4C2215131:


Actually I was writing in the third person perspective...wasn't slinging shots your way girl. Just tired of seeing this same 'ole stuff creeping up again and again.

P.S. Just like there are faithful women out there, there sure are faithful men. In fact I know a coupla them and these are full bloodied, modern, successful, urbane men, not some nerdy, glass-wearing, prone to vacillating, whimpering, uptight, sissy of a man. I say this as most people assume that men that don't cheat are like that cos of the fact that they aren't attractive enough, man enough or do not possess the material wherewithal to do so, or they are just plain weird (incestuous pricks!).

MizMyColi:


I can bet this precious waterbottle on my table that you are no more a believer in God than I am.

1trillionlikes:

then, those elders are right, you are fighting that now, you'll realize they are right in years to come. #shalom#

safarigirl:
lol, just tryna help the society. Long time, how've you been?

Epaul:
Oga, You really should be the one to understand that marriage does not and has never completed a man any more than being a nairalander completes you. We come complete. Everyone of us. We are no half men, half vacuum needed to be filled up by half women, half vacuum who themselves need similar gesture from us. To maintain otherwise is a big fib Oga. You should understand this and stop pole-vaulting crass twaddle under the flimsy facade of Religion. If the sky-porter that be had intended to design marriage as a 'without-which-not', everyone who opt not to tie the knot would be incomplete including Jesus, Paul et al. And that much is certain. No exceptions. Truth, however, is that marriage is very much optional not a sine qua non to our existence.
Your gift of celibacy drivel is pointless and doesn't prove the contrary. Your bible never said marriage is a 'must-do'. To use your bible to evidence that marriage is optional, here is what one of the lawyers turned authority and silver-tail of the spirit said:

1 Corinthians 7:8 New International Version (NIV)
"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"

Did paul say the unmarried and the widows need the gift of celibacy to stay unmarried like him? No!
If marriage completes a man as you are ignorantly making a last-ditch attempt to prove, why was apostle paul advising the unmarried to remain single as he did? Was Paul telling them to stay incomplete? Of course, not. As a matter of fact, Paul felt being single is a better option and makes one even more complete. Hence, his advice. Except you want to claim you are more drunk in the spirit than Paul to have come up with your absolute claim.
I know you would want to argue that the above scripture was Paul's personal conjecture. If that was Paul's personal conjecture, then it means 'all scriptures are not inspired by God' as the bible purported which makes your celibacy claim even more specious.

As a matter of fact, marriage has destroyed more men and woman than singlehood has done; marriage has rendered more people incomplete than being single has done.

Not everyone can cut it as 'married' and that doesn't make them incomplete.

I understand you needed likes to pump up your ego that was why you resorted to putting up your above reply in your initial front-page post rather than replying my post squarely.

Epaul:
Oga, You really should be the one to understand that marriage does not and has never completed a man any more than being a nairalander completes you. We come complete. Everyone of us. We are no half men, half vacuum needed to be filled up by half women, half vacuum who themselves need similar gesture from us. To maintain otherwise is a big fib Oga. You should understand this and stop pole-vaulting crass twaddle under the flimsy facade of Religion. If the sky-porter that be had intended to design marriage as a 'without-which-not', everyone who opt not to tie the knot would be incomplete including Jesus, Paul et al. And that much is certain. No exceptions. Truth, however, is that marriage is very much optional not a sine qua non to our existence.
Your gift of celibacy drivel is pointless and doesn't prove the contrary. Your bible never said marriage is a 'must-do'. To use your bible to evidence that marriage is optional, here is what one of the lawyers turned authority and silver-tail of the spirit said:

1 Corinthians 7:8 New International Version (NIV)
"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"

Did paul say the unmarried and the widows need the gift of celibacy to stay unmarried like him? No!
If marriage completes a man as you are ignorantly making a last-ditch attempt to prove, why was apostle paul advising the unmarried to remain single as he did? Was Paul telling them to stay incomplete? Of course, not. As a matter of fact, Paul felt being single is a better option and makes one even more complete. Hence, his advice. Except you want to claim you are more drunk in the spirit than Paul to have come up with your absolute claim.
I know you would want to argue that the above scripture was Paul's personal conjecture. If that was Paul's personal conjecture, then it means 'all scriptures are not inspired by God' as the bible purported which makes your celibacy claim even more specious.

As a matter of fact, marriage has destroyed more men and woman than singlehood has done; marriage has rendered more people incomplete than being single has done.

Not everyone can cut it as 'married' and that doesn't make them incomplete.

I understand you needed likes to pump up your ego that was why you resorted to putting up your above reply in your initial front-page post rather than replying my post squarely.

MizMyColi:


Glad to see my friend inspire ladies on a wider scale.
If anyone has ever wondered what it is about me and how I think/the folks I mingle with, look no further!
One of them wrote this.



