ApexTitan:


Okay I don't even understand your point here.

Lol, did I read you wrong?

You said women always act like their sexuality isn't important to a man, no?

freecocoa:
Lol, did I read you wrong?

You said women always act like their sexuality isn't important to a man, no?

Yes. Many women do this.

ApexTitan:


Yes. Many women do this.

I'm agreeing with you that it's very important, the best part is that it's not only important to men, women care about a man's sex appeal too.

Missy89:


Why is it difficult for some guys to ask a girl out thou?.
It is pretty easy and if she says no,just move on!

See gobe! How about ask yourself why it's difficult for you to ask a guy out. You should know how crazy you ladies can be sometimes and the type of games you lot play. Not everyone likes being rejected yano. Anyway, if you're too shy to ask him out - just give him the green-light subtly. Then again, even with green-light with some chics - they still act stush and want a nyggah to start chasing them around like a trophy.

Just tell him how you feel. I don't think he'll reject you - you're one cute weirdo, with a nice and broad smile...and ya short hair is segzy. The only thing missing is that, "ya behind is NOT a killer..." like gobe looool. Ol'boy is gonna jump at you with open arms.

Shymm3x:


See gobe! How about ask yourself why it's difficult for you to ask a guy out. You should know how crazy you ladies can be sometimes and the type of games you lot play. Not everyone likes being rejected yano. Anyway, if you're too shy to ask him out - just give him the green-light subtly. Then again, even with green-light with some chics - they still act stush and want a nyggah to start chasing them around like a trophy.

Just tell him how you feel. I don't think he'll reject you - you're one cute weirdo, with a nice and broad smile...and ya short hair is segzy. The only thing missing is that, "ya behind is NOT a killer..." like gobe looool. Ol'boy is gonna jump at you with open arms.

It is against the rule of nature thou. Isnt that a guys duty?

I will give it a shot when i get back to VA in December. Will just e-stalk for now

Missy89:


Why is it difficult for some guys to ask a girl out thou?.
It is pretty easy and if she says no

The fear of rejection is the reason why guys find it hard to ask a girl out. The failure to attract the deisre of the one you desire. And women don't make it any easier, most rejections are brutal.

Shymm3x:


Word. And that's where the problem lies.

That's the reason why I created the thread. Not trying to take the race route but it's just basically something I noticed. It's like every time I meet an extremely beautiful black chic dating just any type of white guy. I normally ask them in a cheeky way why they're with whoever they're with, since it's obvious that they can do better than that. And it's funny that they all always give the same answers about black guys being violent jailbirds, serial cheaters, and all kinds of negative things.

So you have always question their decision making when it comes to guys, since those are the type of guys they're always attracted to. A lot of run with the perception, but they don't have the mental fortitude to deal with the baggage that comes with it.

Too many men have accepted a misconstrued, almost primal idea of what alpha male is. You have to be healthy and smart to begin. But too many blacks, and "bad boys" of all races, will rely on their charisma alone. Collectively we're starting to think that ultra charisma and mannerisms are all that matters to be alpha, now the women are concretely convinced of this too. Drug dealers, rappers, and athletes are professions with a short shelf life but with the biggest return on instant gratification, but even with their alpha-abundance they almost always go broke and lose their trophy wife and/or children and life to one or another eventual circumstance. imo, Alpha is about survival for the long run... good luck convincing the modern young woman who wants instant proof and gratification over being sold a story of a long-run dream. Now you're forced to play along, giving them the instant gratification they desire.

If you're not dealing drugs, rapping, athletic, or the big bad neighborhood bully then you're like everybody else who want Donald Trump money, wealth.

I can't say that only white people are global shot-callers, but not enough blacks are. Many whites will let someone cuckoid their wife, maybe that guy can feel sort of alpha by doing it, but she's going nowhere. Everyone else in the world is extremely fearful and territorial of that very idea alone. A shot-caller's woman knows that she's with a long-term alpha who could get any woman he wants. I hate to admit it, but that is truly alpha as fuq when you're at that level, and you're still athletic. Most blacks probably won't ever obtain this status so now we're forced struggle and hustle to be "alpha", we'll likely never be comfortably alpha.

our version of alpha isn't working...

