means.I can only consider a single mum,who is a widow, or have a child out of wedlock. No decent man will ever consider marrying a divorcee. Op,i am not judging you,but i believe if you share what made you to separate from your husband, you may be at fault.

Really? And why is that?

Chizoba36:
@dyt
you are so right about the FEAR! It is real. I think there are times that perhaps it's hard to trust your own judgement and so you shy away from committing again!.....

The fear is choosing someone that won't be a good fit for child / children . I think because of this fear most single parents remain single. Most choose to live for the children

Chizoba, the bolded is why single men get discouraged when it comes to courting single mothers. They guy was not part of your decision to have a child outside wedlock, so why do you want to make it a condition for you to love and settle down with him? That's very selfish in my opinion.

If you choose a good man in the first place, he will naturally be civil towards ur child and loving ur child as his own would be an added bonus and it's something that you would expect yo happen over time and not be a precondition for you to love or date him. That's why people will always end up with pretenders because they set unrealistic goals for their partners.

Looking out for a man that will shoulder your responsibilities as well as that of your child is the biggest scam ever. I would run far from any woman that tells me so. See, I am up for a man taking care of his wife and family 100% but when you start forcing the responsibilities of your love child on him, then, maybe, you are not looking for love but a maga. If a man will take such responsibility, it should come natural to him just like loving the child should too and not because you imposed it on him.

And guess what, men are usually not bothered about this stuff, once they love the mother, they find it easy to love and treat all the kids alike. Women are usually the one who discriminate against their husband's love children or step children. The most important thing for you is to attract a good man and the goodness in him will be transferred to your child but making this as a condition for love reveals you are the selfish one in your relationships. Pls don't do that.

All the best as you get a great guy!

pickabeau1:
dinachi.. you may be onto something though im no sure about this particular case

But I met a single mom with a very good job recently.. guess what she said

W asked about settling down as she is not short of suitors..

If a man cannot take care of my bills,.. what good is he?

I nearly came for you when I saw this comment, I didn't realize "my bills" included "other bills" mtcheeeeewww

Thanks God I read further

Kimoni,

50 cups of "pami" for you...

The lady in her subsequent posts cleared the air about providing for her child. I guess her fear is not about provision but willingness and suitability of the guy to be a father to her child, not necessarily monetary but instilling moral values.. (don't mind my grammar).

Your post is spot on for ladies in situation you described.

bellong:
Kimoni,

50 cups of "pami" for you...

The lady in her subsequent posts cleared the air about providing for her child. I guess her fear is not about provision but willingness and suitability of the guy to be a father to her child, not necessarily monetary but instilling moral values.. (don't mind my grammar).

Your post is spot on for ladies in situation you described.

Bros eeeee, pls add catfish pepper soup to take wash the thing down

I saw where she was saying Dyt was spot on and Dyt and Pickabeau's discussion was centered on this financial aspect. So I added that as a second paragraph just in case she was of this same school of thought.

I wasnt even planning to make any comment this early momo, my goal this month is to meet your very strict deadline oo

**off to the library**

Kimoni:


Bros eeeee, pls add catfish pepper soup to take wash the thing down

I saw where she was saying Dyt was spot on and Dyt and Pickabeau's discussion was centered on this financial aspect. So I added that as a second paragraph just in case she was of this same school of thought.

I wasnt even planning to make any comment this early momo, my goal this month is to meet your very strict deadline oo

**off to the library**

Point and kill is sure, the pami na the bonus..

Ok,, I get your point..

Dyt:

I am glad you said you are not matured enough

Yes Thanku, I Refuse To Be Miserable

Safari29:
i just escaped from one. i nearly paid sch fees for a child dat aint mine wen her baby father is still breathing. single mother are not for guys below 35. except for fvck sake

WORD!

Jorussia:
No decent man will ever consider marrying a divorcee.

Why. Let me give an example. A woman was cheated on, her husband left her for another woman, hence a divorce. So she is not a candidate for a decent man huh?

So I ask again why?

Kimoni:


I nearly came for you when I saw this comment, I didn't realize "my bills" included "other bills" mtcheeeeewww

Thanks God I read further

Calm down before u attack

bellong:
Kimoni,
50 cups of "pami" for you...
The lady in her subsequent posts cleared the air about providing for her child. I guess her fear is not about provision but willingness and suitability of the guy to be a father to her child, not necessarily monetary but instilling moral values.. (don't mind my grammar).
Your post is spot on for ladies in situation you described.

Generally men will want consistency in discipline for all kids in the house
Its women that will be discriminating among kids

baby4u2:


Why. Let me give an example. A woman was cheated on, her husband left her for another woman, hence a divorce. So she is not a candidate for a decent man huh?

So I ask again why?

please, before i respond to your question, Are you a divorcee? Your response will determine how i will answer your question.

Strength lies in our differences and not similarities..... Stephen .R. Covey

baby4u2:


Why. Let me give an example. A woman was cheated on, her husband left her for another woman, hence a divorce. So she is not a candidate for a decent man huh?

So I ask again why?

If the woman was a good wife, her husband would not had cheaterd on her.

Jorussia:
please, before i respond to your question, Are you a divorcee? Your response will determine how i will answer your question.

this is a faceless forum. My status should not determine your answer.

Obodo999:


If the woman was a good wife, her husband would not had cheaterd on her.

sir or ma that's a false statement.

baby4u2:
sir or ma that's a false statement.

women sha. As if they can as a single lady with no issues marry a man who is a divorcee
Why do women always wanting it go there way?