Guys knowing you men have a lot of ego and pride, can and would you be able to (easily) forgive your girl if she insults you badly as a result of frustration, if you are the cause of her doing so or not frustration?

Forgive Fire!!!

Wo! I would beat the living crap out of her before she even finishes her caterwauls! If she has a loose tongue, the best way to zip it back is by reminding her with a huge fist everytime her mouth opens and i wont even feel one ounce of remorse for my actions. Action speaks louder than words and as she words, i reply with action. No dulling!

jack tweed:

Forgive Fire!!!

Wo! I would beat the living crap out of her before she even finishes her caterwauls! If she has a loose tongue, the best way to zip it back is by reminding her with a huge fist everytime her mouth opens and i wont even feel one ounce of remorse for my actions. Action speaks louder than words and as she words, i reply with action. No dulling!

U scare me ooooh.

@jack

you harsh ooooooo

Jack is more or less my kind of man
people like jack are wot ladies need

kip it up man!

jack tweed:

Forgive Fire!!!

Wo! I would beat the living crap out of her before she even finishes her caterwauls! If she has a loose tongue, the best way to zip it back is by reminding her with a huge fist everytime her mouth opens and i wont even feel one ounce of remorse for my actions. Action speaks louder than words and as she words, i reply with action. No dulling!

I hope you live in Nigeria!!!

because anywhere else your ass is toast!!

tpiah:

I hope you live in Nigeria!!!

because anywhere else your ass is toast!!

Yes i will but not when she does it over and over again, it has to be one off.

Diva1:

Guys knowing you men have a lot of ego and pride, can and would you be able to (easily) forgive your girl if she insults you badly as a result of frustration, if you are the cause of her doing so or not frustration?

Forgiveness??

~Sauron~:

Forgiveness??

What is so hard?

Lax75:

That is what actually leads to the destruction of many marriages believe it or not. Yes, men "physically" abuse women, but funny enough there are alot of "emotionally" abused men who because of pride and ego don't admit it. Instead they hold in all the insults their women give them and it turns into hidden resentments. These resentments then is what leads to other things. Women need to really watch what comes out of their tongues because words do stick. I know a friend of mine who is divorced now (marriage only lasted 15 months). During arguments, his wife used to always say stuff like "my parents didn't want me to marry you and your illiterate family, etc" This guy was actually the one who not only paid for the wedding, but flew her parents over from Nigeria to attend the wedding. He confessed to me that words like that sewed seeds that really killed his trust in the marriage. Today they are divorced. The power of the tongue is REALLY underestimated. Growing up, my mom used to always curse me and tell me that I reminded her of my father (father and I look alike and my mom and dad have been divorced for over 3 decades). Well, what happened was that growing up this affected my self esteem but to the glory of God almighty he delivered me from all the insults that affected me.

My 2 cents.

What if it is the fault of the man that led to such insults? what would you say on that? cos I believe it's because most men dont listen especially when there are signs.

What if it is the fault of the man that led to such insults? what would you say on that? cos I believe it's because most men dont listen especially when there are signs.

I am glad you asked.

I will also focus on a few words of yours. You said I "believe" it's because "most" men dont listen,

Ok, something wrong here. There is always a way to fight "fairly." Just as with a man, you shouldn't raise your hand on your woman simply because she doesn't listen. Insulting and raining insults on any grown man or woman will only lead to more issues. As I mentioned before, it is not the right thing to do because it only causes more problems and resentment down the line. Trust me, I have watched it ruin relationships. You may also end up saying things you regret when you cool down but unfortunately the person you are insulting will not forget.

tpiah:

I hope you live in Nigeria!!!

because anywhere else your ass is toast!!

Abi ohhh!!!!


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Geez. . .some of these asses that come on here and spit fire. . .are just the ones who ain't gonna do nothing. . .so please give us a break.  

to the jack tweeds n 190s of this place
i pray ur asses get beat up so bad one day by the fellas of one of the ladies u been hittin n they drum it into ur heads with punches on each sillable that real men dont hit ladies

KMT!

bluespice:

to the jack tweeds n 190s of this place
i pray ur asses get beat up so bad one day by the fellas of one of the ladies u been hittin n they drum it into ur heads with punches on each sillable that real men dont hit ladies

KMT!

