Moonstone:

I was going to say that too  

lol, I am so confused.

Moonstone:

but what could he be hiding to spare my feelings?
That he cheated on me with some girl? If I find that out, i will raise hell with him.
That he lied about something before we started dating? I will kill him.
I would rather a man be a man and step up. If you're going to do something wrong like getting drunk and waking up on some other girl, you might as well be a man and bear the consequences. If he was scared of losing me, he would tell me before I find out because NOTHING is hidden on this earth. Somehow, lies come back to haunt you most times.

I'm in no way advocating for lies, but there is a chance if he told you something as difficult as that at that time, you might have blown it out of proportion.

~Sauron~:

I only use ma personal GP.
He knows me more than i know meself so doctor out-of-town is a no-no.

hahaha Interesting.

~Sauron~:

DaPhoenix, confess now. . . . .do u have any kurukere ailment??

I don't know what that is but if I do have it, you must have given it to me.

doyin13:

hehehe. . .he knows you more than you know yourself.

He must be an exorcist.

Shut up, doyin23.
How was your trip to Naija??
I saw you pushing your ghana-must-go at Heathrow some weeks ago.

DaPhoenix:

I don't know what that is but if I do have it, you must have given it to me.

Kurukere = hidden.
Given it to you?? I am squeaky clean, abeg.

~Sauron~:

Shut up, doyin23.
How was your trip to Naija??
I saw you pushing your ghana-must-go at Heathrow some weeks ago.

You saw the wrong persin jo.

stowaway to come. . . .stowaway to go.

immigration is tighter now though. i am currently at Dover.

I shall definitely be voting for Blair next time

DaPhoenix:

lol, I am so confused.

I'm in no way advocating for lies, but there is a chance if he told you something as difficult at that time, you might have blown it out of proportion

Then what are you advocating for? You wanna hear the truth when your 4th kid is in college?
Honesty is important in relationships and until you know how to put that in your relationship, you will have problems if you find out.
When I get pissed at a guy's action, I actually take time out to fume all I want before saying stuff or breaking up with him.

@ TOPIC

Lies are quite different from withholding important information, if u find urself omitting something so as not to hurt ur partners feelings,. . . .

how then is that considered a lie?? , it’s a likkle deceptive though, but wouldn’t call it an outright lie!!!

All in all, with love both parties should be none-judgmental and refrain from pointing accusing fingers unnecessarily!!,. . . .

it doesn’t help matters, you are therefore OBLIGATED to tell the truth, cos for how long can u “hide” the so called mystery??

Esp. if u are asked directly about information, U must speak the truth!!

It depends on the face of the person u are lying to. . . .

some people's faces just elicit lies from their partners. their visage is in perpetual anticipation of war.

but if u have a woman with an angelic face. . . . .truth be told, I go still lie.

doyin13:

You saw the wrong persin jo.

stowaway to come. . . .stowaway to go.

immigration is tighter now though. i am currently at Dover.

I shall definitely be voting for Blair next time  

I saw your pentagon-shaped head.
U were on tees n Jeans.
Blair?? Try Mag Thatcher!!!

Moonstone:

Then what are you advocating for? You wanna hear the truth when your 4th kid is in college?
Honesty is important in relationships and until you know how to put that in your relationship, you will have problems if you find out.
When I get pissed at a guy's action, I actually take time out to fume all I want before saying stuff or breaking up with him.

While that is so true, certain situations need truth and others are better without. For example, you go to the club alone and because of the music you missed a call from your man. The next day, he asks what happened last night . . . Oh I was watching a movie downstairs and left my phone under my pillow in my bed upstairs.

~Sauron~:

Kurukere = hidden.
Given it to you?? I am squeaky clean, abeg.

Nothing's hidden, I'm still a virgin.

DaPhoenix:

Nothing's hidden, I'm still a virgin.

And Doyin13 is a Caucasian.

DaPhoenix:

While that is so true, certain situations need truth and others are better without. For example, you go to the club alone and because of the music you missed a call from your man. The next day, he asks what happened last night . . . Oh I was watching a movie downstairs and left my phone under my pillow in my bed upstairs.

Lmao . . . . . . classic
Im sure every1 have said something similar to this
These are called white lies

~Sauron~:

And Doyin13 is a Caucasian.

