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The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 6:36am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Here is the Narration from Punch For nine days, Shola (not real name) was in pain. The abdominal pain she endured felt as if a knife got stuck in her, she told Saturday PUNCH. “How could I face them? How could I tell them that the man they handed me over to, to help process my admission, had raped me?” Shola said. “He said they had to take off very early the following morning. I did not suspect anything unusual about that timing because I trusted him. By 4am, I roused my daughter. We prepared and I took her to Baruwa’s house. I did not opt to follow them because I trusted him. I did not imagine that anything untoward could happen,” he said. Baruwa and Shola took off from Abesan about 5am. She would later return home by 11am. His daughter was noticeably moody as she came home. Two hours earlier, Baruwa had called the father and told him that he had done all he could but that it did not seem her admission would be possible. It was obvious the girl was trying hard to stay composed. While she spoke, [b]her right hand would go to her lower abdomen occasionally. When asked about it, she explained that she was still feeling some pain, which had reduced a lot since she got treatment.[/b] This girl is just trying to make a show. Why would she constantly be showing off the 'abdominal pain'? she is trying too hard to be convincing. I think she is hiding something. Shola said on Thursday, July 23, 2015, as her father handed her over to the lecturer, she still did not suspect anything until they got to around Maryland. “While I was inside the car, he started to touch my hair and rub my head. I was very surprised and I brushed off his hand. He never tried it again till we got to UNILAG,” Shola alleged. According to her, while they were on the way, Baruwa was showing her different parts of town, telling her about places she did not know. For him to start showing you places, their must have being a conversation. She must have been open to the man. “When we got to his office, it was about 6.30am. The offices in the building were deserted. He said he liked to be early to avoid traffic. He told me to sit on the couch in his office. I don't know much about Unilag, but by 6.30am in my school then, security men and cleaners would be everywhere.
Notice, she said she was feeling 'drowsy' here. Would come in handy in subsequent narration. According to Shola’s narration, Baruwa later took her to see a female official in another building who examined her documents and explained further that there was little that could be done on her admission. But i thought she said the whole place was deserted? Baruwa reportedly said she might have to opt for diploma. Shola claimed that when they went back to his office, the lecturer kept her document on his table. She said, “He kept standing and moving around the office. Later, he went outside and when he came back inside, he locked the door and kept the key on his table. I did not know what was happening. This girl has watched too much porn I swear, pick paper ni, pick pin ko. During the pushing, you did not scream, you still do not know his intention baa? Na when e wan remove your trouser you go remember say na rape. But i thought she said she was drowsy? wasn't she supposed to be sleeping? Our correspondent asked at this point if Shola made any attempt to shout to alert anybody nearby. She claimed that she actually screamed but that the way he held her down did not allow her voice to be as audible as she had wanted it to be. Really? She is not even smart. She would have said the man covered her mouth, that would have being believing. How would he hold your neck one way and it would not allow you to scream? “After he had his way, he released me. As soon as I pulled up my trousers, I grabbed the keys to the door and rushed out while he was dressing up. He was walking behind me as I walked downstairs from his office. He said nothing as I walked away crying. He later went back.” The door was supposed to be locked nah. You did not rush out. He watched you unlock the door while still dressing. Why would a rape monster ever make that mistake? Does he want to be caught? Besides, this ordeal must have taken nothing less than an hour to have come to this part. You want to tell me that the place is still vacant by 7.30am in the morning. How many persons saw you crying? Shola’s father told our correspondent that he had been able to secure a place for her to write her post-UTME examination for an admission into OOU but the young girl has refused to go. Our correspondent tracked down Dr. Baruwa a day after speaking with Shola and he gave his version of the encounter. According to him, he indeed had a sexual encounter with Shola but it was “consensual.” The lecturer, who seemed to be in his early 40s, told our correspondent that he made the mistake of not doing enough to resist the temptation of ‘sleeping’ with Shola. I believe this part. You don't just show a muse around. They must have being in deep conversation. “It is true that I took her to YABATECH and showed her places. What is not true is that I deliberately took off from home because of any plan to do anything bad to her. I took off from home that early to avoid traffic. You do not wake up by 4am with rape on your mind. Haba. “When she was in my office, she was the one telling me to be free with her. I realised that I needed to lie down a little and did not want my shirt to be rumpled. When I pulled it off, she even told me not to mind her presence that since it was my office, I could do whatever I wanted. Crap. I think this dude lied in this part. I think there was a little persuasion on his part. But it must have arouse due to the girls flirty attitude. “When I realised that I could not resist her, I had to tell her to let me put on a condom. The truth is that, while I was putting on a condom, she stood by and waited. I did not actually penetrate. When she was saying ‘it’s enough, it’s enough’ and complaining that her tummy had started hurting her, I stopped.” if the rape was actually done with a condom, then the girls story is crap. She meant to tell us that he was holding her hands, her neck and still used his hands to put on condoms, at the same time? The man na Superman? Baruwa explained that Shola’s father had sent a cryptic text message to him (days later when he learnt of what happened to his daughter), saying that he had learnt of what he did to his daughter. When told that Shola went through more than a week of excruciating abdominal pain, Baruwa explained that if Shola left him the day of the encounter with any sign of hurt, he would have reached out to her to find out how she was doing. What i think happened is that the man in question promised shola admission during the persuasion process, but when he later called that she wouldn't be accepted, she now wanted to blackmail him with the rape case. Girls lie, ALOT! 41 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 7:22am On Aug 08, 2015 |