I remember when I started politics newly....he is the one thing that kept me in that section during the early days.
His words ring loud and true every now and then.

I look at the guy who wrote this, and I'm hopeful for the Nigerian Man.

babygirlfl:



@ bold, Well said. Trust me dear, there are some good Naija men out there. Even in Nairaland, you did see them.

Tallesty1:
Stop jumping to premature conclusions sir.

I placed it there to serve as a response to others that intend to ask me the same or similar questions.


Listen. We may dislike marriage because many are ending up in divorce, but marriage has an invisible magnet, a universal pull that brings human beings of like mind and soul together.

Something tells me that you don't understand what I meant by woman completes a man.


Have you ever wondered why we call our significant other our “better half.”

I don't know for certain but I think it may have to do with the loneliness factor and the feeling that one is not whole.

4instance, Adam was complete as himself, but, in the sense of being a part of the human family, he was incomplete. He needed Eve. A woman that sacrificed her entire life to be a part of him, she gave him hope and stability and provided him with all that could help him make a family of his own. She also acted as his strength by holding his hand when the times were tough and a beacon of hope when it was dark, she was his therapist when he failed and his councilor when he felt all was lost. She completed him.

Husbands turn to wives when they need something or qualities that they might be short on and have experienced suffering due to the lack of it. Two good heads are better than one. Hence, the notion of being completed by a partner.

Tallesty1:
Stop jumping to premature conclusions sir.

I placed it there to serve as a response to others that intend to ask me the same or similar questions.


Listen. We may dislike marriage because many are ending up in divorce, but marriage has an invisible magnet, a universal pull that brings human beings of like mind and soul together.

Something tells me that you don't understand what I meant by woman completes a man.


Have you ever wondered why we call our significant other our “better half.”

I don't know for certain but I think it may have to do with the loneliness factor and the feeling that one is not whole.

4instance, Adam was complete as himself, but, in the sense of being a part of the human family, he was incomplete. He needed Eve. A woman that sacrificed her entire life to be a part of him, she gave him hope and stability and provided him with all that could help him make a family of his own. She also acted as his strength by holding his hand when the times were tough and a beacon of hope when it was dark, she was his therapist when he failed and his councilor when he felt all was lost. She completed him.

Husbands turn to wives when they need something or qualities that they might be short on and have experienced suffering due to the lack of it. Two good heads are better than one. Hence, the notion of being completed by a partner.

Epaul:
my friend, I don't often belabour trite points. But since it's clear as a pikestaff you are sort of grappling with incomprehension and come off as a fellow whose opinion is not eclectic but premised solely on a book rifed with very many errors, i will do you the favour.

If there is anyone who seem to have a patently glib misunderstanding of the word 'complete', it really should be you. You speciously think 'to complete' is akin 'to complement'. That's spurrious Oga. Let me help you with the difference:

To complement according to the oxford online dictionary means ''to contribute extra features to someone or something in such a way as to improve or emphasize their qualities"

To complete, on the other, according to cambridge dictionary means "to make whole or perfect"

whenever you say "marriage completes a man", you are actually saying "marriage makes a man whole and perfect" which is infernally wrong. It shows you know next to zilch about what you are talking. Marriage doesn't make us whole. The word 'whole' itself means "complete in itself". Man is whole. He is complete. He only needs people(friends) to complement him, to improve and emphasize his qualities that is.

All you have said about being complete - "she gave him hope and stability and provided him with all that could help him make a family of his own. She also acted as his strength by holding his hand when the times were tough and a beacon of hope when it was dark, she was his therapist when he failed and his councilor when he felt all was lost. She completed him..Husbands turn to wives when they need something or qualities that they might be short on and have experienced suffering due to the lack of it. Two good heads are better than one.", are actually to complement the man which can be enjoyed without getting married; which can be enjoyed outside wed-lock by having good friends and a supportive siblings in your life; not completing the man.

You don't need to get married to be complemented. Having good friends(either male or female) with good qualities will do. I am complete. I have good female chums who have complement me to bits. I don't need to get married to any of them to be whole.

You should be the one to listen! Marriage doesn't complete a man! You cannot complete something that is already complete. You can only complement the thing.

peppyluv02:
I think MizMyColi was misunderstood.
Thank God you said,the ones you know not every woman. Even my older brother finds that disgusting. Back then in Madonna as a medical student,he said what surprises him about his class girls was the fact that their ultimate ambition is getting married and funny enough they end up with just any man! One who doesn't encourage them and gets easily intimidated. That is why many of them end up not practicing. Just to get a title..may Amadioha forbid that for me and the women in my generation. Marriage will come but our life purpose should go along with it.

