I have keep this to myself for a long while but i can seem to get past it. I would not want to make this personal for one thing cos some of u mite know the lady in question.
The predicament started when she met this guy, She saw him as her all in all, She even saw both of them having a blast etc. they hung out, went to the movies, wined and dined she tried to please him in all aspects thinking is she was submissive like all Nija men want she would win his love. He too was attracted to her.
The lady in question is pretty, educated ,homely, outgoing, friendly, to the extent she has be compared to stars like halleberrry,christiana milan, genevie but she is not the voluptous type etc. Every guy wants to date her, she has beautiful legs, sexy body, she is a great cook, she gets compliments whereever she goes, Eg she goes in to a fast food joint she is likely to get half price for wateva she orders or even free sometimes, she is respectful and a really hard worker who cant stand men taking advantage of gurls who cant fend for themselve, ok enuf bout her because i can go on on on and on
problem
The guy she wants or hopes to get only whats to get in between her pants the dey hung out for about sixmonths after knowing each other for more than that but the guy insists on Test driving before he makes a decision, for the gurl pride is at stake,love is on the line.Etc,
She refuses so He calls it quits. Everyone parted ways. She is dating someone so she could forget him but she does not. she still hopes to see him

to add more to the situation, they meet and her skips abeat even after two years, She knows she wants him .she is at a loss not knowing what to do.
she tinks she should have slept with him and anoda point she thinks otherwise. if she had one wish it would be to be with him, Could he be the one for her, how can she approach this.she is dating someone who is and she knows is wrong for her.
She tried drinking but got her no where no she is concentratin on School and imagine Praying to God to make her forget him, he is a past she cant just wipe out. She is known not to fall in love or not to even recognise love when she sees it.
If ony she would forget him, every one around her saw the effect he had on her and told her he was a no good but nope it did not work, I think he wants to still play around becos that is what his friends are doing. Gosh if only she could forget, The guy she is dating loves her no doubt but her heart is somewhere else. I kept this away cos i dont know how to approach it, NL pls she needs urgent help before she goes crazy, in the shower she calls his name now his name is like the breath she breathes the annoying thing is he might not feel the same way for her, pleasessssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss help , on the verge of losing it
HOw can she forget him, what should she do? lives are at stake.

Tell me, what is the big deal? Is she a virgin? I am sure she is not, if she could give out her virginity to one stupid boy on the basis of naiveity, then she should follow her heart this time around.

it's never right for to give in,,,,,,,,

and what if after giving in he still dumps her, wouldn't that be worse.

she should just try her possible best to 4get abt him, it might be difficult tho

but with time. and judging from all aspect from the fact that the guy broke with

her b/cos she refused him sex shows he does not luv her. plzzzzz let her never give

in ohhhhh cos she'e goin 2 regret it

she lived a virgin,she died a virgin.What she couldnt give to man she gave to maggots.
I _{wonder what she is preserving}

if truely u love d guy,then give it 2 him.

surface:

if truely u love d guy,then give it 2 him.

My thoughts exactly

surface:

if truely u love d guy,then give it 2 him.

lol . . . u said that like she givin out chocolate

@ Poster
She shouldnt give in.  if he truely wants her, he should be willing to wait
for the lady, she should just fashi the guy she's with cus she wasting his time
she has to meet someone else, dont worry if she does MEET the right man she'll quickly for get
Hot dude

@ poster,he will never leave ur heart as long as u hold onto it.You need 2 cry ur eyes out over dis guy,realize he wasnt d one,and let urself love ur love somebody else,i hope dis helps.

maray:

@ poster,he will never leave ur heart as long as u hold onto it.You need 2 cry ur eyes out over dis guy,realize he wasnt d one,and let urself love ur love somebody else,i hope dis helps.

What if he is the one?

i think if ur boyfriend loves you, he would understand ur situation and not based d relationship on sex alone.so 4 dat reason he is not d one.

maray:

i think if ur boyfriend loves you, he would understand ur situation and not based d relationship on sex alone.so 4 dat reason he is not d one.

Pretty bold conclusion u have their sista.

He not wanting to date the girl because of her no sex stance doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like her.
He could have decided to let the relationship sly because of the fact that he knew he had probably be cheating on her (getting the sex somewhere else) if that is the most important thing to him.
Everyone has their own personal stance on how a relationship should be.
I personally will not date any girl that tells me no sex bla bla bla and that doesn't mean all i care about is sex as i don't.

maray:

i think if ur boyfriend loves you, he would understand ur situation and not based d relationship on sex alone.so 4 dat reason he is not d one.