Ladies prefering to date bad guys over nice guys has to do with the kind of upbringing and kind of guys they grew up with. To them if u are not bad guy, you are a weakling.
I, on the other hand have never had anything to do with bad guys because growing up, my dad, brothers and cousins were nice guys so I came to see nice guys as the ideal.
Infact I have never dated a guy who drinks, smokes or clubs steadily, neither will I even consider dating a guy who treats ladies like disposables. For me it's nice guys over bad guys anytime anyday.

Shymm3x:
Lmao...that's the average chic for you regardless of her status/education. They always fall in love with "thugs"/bad boys. Thugs/bad boys necessarily don't mean hoodrats - just folks who are rough around the edges and are a product of their environment.

Academics like Dr. Eric Dyson and Dr. Marc Lamont Hill also fall into that cos regardless of how educated they're - they're still a product of the mean streets of Detroit and Philly respectively. And they'd tell you that off the bat. Ditto folks like Idris Elba and Denzel Washington.

Dollyparton1
Yetseyi
missy89
1bkaye

What do you lot think? And how come you lot always sheg the sweet/nice guys?

I came in late to the party.
Shymex, stop the generalisation.
It all depends on individual taste and their perspectives on how an ideal man should be.

jadelyn007:
Ladies prefering to date bad guys over nice guys has to do with the kind of upbringing and kind of guys they grew up with. To them if u are not bad guy, you are a weakling.
I, on the other hand have never had anything to do with bad guys because growing up, my dad, brothers and cousins were nice guys so I came to see nice guys as the ideal.
Infact I have never dated a guy who drinks, smokes or clubs steadily, neither will I even consider dating a guy who treats ladies like disposables. For me it's nice guys over bad guys anytime anyday.

It seems that most women want at least the bare minimum of protection. If I'm Tyrone and I wunna fvck your wife, the man should at least be ready to knock me Tyrone the F out. If you're a gorgeous Black woman on a planet in which many men think they're some variant of alpha, the foundation of your relationship will be tested by other alphas. Not likely to the extreme by Tyrones, but possibly knocking out some other guy who can't take your response of "No I'm taken" as the final answer.

freecocoa:
Please can you explain these? I find it interesting but can't quite tell qhy yet.

What part?

bukatyne:


What part?

The parts quoted.

Missy89:

It is against the rule of nature thou. Isnt that a guys duty?

I will give it a shot when i get back to VA in December. Will just e-stalk for now

Lol. When did nature start assigning a rule about waiting for what you want to come talk to you, especially in this new age of rabid feminazis and obtuse equality?

Where are you now? Still with the US Air Force in Guam?

jadelyn007:
Ladies prefering to date bad guys over nice guys has to do with the kind of upbringing and kind of guys they grew up with. To them if u are not bad guy, you are a weakling.
I, on the other hand have never had anything to do with bad guys because growing up, my dad, brothers and cousins were nice guys so I came to see nice guys as the ideal.
Infact I have never dated a guy who drinks, smokes or clubs steadily, neither will I even consider dating a guy who treats ladies like disposables. For me it's nice guys over bad guys anytime anyday.

Better get used to it. Just as every guy on this planet has been rejected by a female at least once - every girl has been treated as a disposable by a guy at least once in her lifetime.

DollyParton1:


I came in late to the party.
Shymex, stop the generalisation.
It all depends on individual taste and their perspectives on how an ideal man should be.

Did you see the bracket I gave missy and yetseyi on page 2?

I want you to also pick one from each bracket. I wanna gauge something.