He is

tope2000:


Lmao . . . . . . classic
Im sure every1 have said something similar to this
These are called white lies

lol

@TOYOSI

Some women would rather hear the deceptive PART of the truth rather than the truth itself.

It's called an Equivocation. A statement that is not literally false but that cleverly avoids an unpleasant truth.

True, leaving a lil truth out of something is quite different from a lie. But at the same time, they're the same.

Truth or silence. But , rem you said we can't tell our spouse everything.

DaPhoenix:

He is

With his black ass??
If he sits on a white sheet it would turn dark brown.
Thatz how black Doyin13 is.

DaPhoenix:

While that is so true, certain situations need truth and others are better without. For example, you go to the club alone and because of the music you missed a call from your man. The next day, he asks what happened last night . . . Oh I was watching a movie downstairs and left my phone under my pillow in my bed upstairs.

Nothing's hidden, I'm still a virgin.

I know some need truth. But lying is lying. . . by omission or deed.
When I go clubbing, I will tell my man. He needs to be able to understand that I am not going to get a man cos I'm content with him.
If such a little as clubbing can disrupt your relationship, I think you should think twice about that relationship.

~Sauron~:

With his black ass??
If he sits on a white sheet it would turn dark brown.
Thatz how black Doyin13 is.

The politically correct term is brown skin you doofus. .

I will have you know India Arie dedicated that her song ''Brown Skin'' to me

doyin13:

The politically correct term is brown skin you doofus. .

I am not in politics section, u cunt!!!

I will have you know India Arie dedicated that her song ''Brown Skin'' to me

Brown skin me ass.
I still dunno how you got past immigration officers.
They shoulda sent ur ass back to Okokomaiko.

HeatFusion:

@TOYOSI

Some women would rather hear the deceptive PART of the truth rather than the truth itself.

It's called an Equivocation. A statement that is not literally false but that cleverly avoids an unpleasant truth.

True, leaving a lil truth out of something is quite different from a lie. But at the same time, they're the same.

Truth or silence. But , rem you said we can't tell our spouse everything.

I hear u dear, I think we women can handle these kinds of situations just a little better,. . . .

Esp. if it comes to breaking shocking information to a woman, (a wife to be precise), u have to be considerate, . . . .

I think its imperative to weigh the pros and cons of the whole thing, like can u get away wid not mentioning it at all??

What you hope to accomplish by doing so??

Is there an ulterior motive behind the whole thing, or does it help to make the relationship stronger??

And other pressing questions along that line, timing is also important, Yeah, I still stand by that dear, but not in a malicious way oo!!

doyin13:

The politically correct term is brown skin you doofus. .

I will have you know India Arie dedicated that her song ''Brown Skin'' to me  

You listen to India.Arie too?? She is amazing. I love her new album.

Moonstone:

I know some need truth. But lying is lying. . . by omission or deed.
When I go clubbing, I will tell my man. He needs to be able to understand that I am not going to get a man cos I'm content with him.
If such a little as clubbing can disrupt your relationship, I think you should think twice about that relationship.

I feel you, really. I think basically don't expect from others what you can't give to them yourself. If you can't be faithful, don't have hopes for your partner to be faithful. If you are the faithful type, set high standards for yourself in terms of what you'll stand for in your partner.

~Sauron~:

With his black ass??
If he sits on a white sheet it would turn dark brown.
Thatz how black Doyin13 is.

lol I've seen him and he is handsome.

Moonstone:

I know some need truth. But lying is lying. . . by omission or deed.
When I go clubbing, I will tell my man. He needs to be able to understand that I am not going to get a man cos I'm content with him.
If such a little as clubbing can disrupt your relationship, I think you should think twice about that relationship.

I can imagine you running after your man with a broomstick for telling you of the extra 5 pounds u gained

~Sauron~:

I am not in politics section, u cunt!!!

Brown skin me ass.
I still dunno how you got past immigration officers.
They shoulda sent ur ass back to Okokomaiko.

hehehehe. . .only after they send u back to Ebute Metta.

And you need to stop buying copies of that bloody song.

DaPhoenix:

lol I've seen him and he is handsome.

tell him dear.