With all the stuff girls do to their systems these days, a brother might want to test-drive and make sure the system is working right before comitting to anything serious. I know some people who even refused marriage until the woman got pregnant!

Must u guys sample before serious any commitment?

whitelexi:

With all the stuff girls do to their systems these days, a brother might want to test-drive and make sure the system is working right before comitting to anything serious. I know some people who even refused marriage until the woman got pregnant!

whitelexi, u must know people who died last year and you didnt.  why must people do things because others are doing it?.

@jenny,  i would say tell your friend sex is not all it is wrapped up to be.  and she should leave the guy she is with that she doesn't love.  true love they say always wait.  tell her to wait and real true love would come.

ifshe is all you say she is,  all she ned to do is have confidence in God's ability to bring her the right partner.

maray:

Must u guys sample before serious any commitment?

help me ask him and while at it must girls allow every guy that ask pay as you go?.

And what if after marrying him,she notices he has an erectile dysfunction and that they can never ever have sex.?

Feelitx:

And what if after marrying him,she notices he has an erectile dysfunction and that they can never ever have sex.?

Lol

JJYOU:

whitelexi, u must know people who died last year and you didnt. why must people do things because others are doing it?.

Didnt say i was gonna do it, just pointing out reasons why people do it. Its almost a norm now in some places, so its definitely not new.

having sex, is no way to show or win love, dnt be deceived. tell your friend to keep her thighs shut and forget him, true love waits. and from the description of your friend, she seems a decent matured person to me, then she should be making love, not having sex. and that can only be possible after marriage.

the truth is, if he leaves just cos he is not getting it, then there was no love,he's all about the ding!

TO HELL WITH THE GUY!.

WELL,
I WANT TO COMMEND THE LADY FOR COURAGE TO CALL IT QUIT BUR SHE NEEDS TO GET OUT OF THE PAST.

I WILL QUOTE ONE OF MY FAVOURITE MENTOR BISHOP JAKES "THE PERSON THAT LEFT YOPU IS NOT JOINED TO YOU.YOUR DESTINY IS NOT TIED TO THE PERSON WHO LEFT".
WOMAN ,DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT, PLS DO.

IF YOU LOOK CAREFULLY YOU WILL FIND THAT THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH CURRENTLY HAS SOMETHING YOU WILL LOVE BUT YOU ARE BECLOUDED.HOWEVER,IF THIS IS NOT SO,IT MEANS YOU GOT IN TO FILL THE EMOTIONAL VACUUM,THEN GET OUT & ALLOW YOURSELF TIME TO GET HEALED OF THE WOUNDS.

IF YOU NEED FURTHER INFO SEND ME A MAIL AT admin@loveandsoulmate.com
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Thanks everyone for the responses as i explain further to clarify,

Mashkov:

Tell me, what is the big deal? Is she a virgin? I am sure she is not, if she could give out her virginity to one stupid boy on the basis of naiveity, then she should follow her heart this time around.

unfortunately in this case she did not lose her virginity to a man, she had an accident and lost it, And true she should follow her heart but alot is at stake.its been two years now. she is thinking should she have done it like you said but both parties have pride. Esp the guy, She would have settled for anything even if it was boifrend galfrnd for a while atleast her mind would be settled , instead he suggested them be[b]friends with benefit [/b] and that was the last straw that broke the camels back.
@ pink lady you are soo right but even after two or so years that they parted she cant seem to forget him, She still breathes his name as if it was the air she breathes, i cant say his own side of the story so he probaly have forgotten about her and moved on.she tried to move on but its not, The thing is this is her first time falling for a guy.little did she know she was falling in love since she had neva bin one and did not even know what to call it. She even confessed it to him but you know nija boys now they start thinking you are psycho.

which kain nollywood story be dis?"

even if the girl is next to angel gabriel,she no get fault abi?

abegii make i hear word

JJYOU:

[size=16pt]@jenny,[/size]  i would say tell your friend sex is not all it is wrapped up to be.  and she should leave the guy she is with that she doesn't love.  true love they say always wait.  tell her to wait and real true love would come.

ifshe is all you say she is,  all she ned to do is have confidence in God's ability to bring her the right partner.
help me ask him and while at it must girls allow every guy that ask pay as you go?.

amebo no1.:

which kain nollywood story be dis?"

even if the girl is next to angel gabriel,she no get fault abi?

abegii make i hear word

Sharrap dia Jenny and stop pretending Pastor JJYOU saw a vision and has spoken, we now know its you, abi you wan deny a man of God

How body, I have missed you, longest time


DISCLAIMER:
Amebo22 is not Amebo no 1, na counterfeit

wetin be dis one again JJYOU?