That's not really a solution now is it? It just continues the trend of violence and childish stupidity. What has violence ever accomplished? The real key to solving these kinds of taboos is to communicate.

If a wife feels her husband is being hurtful or has really done her wrong . . . nothing should stop her from calling him aside in a serious conversation to let him know it has a profound effect on her. If he refuses to right the situation, why marry that kind of man in the first place?

tpiah:

I hope you live in Nigeria!!!

because anywhere else your ass is toast!!

That's  if he is lucky.
Most likely  his ass will belong to his big, hairy, pot-bellied, cellmate, who would have him change his name from jack to jacqueline, as it would better suit his role as his cellmate's bitch.

Terrific! feminists are at it again, so what else is new? To hell with his pride and ego, there's no problem in calling the man a swine, a pig-headed buffoon, an idiot; afterall, they should understand that that's the way women are made: to use their tongue - anyhow! Moreover, he is a man, so he should willingly take the insults as one!!!

The reasoning  of some people is just so pathetic, you wonder how on earth they mange to function. . .

@OP would I [b]Easily [/b]forgive her if she rains insults on me? Would she [b]easily [/b]forgive me were I to retaliate in a manner I deem fit?

'Real men don't hit women' they say . . . who gives you right to define who a real man is, when you are yet to fully understand who a real woman is? ie one that doesn't insult real men! 

Mai Suya:

Terrific! feminists are at it again, so what else is new? To hell with his pride and ego, there's no problem in calling the man a swine, a pig-headed buffoon, an idiot; afterall, they should understand that that's they women are made: to use their tongue - anyhow! Moreover, he is a man, so he should willingly take the insults as one!!!

The reasoning of some people is just so pathetic, you wonder how on earth they mange to function. . .

@OP would I [b]Easily [/b]forgive her if she rains insults on me? Would she [b]easily [/b]forgive me were I to retaliate in a manner I deem fit?

'Real men don't hit women' they say . . . who gives you right to define who a real man is, when you are yet to fully understand who a real woman is? ie one that doesn't insult real men!

POWERFUL POST, POWERFUL POST

Why would she rain insults on me? Would I easily forgive her? No!

A woman with a tongue penned for insults is not even my choice of woman. No sensible dude would ever want such a woman.

yes as pple of faith and love we surround the ones we love with love and as i said earlier love is keepin records of no wrong done and remember a thousand flames cant quench it with faith callin tins dat be not as though they were we say My guy or chick is not insultive she is careful to talk, she talks in lovely tone she does not nag and i love her. jus kip tellin her u love her and keep prayin 4 her but wait a while did u follow ur heart concerning her? is she really Gods chosen for u Talk to God. Wen i say this i mean god should not seeem abstract to u he said he will neva leave nor forsake u now our conscience is the inward man jus be still God is always talkin so u can hear wat he is sayin concernin dat babe if she is for real jus like u know ur earthly father wud talk and u will hear the same goes.

@jack & 190
:- [Are you guys for real? probably missed your way by a couple of centuries. On no account should you hit a woman!!! we are in the 21st century for heaven sakes
@ OP
I would not forgive her cause nothing turns me off in a woman faster than a loose tongue . I think women should count their word before uttering them as some of the things you say can't be taken back
As for me i would just walk away from the whole thing

funny.
i've insulted my bf a thousand times.but he stil finds somehow, and forgives.am really praying to stop the habit

I agree with oxone, i'll simply walk away and pray she knows wath she's doing.

o GOD help ma gal not to fall into such huge temptation of insult cause i would pull out her tongue from her mouth and latter ask for forgiveness plus a choices to ether remain in this relationship or still remain and also be a good girl

Jack Tweed, u sound like a Devil. Am very sure u grew up seeing ur dad beating ur mom, or in an area full of violence, else u wont be sounding so cruel. I imagine what u would look like?