AAinEqGuinea:

Too many men have accepted a misconstrued, almost primal idea of what alpha male is. You have to be healthy and smart to begin. But too many blacks, and "bad boys" of all races, will rely on their charisma alone. Collectively we're starting to think that ultra charisma and mannerisms are all that matters to be alpha, now the women are concretely convinced of this too. Drug dealers, rappers, and athletes are professions with a short shelf life but with the biggest return on instant gratification, but even with their alpha-abundance they almost always go broke and lose their trophy wife and/or children and life to one or another eventual circumstance. imo, Alpha is about survival for the long run... good luck convincing the modern young woman who wants instant proof and gratification over being sold a story of a long-run dream. Now you're forced to play along, giving them the instant gratification they desire.

If you're not dealing drugs, rapping, athletic, or the big bad neighborhood bully then you're like everybody else who want Donald Trump money, wealth.

I can't say that only white people are global shot-callers, but not enough blacks are. Many whites will let someone cuckoid their wife, maybe that guy can feel sort of alpha by doing it, but she's going nowhere. Everyone else in the world is extremely fearful and territorial of that very idea alone. A shot-caller's woman knows that she's with a long-term alpha who could get any woman he wants. I hate to admit it, but that is truly alpha as fuq when you're at that level, and you're still athletic. Most blacks probably won't ever obtain this status so now we're forced struggle and hustle to be "alpha", we'll likely never be comfortably alpha.

our version of alpha isn't working...

I agree with you that it's more of a societal thing and that's also the reason why the whole world is effed up, with zero morals - apart from pretentious and sanctimonious loafers running around.

The same logic with the bad boys vs sweet boys thing is basically the same with how most women prefer materialism to labour. Hence in today's world, there isn't any pride in labour anymore...everyone is basically looking for shortcuts. And if you ain't flossing, ain't no one fvcking with you.

Shymm3x:


Lmao...brother leading another brother is homoerotic. I need innocent ladies to lead me in the path of holiness and righteousness just as Mary Magdalene led the disciples to Jesus We're all Jesus people!

The fact that you alluded to ladies preferring Burna boy shows you have got a thing for him as well lol.

Now imagine Burna Boy serenading you with this: "You see my dark shades on like I can’t see/but you know sey me fancy you...Funke Adekunle/Dolapo and Yetunde/Rain rain go away/Me and them girls dem want to play".

Or this:

Awww huuu awww huuu awww huuu/
Said tonight will be your night/
Awww huuu awww oii oiii/
Gotta be doing something right

What would you say?

Ermm brothers can still do the leading , dont corrupt the church girls

Loool I cant even recognize burna boy if meet him on the street.

Even if he serenades me from now till forever it will still be a NO. I wont even batt an eyelid to be honest. Both of them are not my kind its that simple. Understand that there are ladies who have high standards (moral standards) and those you mentioned just don't fit in.

I will say this again its a nice/good guy over a bad guy anytime anyday.

jadelyn007:
Ladies prefering to date bad guys over nice guys has to do with the kind of upbringing and kind of guys they grew up with. To them if u are not bad guy, you are a weakling.
I, on the other hand have never had anything to do with bad guys because growing up, my dad, brothers and cousins were nice guys so I came to see nice guys as the ideal.
Infact I have never dated a guy who drinks, smokes or clubs neither will I even consider dating a guy who treats ladies like disposables. For me it's nice guys over bad guys anytime anyday.

I share your opinion.

yetseyi:



Ermm brothers can still do the leading , dont corrupt the church girls

Loool I cant even recognize burna boy if meet him on the street.

Even if he serenades me from now till forever it will still be a NO. I wont even batt an eyelid to be honest. Both of them are not my kind its that simple. Understand that there are ladies who have high standards (moral standards) and those you mentioned just don't fit in.

I will say this again its a nice/good guy over a bad guy anytime anyday.

Hahahahaha!

Don't mind Shymm3x, he doesn't know that a man serenading a women with whatever song is already seen as a form of displaying low value. Very un-alpha thing to do. That's the kind of ish the "sweet guys" will do in real life and wonder why they don't get the girls.

