posakosa:

Do men need approval from their friends when choosing thier wives or girlfriends ?


Ive met many MEN who won't date women because they're friends don't like them. Anyways my question is do men need approval from thier friends when choosing thier wives or girlfriends,

Lax75:

@ poster

Please.,, women do this too, even more than men.

posakosa:

Ive met many MEN who won't date women because they're friends don't like them. Anyways my question is do men need approval from thier friends when choosing thier wives or girlfriends,

Lax75:

@ poster

Please.,, women do this too, even more than men.

~Sauron~:

I wouldn't let any of ma homeboys marry a poor excuse of a woman.
It's a code of respect we have for one another.

~Sauron~:

I wouldn't let any of ma homeboys marry a poor excuse of a woman.
It's a code of respect we have for one another.

posakosa:

What if this woman is the love of your life, will you just scratch her off the list cause ur friends don't like her, why not ditch ur homeboys ?

posakosa:

Do men need approval from their friends when choosing thier wives or girlfriends ?


Ive met many MEN who won't date women because they're friends don't like them. Anyways my question is do men need approval from thier friends when choosing thier wives or girlfriends,

kay_pumpin:

I doubt if it is a MAJOR factor but of course it could be if what your friend has to say as per the lady in question is MAJOR.

posakosa:


What if this woman is the love of your life,  will you just scratch her off the list cause ur friends don't like her,  why not ditch ur homeboys ?

posakosa:




Women do it, but such acceptance is not a deciding factor, For men its a deciding factor. This is when they start ignoring the gal or finding unsubstantiated fault.

tope5000:

But why?

kay_pumpin:

Your friend could have an info on the girl you weren't privy to

posakosa:



I would love to hear from married men.

I think that some married men on this forum would suggest that you keep your wfiey away from your friends, any man who waits for friends approval may probably never retain a long term relationship,

Friends and wifey in my opinion don't mix.

opsydudu:

i disagree, it is always a deciding factor with women. it applies to both men and women with no exceptions.
for the woman to be the love of your life, she must have been accepted by your friends. i don't understand how she came into your life w/o your friends knowledge. dating/relationship which lead to marriage is a gradual process so you take one step at a time

She has to get to meet your friend (not really all of them), once he give the go ahead then you are in.

posakosa:

Your friends only know her externally, and some girls are good pretenders,  

Family members, now,  thats an entirely differnt conversation.

stillwater:

Not really. Women always think her friends are trying to pour sand in her garri.

stillwater:

Not really. Women always think her friends are trying to pour sand in her garri.

davidylan:

Depends on the level of "friendship" though. When i mean "friends" i mean guys who are like brothers to me.

posakosa:


aaah i c,

i've dated a guy. <with whom my relationship with him was practically destroyed beyond repairable repair because his friends didn't like me>

So I don't think that its fair for men to choose women based on what their friends think. Its not a nice trait for a man, in my opinion,

Wat now happens when YOU marry the woman and then the relationship between HER and your friends become strained, will you dump her because of them ?

posakosa:

L O L

Well, they were not respectful people and I always reminded them that they were LOSERS!!


I have no regrets though, but Im sure I fancy a guy who can stand up for me in front of his friends, even when Im wrong and corrects me in private and u've done with the girl in your example.

davidylan:

Yeah that's another point though . . . in public it HAS to be your girl first even when she's completely wrong. In private you can speak to her but no friend has a right to say anything to her face even if you're not there.

That being said . . . i think it was wrong of you to talk to his friends rudely. Even i would not take that lightly . . . its a sign you can equally do that to me in future. How you treat a dude's friends is indicative of how much you respect him.

Again i'm assuming your dude's friends where men of integrity anyway.