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Marriage Is A Tough Institution. Let’s Stop Sugar Coating It! by Nobody: 9:39pm On Jul 18, 2015 |
It
is also a life-time institution. Let’s stop
making it look like a
nine-day wonder. The more time we
spend preparing our children for the emotional and other
realistic challenges that
come with marriage, rather than the
frivolities and
extravagancies of the day of the
wedding, the better for our children's marital lives.
Many girls depend too much on their
parents shoulders
rather than discover the strength in their
husband. In fact,
some parents now say it openly that their daughter could
come back home if they found their
marriage uncomfortable.
That was not the case in our time. You
made your bed and
were made to lie on it. Besides, what does not break you
can only strengthen you. That's the key!
These days, the amount of emotional
fraud that goes into
getting our children to say: ‘I do’ are
getting out of hand, too many negative influences here and there.
My appeal today is to our generation of
parents to let our
children marry in their own way. We
should stop indulging in
our fantasies. I wonder how many parents actually ask their
children what they want before
embarking on these grand
schemes. In our youthful days, most of us
financed our
weddings and the marriages were successful. Most
weddings today are failing because of
parents interference.
Our marriages fared better on the long
run than what we
have today in spite of the millions of naira people are
spending to get married today. And this is
because the
weddings were by us and for us. Parents
and their few
friends came as guests. We must question the rationale in
spending millions on a
wedding when one of the couple hasn’t
found a job (in most
cases the wife) and may not even know
her bearing in life yet. We must also worry at the pressure
we are putting on
the marriage itself. Many cracks which
later on widened into
chasms started during the frenetic and
totally unrealistic preparations for grandiose weddings.
Many parents make
unnecessary demands and transmit their
frustrations to the
children. These frustrations seep into the
young marriages and become toxins in their homes. It
would have made more
sense if bigger weddings meant more
successful marriages.
Unfortunately, the reverse seems to be
the case. Let your children be free. Free to find love
and build on what
they find. Let them be free to determine
their expectations
and realities. Let them grow together on
their own terms and in their own ways. |
Re: Marriage Is A Tough Institution. Let’s Stop Sugar Coating It! by docmoses(m): 9:44pm On Jul 18, 2015 |
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Re: Marriage Is A Tough Institution. Let’s Stop Sugar Coating It! by germainediva(f): 7:12am On Jul 19, 2015 |
True but parental guidance is very important......more also marriage is an institution you don't graduate from..you keep learning and there is no one formula .....no matter how prepared you think you are,you may still meet a shocker.....its like a gift,you never know what's inside till you open it.....one thing is sure,its no child's play. D only vital thing for any marriage to succeed is d fear of God it helps curb a lot of excesses. |
Re: Marriage Is A Tough Institution. Let’s Stop Sugar Coating It! by Nobody: 10:15am On Jul 19, 2015 |
Very tough. If i had a choice, doubt i want to get married |
Re: Marriage Is A Tough Institution. Let’s Stop Sugar Coating It! by Oahray: 11:45am On Jul 19, 2015 |
Hmmm... You have a point, but I don't completely agree with it. Family has always been a pillar of the African society, and so family members ALWAYS get involved. It looks excessive because you are seeing it in the light of western influence in our marriage systems. The world is different now. Man has become more self-centred, and gender roles have become blurred, no thanks to a million human rights movements. With or without parental interference in wedding plans, a lasting marriage is an endangered specie. |
Re: Marriage Is A Tough Institution. Let’s Stop Sugar Coating It! by Nobody: 11:48am On Jul 19, 2015 |
Oseod is typing........... |
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