What would you do when you found out on your first date that he/she is a cripple or somehow disabled?

If he didn't tell me when we spoke first prior to the date, I will leave him. I need somebody who is plain.

A date is not a commitment.
using the word cripple is even worse than Nigger .
If i do not see myself as disabled, should i go around saying " Hi am disabled"?
As for falling bin love with someone you haver not seen. Well love is Blind as they say .

@mimigirl and edygirl:
Let's define "crippled." What does it really mean? edygirl suggests it means "plain." I am sorry, but I don't know what that means. But let's consider this: Some people wear eyeglasses or contact lenses, so their vision is not perfect. Some people wear hearing aids, so they might miss out on some sounds. Some people have thin hair. Is this considered "plain?" If you have an ulcer, that will affect what you eat, so would this be a problem?

In other words, we all have something that makes us less than perfect. Why, then, should we show bias towards others for the same thing? If we were to develop disabilities, either because of illness or an accident, would we want others to shun us?

You don't know what you are talking about. What do you think I meant?

Really dude no body is perfect but as edygirl she must have told me she is, but if she didnt she is not plain and d relationship is as good as saying goodbye.

Hi edygirl

Plain probably means open and honest.At least that is the way I u/stood it.

Hi buddy.

Yeah that was what I meant. I don't need any surprises. If I were him, I would tell him that I am like this so there won't be any shock or sth.

Ya saying da truth lol, relationship is about transparency.

edygirl:

Yeah that was what I meant. I don't need any surprises. I was were him, I would tell him that I am like this so there won't be any shock or sth.

No need arguing with that cos is the truth.One have to be honest!If I find out that a girl is not really wat she made me to believe I will not hesistate to call it quits.It is better you throw ur cards on the table and if it is ok with both of u,fine,if it is not then it was not meant to be!No need playing the green snake under some green grass

Yes is good to be honest because you got no second chance to make first impression. @kokolet r u in lv with edygirl? Good luck

Yes is good to be honest because you got no second chance to make first impression. @kokolet r u in lv with edygirl? Good luck

Beauty is of the minds, though we attach great importance to physical ability, but the truth is that the real you is inside. No one is perfect really. I respect people becuase of what they have upstairs but definitely not how they look. I may go on with her if she meets up with my qualities not minding her disabilities.

@fineboy i like your sense of reasoning. After all every man is equal b4 GOD

If I were him, I would tell him that I am like this so there won't be any shock or sth.

Have you been crippled before? How do you know what it's like to be disabled? Stop blabbing rubbish.

You are the one blabbing rubbish. Do you think it's everyone that would deny dating you if you told him?her that you are crippled. It's hard but you should still be plain.

I hear u, do am make I see may b ur pple go gree for u

I hear u, do am make I see may b ur pple go gree for u

@mimigirl na somebody like u dey make our wives dey sack us for bed. Well am in love wit all d babes in Nairaland including U because all of u are nt only beautiful bt also intelligent 2 u all I dof my cap but d only person dt owns my heart is no 1 else than my Angel Kiki unless u wnt to change ur name to kako so dt u can share my heart wit her.

@kokolet oh! Sorry. Mrs. Kokolet plz do serve tonights all night dinner. I am just a waka pass friend to him

May God forgive me.
I can't date a handicap.

That is why he/she should tell you so you will know in time instead of going out there just to embarrass him or her. I guess that would hurt the crippled person. I don't have a problem dating them. A date is just a date but I can't marry them even though they didn't choose to be that way.

@ edygirl
you have a point there you know.
but let's face the facts here. we all know that it isn't easy going out with a cripple.

It's ahrd though but sb has to love them.

Edygirl though its hard really, very hard indeed bt aren't we not d one to love them.

edygirl:

It's ahrd though but sb has to love them.

Yes you are right someone's got to love them. they are all God's creations and they need love from all of us. i don't doubt that.
what am saying is that i can't date or marry them.

Then u ain't got no luv for them man, assuming u are in there positn which I never pray to happen wnt u get married?

OK, let's look at it this way,

As I read the original post, the suggestion is that this is a so-called "blind date," meaning that the person with whom you are supposed to meet for the date is somebody whom you have never seen.  Am I correct in this interpretation?

If that is the case, then how much information do you require from that person?  More importantly, how much information are you required to provide to them?  Eye colour?  Blood type?  Medical history?  Where does it end?

The ONLY reason you might need to know about another's disability is if doing so will allow you to make the encounter more accessible.  For example, if somebody uses a wheelchair, neither you, nor they, would want to plan a date that would entail going up or down a lot of stairs.  And people with disabilities will let you know if something of that nature is going to be a potential problem for them. 

@edygirl:  I apologize for not understanding what you meant by being "plain."  As you know, many people from many different countries visit this site.  Their respective usages of colloquialisms surely will not be understood by all, myself included.

@omofineboy:  Indeed, your words are eloquent and true!  We should consider abilities rather than disablilities.  We must embrace people for the things which they are, rather than the things they are not.

@crazykid:  With all due respect, please remember that you're dating a person, not a handicap.  After all, what's a handicap to you might be simply an inconvenience to another person.