Firstly, What is Marriage? Marriage is a legal union of a man and a woman to continue in a journey until death do them part. Please note, marriage is different from wedding. Wedding ends in the place where the couples are joined while marriage is a continous process.

What will determine if you are ready for marriage

1. AGE: Marriage is not suppose to be between a boy and a girl but rather between two grown up people. Therfore, your age is very important in your preparation, though some will argue that there is no specific age for marriage. Ofcourse! Yes, but not for immature boys and girls

2. MATURITY: Marriage is for mature minds. You need to be mature to endure things. When challenges are throen on you will you be able to face them? Do you have the ability to reason correctly when under intense family pressure? This will make your wife have confidence in you

3. JOB: Be up and doing, do not wait until you marry before you start looking for a job. If you are jobless, look for one before planning for wedding.

4. GET SOME MATERIAL: Do not wait until you get home as a lady, and start expecting your husband to buy you underwears. As a man too you need to care for home materials, even merely entering your room as single, there should be a reflection of your readiness for marriage.

5. BE SPIRITUALLY SOUND: This applie to all religion. The reason is that marriage is a Life journey, a journey you making with another person and you may come across any challenges. You just goto God direction not Nairaland, some people you are seeking opinion from might be passing through same problem or still single.

Effects of Hurried Marriage

No matter how cute, handsome, rich, educated or perfect you may be, if you rush into marriage unprepared, you will rush out prepared.

1. SUFFERING: This will happen as a result of lack of knowledge about marriage e.g. A young lady who find it difficult to wash cloth may find laundry work as a burden in a home, that is why people like this will be throwing away some of the children napkins and cloths because they cannot wash cloth. What about if your husband cannot afford washing machine? Then what happen.

2. LACK OF CARE FOR FAMILY: A young man who married hurriedly may not have the knowledge of what it takes to become a father or man in a home. He can wake up and go out and return home by 12pm without care for the welfare of the children and wife. This also applies to some ladies that will abandon a 7month old baby to gossip with some aimless friends

3. LOVE WILL FADE: A love that is formed on a particular condition will not be a lasting one. Any love that is not built on a solid foundation will fade later, and the eyes of both partners will be opened, everything that have blindfolded them from beauty, six pack, Nicki Minaj boobs, money and education will fade into thin air

4. NO HONOUR: The marriage will lack honour. Probably because she got pregnant during your courtship, or because you have both defile yourself several times before marriage. Nothing will be special about your marriage any longer. The zeal will be lost. That is why most ladies complain about their partner lose interest in having sex with them. Ofcourse, yes! He will want to try elsewhere because nothing special about you any longer.

5. BLAMING GAME: There may be bitterness and fault finding. The husband may claim to be perfect while he will be blaming the wife. This may result to fight frequently because both are trying to justify themselves. This is why you see some couples regretting their marriage, they will be seeing marriage as a bondage instead of pleasure and thereby, discouraging young men and women. The fact is, you cannot sleepp on Delilah's laps and expect to wake up on Abraham's bosom

6. NO WISDOM TO OVERCOME STORMY PERIOD: In your marriage's journey whether you like it or not you are bound to face some unforeseen storms or problems that may like to interrupt your family joy. Whether you married hurriedly or not, you must face that storm. Remember two different character coming together.

7. DIVORCE: It is better never to begin marriage than not to proceed when there are lot of hazards and difficult problems. Divorce affect partners mentally because you have to live with regret through out your whole life. It will also have effect on the children.

8. POVERTY: Any intending couples who fail to sit down and consider what they have in their resources, money yielding avenue and consider the expense of it or count what it will cost them very well, may end up wallowing in poverty. If you do not care about this, when poverty comes into your family, your children may inherit it if care is not taken.

Marriage is not something someone should jump into.

Op it's true one need to get a life before bringing another life into his life or else he will loose his life.

Marriage is not a must.

Part II

CAUSES OF HURRIED MARIAGE

1. CHILDISHNESS: Some people think that marriage can be entered into at anytime, they lack proper knowledge about marraige. Some young girls and boys are entering into it just because they have grown up and look sophisticated.

2. LACK OF GUIDANCE: Prov. 11:14 says "Where there is no counsellors people make mistake" Some people have bad parents or guidances which influence them. If you are living with somebody that will never guide you at all, you may rush into marriage. Some young girls and boys who happend to be the bread winners or because of their impacts in the home may be left without counsel.

3. IMMITATION: Some people married hurriedly just because they see their classmate, friends or relatives going into marriage without thinking twice of that person's background achievement or opportunities. Another person may rush on the ground that he is the only single in the office, even the clerk that did not finish his secondary school has married. Who tells you that what GOD's will for you his the same? Wait for your time bro

4. PRESSURE FROM PARENT: Your parent may lead you right or wrong but it is left for you to know the steering of your home is in your hand and you must twist it with the wisdom of God. Now as a bachelor or spinster, you may be 20,25 or 30years of age and the moment you are influenced and you hurried into marriage be sure that you are going to spend the rest of 50,45 or 40 years of your life span with man or woman. So if your marriage is not enjoyable then, you must endure it for the rest of your life. Some parents will be crying in other to impress their wish on their children's heart, some eill be kneeling down while some will be ranging curses indirectly by saying "except if I did not feed you with my breast". Your parents remain your parent but they cannot force you against your wish.

5. LAZINESS: There is nothing laziness cannot cause in life of a spinster or bachelor. A lazy girl will determine to marry just because she knows that husband must take care of his wife so, she will not like to do any work or may be because the husband is financially loaded. Some single have got nothing done and all they will be struggling to get is a house, and not a home. Theses types of ladies and young men only want to hide under the umbrella of somebody for survival

7. LUSTFUL DESIRE: Youthful lust is the main wheel pushing some young people into marriage. Lust of the flesh makes them to fulfil their lustful desire on time, they want to enjoy what married people are enjoying. These type od people, everytime they happen to see or meet a young girl or boy, they must lust after him or her as if they should put the person on bed immediately and once this is not impossible for them, the conclusion in their heart will now be "let's say I have gotten my own wife or husband now as the case may be, I will not need to be writing much address on my letter like this" sexual intercourse is the greatest priority to them in marriage, they feel that is the only thing marriage is all about.

8. SYMPATHY: For the fact that aparticular person is suffering or has misfortune does not give you the right to marry him/her. Having compassion on a girl or boy must not make you go into marriage. All other thing that are not on the foundation of true conviction will fade.

9. COVETOUSNESS: When you are conventing the achievemtn of your partner(lady or young man) you can hurried him/her into marriage because you don't want to loose him/her. At times you are zealous for nothing but what you can see now as his/her achievemtns and you feel a little time another girl or boy can marry that person. These possesses and influence some singles will nevr give them the chance to thinks of what may likely be the repercaustion in the nearest future(after marriage). Do not sell yourself cheaply so that your partner will not be dominating over you as a slave in the home.