Jackal. . .see yaself. Besides Dayokanu, no one has called u handsome on this forum

DaPhoenix:

lol I've seen him and he is handsome.

doyin is handsome. . . . u need goggles
he dey try sha

tope2000:

doyin is handsome. . . . u need goggles
he dey try sha

Look at you. . .Ego ta mo bus.

doyin13:

Look at you. . .Ego ta mo bus.

lmao. . . . . . there is nothing ego abt me
dont mistake me for victoria beckham

DaPhoenix:

lol I've seen him and he is handsome.

Smeagol is also hot!!!

doyin13:

hehehehe. . .only after they send u back to Ebute Metta.
And you need to stop buying copies of that bloody song.

Can't stand Banky W
He had to be the most retarded Arrow this century.
tell him dear.

Jackal. . .see yaself. Besides Dayokanu, no one has called u handsome on this forum  

Asides Tumfulu n Ennyluv, no one even sees you as average.
U make OBJ look like Brad Pitt.

tope2000:

doyin is handsome. . . . u need goggles
he dey try sha

She needs a magnifying glass.

HeatFusion:

I can imagine you running after your man with a broomstick for telling you of the extra 5 pounds u gained

I would not do that at all! I'll lose the weight but first I would only remind him of how his shirts are little too snug on his tummy area these days.  

DaPhoenix:

I feel you, really. I think basically don't expect from others what you can't give to them yourself. If you can't be faithful, don't have hopes for your partner to be faithful. If you are the faithful type, set high standards for yourself in terms of what you'll stand for in your partner.

Exactly! You need to know the kind of guy you're dating and you need to be open with him.
I know what I can stand in a man and sadly, I sometimes lower my standards and it's gotten me absolute crap so now I'm sticking to my standards and all. If you can take a man cheating, go for that. . . if not, tell him there's no room for that.

TOYOSI20:

I hear u dear, I think we women can handle these kinds of situations just a little better,. . . .

Esp. if it comes to breaking shocking information to a woman, (a wife to be precise), u have to be considerate, . . . .

I think its imperative to weigh the pros and cons of the whole thing, like can u get away wid not mentioning it at all??

What you hope to accomplish by doing so??

Is there an ulterior motive behind the whole thing, or does it help to make the relationship stronger??

And other pressing questions along that line, timing is also important, Yeah, I still stand by that dear, but not in a malicious way oo!!

LOL, dnt get me wrong.

I'm not into the deceptive part. But I have to admit myself, there are some things I'd rather not want to hear.

He can't get away with the important things. . . . you know what they say "Anything that happens in the dark comes to light".

Like take dayokanu for an example. The dude likes u, but did he mention to you of his wives he left in the village?

He avoids telling you because he knows it'll hurt yor feelings.

Now take me for an example. I won't lie, sometimes I tell half truth in order to avoid complications and trouble But it's still the truth.

Does it strengthen any relationship? I don't see how

tope2000:

doyin is handsome. . . . u need goggles
he dey try sha

lol Gurl, have you seen his body?

I will stop here.

~Sauron~:

Smeagol is also hot!!!

There should be some secrets abeg, when your partner knows EVERYTHING, that's just way too boring  

Sometimes and yeah i mean sometimes what a nigga don't know won't hurt him same goes for women too the only thing you do is hope and pray your partner never gets to find out,its not the best approach but sometimes its the only approach

DaPhoenix:

lol Gurl, have you seen his body?

I will stop here.

he does have a tight body. . . . . . only dat i agree with
but i will go for stephen n treetop body all day long

Moonstone:

I would not do that at all! I'll lose the weight but first I would only remind him of how his shirts are little too snug on his tummy area these days.   :

rotflmao
do you know how hard it is to lose weight?
Mehn
Best tell him to get used to it

ibkaye:

There should be some secrets abeg, when your partner knows EVERYTHING, that's just way too boring  

exactly.

A lil fight here and there keeps it stronger too

A-40:

[b]Sometimes and yeah i mean sometimes what a nigga don't know won't hurt him same goes for women [/b]too the only thing you do is hope and pray your partner never gets to find out,its not the best approach but sometimes its the only approach

chei. . . see me see trouble oo

Adamu. . .because like play like play u see yaself for Wyoming, u think say u can talk like gangster.

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