Hello Everyone,
Listen, it is very wrong to insult anyone, be it a kid or an adult. Though within kids, it can be overlooked, because maybe they are really young and dont really understands what they are saying, but with adults, it is a disgusting act. I personally, believe it or not. I find it difficult to insult anyone, been it my mate, junior, or someone older than me. To cut the long story short, I dont see any reason why a decent girl someone who is not a LovePeddler will stoop herself so low, as to insult her husband.

It should be noted that telling someone that he/she is a fool when he really is, is not bad.    Though it shouldnt be said to ones partner. Because by doing it that you are indirectly insulting yourself. Because a girlfriend of a fool is also a fool.

@ author
As for the question, nothing is unforgiveable, though some are punishable

@abi-abi
If your pile dey beat ur mama, no be so e be for everybody

@lady bam
dont call him bf, he is ur slave, a mad slave for dat matter, because only a foolish slave will keep takin shit, and decide not to escape.

I'm happy people are now equating insults with physical abuse, how classy?

It is a well-known fact that women are not as (physically) strong as men, so it would be wrong for you, as a man, to hit someone who's not as strong as you, it is called being a bully. On the other hand, it is not proven that women are more insultive than men are, so there's nothing wrong when a woman insults you, you have as much power to say something back or walk out of the room.

This brings me to my next point, people getting hit can't walk out, people getting insulted can choose not to listen.

Now to the question, it's all context dependent, there's no blanket answer to this question. It depends on a couple of things like: what the woman said, how loud she was, what the man has done to get that response from her, and how often she "rains" insults.

Dont mind all these wimpy oafs that hit women and cower in fear when even remotely threathened by their fellow men. There's nothin wrong with walking away.no one says u have to forgive her.

The thing is, as a man, you have to let your woman know from the onset what you expect from he early in the relationship (that's if you're serious about her and vice versa). For those who support beating her up, well, there are other ways to put a woman in line other than beating.If she loves or cares a hoot about you, neglecting her would crush her more than a 16 hit combo involving slaps and punches.Besides, violence is another way of expressing loss of control.When you beat her up, you have LOST ALL CONTROL and what happens when she doesn't respond to the beatings?Wetin you go do?Kill am?

Exercise discipline hommies.

n-guage:

I'm happy people are now equating insults with physical abuse, how classy?

It is a well-known fact that women are not as (physically) strong as men, so it would be wrong for you, as a man, to hit someone who's not as strong as you, it is called being a bully. On the other hand, it is not proven that women are more insultive than men are, so there's nothing wrong when a woman insults you, you have as much power to say something back or walk out of the room.

This brings me to my next point, people getting hit can't walk out, people getting insulted can choose not to listen.

Now to the question, it's all context dependent, there's no blanket answer to this question. It depends on a couple of things like: what the woman said, how loud she was, what the man has done to get that response from her, and how often she "rains" insults.

So would you forgive easily if you as the man know you are the cause, no matter the gravity of words she said, maybe she has been giving u signs but you chose to ignore and then she explodes one day with words u could never imagine from her and next day, she begins to apologise, How would ur reaction be?

Dondav:

I agree with oxone, i'll simply walk away and pray she knows wath she's doing.

That's why she aplogises 'cos she realises. So u would still walk out?

lady bam:

funny.
i've insulted my bf a thousand times.but he stil finds somehow, and forgives.am really praying to stop the habit

Please stop lol, if it's a habit, once or twice due to frustration on his own side can be acceptable.

Pataki:

Why would she rain insults on me? Would I easily forgive her? No!

A woman with a tongue penned for insults is not even my choice of woman. No sensible dude would ever want such a woman.

What if you know she isnt that way but it was your own fault that trigerred such?

@Lax75

I agree with you but you know sometimes, words said might not be meant and it can't just happen one day, he woman would just start insulting, maybe the man was the cause,