ApexTitan:


Hahahahaha!

Don't mind Shymm3x, he doesn't know that a man serenading a women with whatever song is already seen as a form of displaying low value. Very un-alpha thing to do. That's the kind of ish the "sweet guys" will do in real life and wonder why they don't get the girls.

Actually I dont think serenading a lady makes a man low value. Yeah sweet guys do it and a girl will appreciate it as a matter of fact they do get the girls. I was referring to the personality of the person serenading.
So an alpha male is not supposed to serenade a female that's interesting.

yetseyi:

Ermm brothers can still do the leading , dont corrupt the church girls

Loool I cant even recognize burna boy if meet him on the street.

Even if he serenades me from now till forever it will still be a NO. I wont even batt an eyelid to be honest. Both of them are not my kind its that simple. Understand that there are ladies who have high standards (moral standards) and those you mentioned just don't fit in.

I will say this again its a nice/good guy over a bad guy anytime anyday.

Never that - I'm a sweet/nice boy. I just need the modern day Mary Madgalene to lead me to Jesus - that's all.

So what are ya standards? I wanna know if the young Ijebu merchant can fit into those standards. Shyte, I'm tryna to meet all standards available on the planet.

yetseyi:


Actually I dont think serenading a lady makes a man low value. Yeah sweet guys do it and a girl will appreciate it as a matter of fact they do get the girls. I was referring to the personality of the person serenading.
So an alpha male is not supposed to serenade a female that's interesting.

Eziokwu? Make we hear word.

In real life any guy who does that will draw the same response a woman gives when she sees a cute puppy. She'll go, "awwww, isn't that sweet." Then she'll friendzone puppy boy.

When you see ladies fawning and screeming their heads off for celebs like say Burnaboi it's the social proof and dazzle of his status that is their trigger. I can bet you Burnaboi himself would have noticed a significant spike in the number of girls he can pull since he attained stardom. In his pre-fame days all his serenading would have gone unnoticed by the ladies.

Shymm3x:


Better get used to it. Just as every guy on this planet has been rejected by a female at least once - every girl has been treated as a disposable by a guy at least once in her lifetime.

lol, fortunately I am very picky when it comes to making male friends so believe me when I say I have never been treated as a disposable rather I've made myself indispensable. I always wish to add value of some sort to every friends life no matter how little.

AAinEqGuinea:


It seems that most women want at least the bare minimum of protection. If I'm Tyrone and I wunna fvck your wife, the man should at least be ready to knock me Tyrone the F out. If you're a gorgeous Black woman on a planet in which many men think they're some variant of alpha, the foundation of your relationship will be tested by other alphas. Not likely to the extreme by Tyrones, but possibly knocking out some other guy who can't take your response of "No I'm taken" as the final answer.

if someone won't take no for an answer and he keeps stalking me I'll get a restraining order against that person.
I wouldn't want my man going physical with someone like Dwayne Johnson or Floyd Mayweather.
Offering protection in a relationship is more than knocking out people

ApexTitan:


Eziokwu? Make we hear word.

In real life any guy who does that will draw the same response a woman gives when she sees a cute puppy. She'll go, "awwww, isn't that sweet." Then she'll friendzone puppy boy.

When you see ladies fawning and screeming their heads off for celebs like say Burnaboi it's the social proof and dazzle of his status that is their trigger. I can bet you Burnaboi himself would have noticed a significant spike in the number of girls he can pull since he attained stardom. In his pre-fame days all his serenading would have gone unnoticed by the ladies.

Okaaay but I still dont agree with you. I think you guys should change the kind of ladies you move with, I know a sizeable number of ladies who will NEVER fawn and scream over him. For what- his status,cash or name it. You guys need to broaden your horizons.

So its the fame that makes the serenading relevant.

This kind of mindset odikwa very very risky (hope i got the ibo right) loool.