okay |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 7:27am On Aug 08, 2015 |
women lie a lot! 2 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by OrlandoOwoh(m): 7:40am On Aug 08, 2015 |
It's unfortunate that some journalists don't know the legal definition of rape. 8 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 7:42am On Aug 08, 2015 |
OrlandoOwoh: honestly. I'm just sad for the poor man whose image is about to be tarnished. He might be relieved of his employment and he has a family to feed. 4 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by Chubhie: 7:47am On Aug 08, 2015 |
When I read both reports, I deduced that there was some flirting. Let's assume that the girl did so innocently so as to sound yielding to achieve her admission from a god sent man. The man did some sublime toasting to impress it on the young impressionable mind that he can rot in hell just to have acess to her honeypot. The young mind on leaving home was dressed in jeans and probably some tops with the manchester shooting out------- number 1 mistake from her parents. I won't blame the young mind cos she was going to a university community and the urge to appear belonging got the best of her. She would have dressed like Eleha sunnah. That had it been the man secured the admission, the tango won't likely be revisited. Let's assume the limit the lecturer's capacitor could take before it blew every sense on reasoning in him was the last hugging and the reality of letting such an opportunity slip him by. Let's assume the girl wasn't a V and the mans hood was huge cos there was absence of proper pre-intimacy to lubricate hence the pains the lady felt and still feeling. That the man stopped when the lady was screaming enough is enough without offloading his pressure shows an unusual mindset of a rapist. The lecturer is intelligent to know that he's safe since the girl is 18 hence hiding under consensual sex. There's lessons to learn for all parties involved and the neutrals. I foresee the lecturer losing his job as a result but he's not likely to get a jail term. 7 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by OrlandoOwoh(m): 7:48am On Aug 08, 2015 |
shachris02:Though I'm not a judge, if the girl allegedly raped, with evidence of väginal penetration, is unable to show evidence of torn cloths and bruises, the case of rape may be difficult to be established. 9 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 7:50am On Aug 08, 2015 |
OrlandoOwoh: the clothes, were not torn. There were not bruises, if there were, her parents must have noticed those first offs. |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by Nobody: 8:00am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Op,so many rape cases go unnoticed,or not reported.. Even if the girl is flirty,as a man,a lecturer for that matter,who's a custodian of moral,he should have self-control. So many randy men/lecturers out there.. Most rape victims remain calm to avoid being hurt by the perpetrator,so she could have remained calm in fear of her life.. 13 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:03am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Yomieluv: Agreed, the man is not innocent and i never said he was. But neither is the girl. People should taking up every rape accusation without proper investigations. I have seen many cases where a supposedly innocent girl turned out being a very dangerous liar. 2 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by koboko69: 8:13am On Aug 08, 2015 |
They first said the babe is a virgin ooooo. That part seems to have evaporated in this report. I actually dont believe this was a rape case either, I think the babe felt used after hearing she couldn't gain admission afterall. This usually brings about blackmail! 4 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:15am On Aug 08, 2015 |
koboko69: i just pity the poor lecturer that has being passed judgement on by the public. He might lose his job and maybe his family as well. 3 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by ComrdDRS: 8:17am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Fear all this small girls..... Cos if anything happened nobody go believe your own story... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by coolestrogue(m): 8:21am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Must a grown up man take advantage of a little girl? I want to believe he has grown kids too, he should never had taken advantage of the girl in the first place. 3 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:23am On Aug 08, 2015 |
coolestrogue: an 18 year old is an adult and is at liberty even if she wants to taste your 9", mr cool 2 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by bonechamberlain(m): 8:26am On Aug 08, 2015 |
wonderful analysis.. thus is what I call tacking issues, not some people here who instead of sticking to issues would result to using abusive words. nice one op 3 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by scribble: 8:28am On Aug 08, 2015 |
coolestrogue: End of story. When there are girls in his department that will do anything to pass. Why must he go for the one seeking admission? Greed! He has tasted many girls and then disappointed them. One or two don swear for am. Karma and the swear Don finally catch am. |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by scribble: 8:31am On Aug 08, 2015 |
I don't see how anybody can be trying to justify his actions, consensual or not. Must we all think with our dic. This is the kind of guy that makes it difficult for legitimate guys to find a way into a girls heart or pants, because they think all men are dogs after running into this kinda Baruwa fellow. He should be jailed not just for the inconvenience done to the girl and her family but because of that done to men with slightly more common sense in Nigeria. 3 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by Nobody: 8:32am On Aug 08, 2015 |