abeg amebo no1. and amebo22 are tow different persons ooooo


@busybody

how body,_{i no miss you abeg}

surface:

if truely u love d guy,then give it 2 him.

it would ve solved the prob if she knew she was in love with him then but now the question is what should she do now after all this years, she probaly realised that she is in love with him though he did not express it to her but explained at that time that he might fall in love later with her since guys dont fall in love on time.

maray:

@ poster,he will never leave ur heart as long as u hold onto it.You need 2 cry ur eyes out over dis guy,realize he wasnt d one,and let urself love ur love somebody else,i hope dis helps.

she has cried her soul trust me, for good six months she almost went crazy tnks to her family who stood by her thus she tried to concentrate her energy on somting else. even if they meet in church her heart still skiips a beat. He liked i have to added and she was kinda naive on who truely love her thus she neva gave her heart out.
At whitelexi

maray:

i think if ur boyfriend loves you, he would understand ur situation and not based d relationship on sex alone.so 4 dat reason he is not d one.

true what if he is the one for her , she has tot about it. and then again he probaly has a serious galfrend some where we would neva know but the tot has crossed her mind.
i must add that he was patient enuf for a guy in Yankee hangin out with a gorgeous girl for more than 6months and noting with his frends probaly teasing him about it, you know what i mean

whitelexi:

With all the stuff girls do to their systems these days, a brother might want to test-drive and make sure the system is working right before comitting to anything serious. I know some people who even refused marriage until the woman got pregnant!

Yes you are so right but he was not saying anytin about commitment and he was a perfect gentleman to say to her that he could not commit to her but then again he wanted her to go into nursing or Medical so becos he wanted financial security, imagine choosing ur wife based on profession just becos of the experiences others have had concerning women in yankee going after thier hubbys money, So anoda set bak is that he is financially cautios as well

amebo no1.:

wetin be dis one again JJYOU?

abeg amebo no1. and amebo22 are tow different persons ooooo

Hmmn, soffry soffry Jenny touchquery not my annointed, saith the Lord God of host

amebo no1.:

@busybody

how body,_{i no miss you abeg}

Waka joo  I see urmy handiwork on the Australian thread in the Travel section and I am impressed I have surpassed myself

Amebo22

Tell her to remove the scales from her eyes, common, the guy broke up with her just because she refused to go against her principles and have sex with him, how preposterous Tell her she can do better than that abeg.

amebo no1.:

which kain nollywood story be dis?"

even if the girl is next to angel gabriel,she no get fault abi?

abegii make i hear word

if only it was nollywood story, it would ve been better, ok this is the fault the guy said she has ---she is not tall enuf for him and she is adding weight, that was the only thing he said. the gal is not 5'9 but she is well above 5'2
@smooth
you are so right but the prob is we cant choose who we fall in love with. May be she is not the one for him and that is wat he thinks. He was at one point comparing her to his friends galfrend who travels al ova the world ,get the guys gifts etc, thus i guess we could add financial to the story, it really a complex scenario and we really wish it was hollywood atleast we would know the outcome, please the thing is what can she do know to forget him or should she try to get in touch with him is the next step of query, every one is already tired of hearing the guys name and have told her to forget him,

~ I look forward to that day when sex won't be everything in a relationship ~

big_bumper:

Amebo22

Tell her to remove the scales from her eyes, common, the guy broke up with her just because she refused to go against her principles and have sex with him, how preposterous Tell her she can do better than that abeg.

Yes she wants to move on ,, she wants to forget him , she is dating someone that loves her unconditionally but she cant forget him. tat is the help she need rite now, wat can she do? is the question,
the guy from the past is really nice, a perfect gentleman, but i guess he wanted more of a supermodel type of gal. i dont blame him which guy no like better thing, she wanted security but which gal doesn't. At least She went back to sch to further her education but he wished she went in for medicine instead or Nursing, Now what can give her rest of mind.
@phileolove You will definitely get an email (s) soonest.
Need i say she has been praying that she forgets him but al she does is think about him, Another problem insight might be what if and i mean what if in a scenario they got back together and he was not all that she hope for, she has thought about this too, would it have been worth it, she just sits and judge herself ,

 if anyone has been in this situation you would realize its hard to advice or even know that there is no hard and fast rule, Please NL,

Czarskit:

~ I look forward to that day when sex won't be everything in a relationship ~

if they were in a relationship i am sure she would not have minded, its a beautiful thing to enjoy i presume. Now she remains in her fantasy world hoping and praying for a good story to trun out. all this would not be an issue if she can forget his existence