Shymm3x:


Never that - I'm a sweet/nice boy. I just need the modern day Mary Madgalene to lead me to Jesus - that's all.

So what are ya standards? I wanna know if the young Ijebu merchant can fit into those standards. Shyte, I'm tryna to meet all standards available on the planet.

So you are no longer an alpha male? lool and lool. I thought alpha males are never sweet/nice.


Primarily moral standards but then morality is relative. You already have an idea of my kind of moral standards. Check the last paragraph of jadelyn's post I quoted, I made a slight modification though.

Shymm3x:


Lol. When did nature start assigning a rule about waiting for what you want to come talk to you, especially in this new age of rabid feminazis and obtuse equality?

Where are you now? Still with the US Air Force in Guam?

Well we will see. December is almost here. Yes I am still in Gu but not with USAF anymore. Basically work for a PMC now. Gig almost the same like d military days however. little difference.

jadelyn007:
lol, fortunately I am very picky when it comes to making male friends so believe me when I say I have never been treated as a disposable rather I've made myself indispensable. I always wish to add value of some sort to every friends life no matter how little.

Lol. And the supremely Jade strikes again!! You must be sent by an angel from above - I don't envy you.

So you mean no guy has ever cheated on you, dumped up, or treated you like shiit? - that's interesting.

yetseyi:

So you are no longer an alpha male? lool and lool. I thought alpha males are never sweet/nice.

Primarily moral standards but then morality is relative. You already have an idea of my kind of moral standards. Check the last paragraph of jadelyn's post I quoted, I made a slight modification though.

Lol. I'm not vain...so I don't know if I'm an alpha male or not. The chics just call me an alpha male and papi chulo. But I do know that once I step into the Church - I'm the sweetest guy ever.

Well, that's basically almost every chic's moral standard(s) till they get swept away by the fatal physical attraction and the art of selling a dream.

jadelyn007:
if someone won't take no for an answer and he keeps stalking me I'll get a restraining order against that person.
I wouldn't want my man going physical with someone like Dwayne Johnson or Floyd Mayweather.
Offering protection in a relationship is more than knocking out people

the strength to defend your woman is like an insurance policy, it's good to have but you hope to never have to use it. Having this type of assurance helps to focus on the providing other means of protection and stability.

Shymm3x:

I agree with you that it's more of a societal thing and that's also the reason why the whole world is effed up, with zero morals - apart from pretentious and sanctimonious loafers running around.
The same logic with the bad boys vs sweet boys thing is basically the same with how most women prefer materialism to labour. Hence in today's world, there isn't any pride in labour anymore...everyone is basically looking for shortcuts. And if you ain't flossing, ain't no one fvcking with you.

On occasion I enjoy getting lost in imagination of what my life in Africa would be like had the ol transatlantic slave trade never existed... where alpha man was defined by the ability to pay a bride price, exchange cattle, family arranged marriages etc, etc... When the part of life of finding companionship was easy.

Today we don't make the rules and our modern woman is not trying to hear how much cattle we know she's worth. The most concerning is that we don't make the rules and the people who do likely don't have our interest and culture in mind. One small example uses an alpha male from Nigeria who works hard to earn money but as of now the naira is worthless by forces he can't control. He works harder than many people we know, but Nigerian women see no "value" in him. Is he still alpha? Is he more or less alpha than skinny yahoos who bank lots of money scamming people? At the very top, the currency exchange defines who's alpha. Are American and the UK men more alpha? Things I consider when someone claims to be alpha.

Missy89:

Well we will see. December is almost here. Yes I am still in Gu but not with USAF anymore. Basically work for a PMC now. Gig almost the same like d military days however. Few difference.

Nice. At least you still get to hang out with the troops.

Anyway, let me give you a new tune that should be a nice soundtrack to the Dec. love story.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6903zFUIxoU

Shymm3x:


Did you see the bracket I gave missy and yetseyi on page 2?

I want you to also pick one from each bracket. I wanna gauge something.

Nah. Too lazy for that.