MizMyColi:
This writeup is written by a Nigerian, especially for Nigerian Ladies.
Please understand that while I and the writer share this view, you are under no obligation to share.
If it does not resonate with you...please feel free to toss it out and shout like Orubebe did "WE WILL NOT TAKE THIS; THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE"
If it does resonate with you, please welcome like a breath of fresh air.




https://wordsmithf./2015/09/30/woman-you-are-more-than-a-ring-and-a-title/

pickabeau1:


It is utterly simplistic to say marriage is the reason female doctors don't practice

Other reasons

Job opportunities
Mobility
Specialisation

girly00zero:



Job opportunities: women are universally seen as less competent than men which is sexism at work.
Mobility: of course as a girl it's 'abnormal' to travel from place to place even though it's for job purposes so people don't think you're into sex work and also the fact that married women can only move when their husbands decide.
Specialisation: they never have time for that because they are supposedly supposed to be married with kids at the said time it takes for that and then a bonus point, a female medical doctor with a specialty with a high rank is often than not seen as a threat and "emasculating" factor.



So no, that comment isn't simplistic in any way

Tallesty1:
Ok........



You win

MrLouisVanGaal1:
Pitiably it's a man's world. Man was created to be stronger, faster and a protector to the woman. It is just natural the woman would feel secure being in his arms, being cared for by him as he leads the home being the stronger vessel like i said. It's on this premise coupled with the submissiveness their religions preaches that ensures women are automated from infant to view marriage as the eldorado of female existence. My sister write a billion articles like this if you want, but this order will not change soon. Except you want men to stop being stronger, except you want women to stop following what the pastor, imam, bible, quoran say.

Even many women reading this are so consumed with the love of marriage and marriage related things that nothing matters than that day and the r

espect of being addressed as Mrs.

pickabeau1:



I'm not sure u understood the post

Her statement was marriage is d reason females don't practice

You just rather explained my points

safarigirl:
your English is barely comprehensible. You'll have to work on it, then maybe I can understand you enough to give you a proper reply

sonofananimal:
LOLZ! On a serious note: I don't have anything against FEMINIST or whatsoever, my problem is with the hypocritic NAIJA WOMEN. There are talking about equal right but still want the men to pay bride price, equal right but you won't see them proposing to a man but rather says “god forbid ” equal right but there will want you to pay there tp, food money and you won't see the so called NAIJA WOMEN saying “let me pay half of it” but rather asking you to pay

Shall the OP is just pouring out her depression. Nothing much

girly00zero:



Yes, to prove there wasn't anything simplistic about the first comment.
Maybe we both are misunderstanding each other

LastProphet:



if in 2015 you are still thinking strength is muscles then sorry. the op has said something that is beyond the IQ of 90% of Nigerians so you are excused for not understanding

MizMyColi:
I have learnt today that there is a difference between complement and complete.

Thanks Epaul.

Now, let me sit on my paw paw tree and wait for someone to come and preach to me that I am incomplete because Mrs and stoned ring never enter the equation.

MrLouisVanGaal1:


my brother....does advance in time change the fact that women are the weaker sex. Anatomically, physiologically and psychologically. The moment you understand that being intellectually sound doesn't translate to superiority of the feminine gender. The better your home will be orelse you are just gonna be a paper for the loo in her hands all in the name of equality.

kosplateau:

ur good grammar can't get u a dummy hubby.it hasn't worked and will never. ...to think u are better than is laughable.

iamkingzlee:
Nwannem, Nna ehn.... Long time, dear. I"ve been gooood. how far you?

MizMyColi:
This writeup is written by a Nigerian, especially for Nigerian Ladies.
Please understand that while I and the writer share this view, you are under no obligation to share.
If it does not resonate with you...please feel free to toss it out and shout like Orubebe did "WE WILL NOT TAKE THIS; THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE"
If it does resonate with you, please welcome like a breath of fresh air.




https://wordsmithf./2015/09/30/woman-you-are-more-than-a-ring-and-a-title/

Adaeze003:


The beauty of a woman lies within her actually.

Secondly, Paul in the same bible advised men and women to stay single but to avoid sin, get married.

The point is not in any way to undermine marriage and all that it stands for. It might be to change the mentality and orientation.

Man and woman are dependent on each other and not one more than the other as we have been made to believe. The man and the woman need marriage equally and not one more than the other. So, girls should be brought up to find value in themselves first and not hoping to find value WHEN they get married.

Another point is, some poor women are also unmarried not just the wealthy ones so I guess it is safe to say that not everyone will get married. That said, what will you rather have? A woman gnashing her teeth, living in penury because she is unmarried or one who is actually excelling in other aspects of life?

And please, enough of the "they cry all night " talk, some people who are married cry as well! Marriage is not a sure route to happiness and fulfillment. Such is life so, let's stop deluding ourselves. But then again, I guess it is better to cry "married" than single abi?

LastProphet:


the person that provided the most leadership in the lsst organization I worked was a woman and she beat many of us men to it without contest. at a point we started to call her MANdam! bros you don't become a leader in the family because you have a joystick! you got to earn it abeg, lets stop deceiving ourselves abeg