@ shachris02 with all your analysis which may not be totally wrong.................................. even if the girl agreed initially to the act but changed her mind at the point of penetration and the guy forcefully entered her...it is still considered as rape. 2 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by coolestrogue(m): 8:33am On Aug 08, 2015 |
scribble:Even if the girl is a flirt, he shouldn't have taken advantage of her. 4 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:35am On Aug 08, 2015 |
scribble: what are you saying? What inconvenience? these are two adults that had consensual sex. Was that the first time the girl is having sex? Do you know how hard it is to rape a girl on trousers, and not tear how trousers or threaten her in any way? Have you thought about the damage done to the man, his career, his reputation and his family? |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:36am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Deyou: lol. dude, you are obviously a virgin. How many girls change their minds when the D is already in? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:38am On Aug 08, 2015 |
coolestrogue: Not when the girl obviously want to be taken advantage of. Many girls just love to experiment. I'm sure that their are a lot of 18 year olds that would want to taste your 9" and you want to tell me you would deny them? |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by hinwazaka: 8:38am On Aug 08, 2015 |
This is typical of the OP.Always talking about things he has refused to research on. Let me enlighten you, the first thing in rape analogy is "No means No". It doesn't matter if the girl precipitated the action or led him on, all that matters is if at the point of penetration, she withdrew from the action or indicated her reluctance. Once she says no and you continue without her consent, such action constitutes RAPE. Also it is normal for girls at the point of rape to freeze and blank out their mind. This happens about 90% of the time. The fear of facing the reality of rape would force them to withdraw into a subconscious shell inorder to pass through the ordeal. This action is involuntary and so can't be turned on or off. Also FYI: she displayed all the characteristics of a rape victim: unusual quietness, change in behavioural pattern, withdrawn personality and so many others. This is in no way a case of blackmail or retribution. The lecturer is just trying to be clever. He probably has done this so many times and had gotten away with it because of the experience and nature of the other victims. The recent victim is the first virgin and so why the turn of his luck. Please read up on rape before helping the lecturer get off the hook because of your subconscious misogynistic nature 8 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by TGM2015: 8:42am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Although the Lecturer might not have forced his way in the teenager might as well not willing submitted to the act. I will say it was not a total concensus and that the girl have pre-knowledge of what is about to happen and chose not to fight it out to prevent it. Below account of the Lecturer shows the interest but not the willingness /concensus of the young lady to the act. The Lecturer surely had the intention to use the opportunity to have his way in whether willing or by force not forgetting that the lecturer has condom readily available in his office. "When I realised that I could not resist her, I had to tell her to let me put on a condom. The truth is that, while I was putting on a condom, she stood by and waited. I did not actually penetrate. When she was saying ‘it’s enough, it’s enough’ and complaining that her tummy had started hurting her, I stopped.” |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by OrlandoOwoh(m): 8:45am On Aug 08, 2015 |
TGM2015:Since it's consensual, the lecturer, in my opinion, has no question to answer since the girl is no longer a minor. |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by otokx(m): 8:46am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Good presentation, both parties are guilty, its an unethical act by the man though so he may have to resign his position. Why is the girl's name not being revealed? |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by hinwazaka: 8:48am On Aug 08, 2015 |
I would advice Co-debaters to stay away from this thread. Its obvious the OP just wants traffic on this thread. He is just trying to play the Devils advocate so as to get replies. He does this from time to time. Always posting anti-Biafra threads when he doesn't give two cents about if Biafra is lunacy or a reality. But since the Biafra story has died down, he is now trying any other controversial topics that will cause feedback. Please ignore him, its what the likes of him deserve for they have no respect for what Nairaland stands for. 2 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:49am On Aug 08, 2015 |
hinwazaka: He pulled off your TROUSERS, you didn't say No. He pulled off your pants, you didn't so No. He inserts his Condo, then you shout No? Do you know how hard it is for a black man to get to second base and get rejected? Many of us have had girls that shouted 'No, No, No' only to start shouting 'Yes....Yes....Harder...deeper' 3 seconds later. 5 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by Nobody: 8:50am On Aug 08, 2015 |
shachris02: Legally, its still considered as rape.......if she changes her mind before penetration. Now for the mere fact that we are all doing something wrong and go scot free doesn't make it right. 3 Likes |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by TGM2015: 8:52am On Aug 08, 2015 |
OrlandoOwoh: Just modified the post your quoted, but it is not consensual not forgetting that the lecturer has readily available condom in his office. |
Re: The Unilag Rape Case - I Think It Was Consensual - My Opinion by shachris02: 8:54am On Aug 08, 2015 |
Deyou: Well, from experience and as an exposed guy, i do not believe it was before. I think she shouted 'stop' when the D was getting too intrusive and maybe touching her womb. Many off them do that, brother. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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