I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we both loved each other so much,we were best of friends and we both enjoyed each others company. But lately for about 6months now we have been having issues.
She has a females close friend who is now like "d director of her life" .
She has always been a decent,what baffles me now is that she won't even let me know her phone password,if I ask her she will say she needs privacy.we fight alot on dis and she's always busy on WhatsApp and bbm one way or d other.infact she now has alot of male friends and we never I ask her she tells me they are just her friends.
She now nags at every little issue dat she gets me so annoyed everytim..last week she was still with my family when she came visiting and her family likes me too,yet she claims she loves me but she has totally changed..she doesn't even respect me again and when we talk about the male friends she claims shes having,she said I can't stop her from having them,and this is because her females friends have them too.
Right now am so confused about her and she doesn't even make me trust her again.I love her and I don't want to loose her but she's driving me really crazy.
What do you guys think I should do..mature advice please,how do I change her back and how do I handle her situation.am tired of everyday quarrel

@op, have you started fvcking her?

You can't change her, only she can change herself. I think she's seeing someone else, who likely spoils her more financially and she's attached to the person(s).

I'd advise you move on and stop watering stones, only way to withdraw her attention from the new lover boy(s) is to spoil her with money too, more than he does.

She is screwing someone else.Sorry.

Stop asking her who she's chatting with and start acting as if she's not there whenever she's around you..



I believe she will not want to loose her man, then she will rearrange her brain herself

Op i wld have gven u a good advice,but as u c me so,na ovaChop belle full dey worry me..

Wait till 2moro.

U dating a Baby...simple! I hope U ain't a Baby too?? Ain't talking abt age though.

I'm so sorry for ur loss son, move on.

she don Change? APC babe. Transform her!

You claim she has change, you should also change, drop acting as if she is your all in all, you are not married, free her alittle that will also make her feel jealous

Give her some space n stopped being jealous, if you don't you will end up loosing her my friend.

We have a nature that attracts us to what we can't get, or control. Make her jealous bro, she will regulate.

Goodluck

ronald4lif:
You can't change her, only she can change herself. I think she's seeing someone else, who likely spoils her more financially and she's attached to the person(s).

I'd advise you move on and stop watering stones, only way to withdraw her attention from the new lover boy(s) is to spoil her with money too, more than he does.

I am pretty sure d "other guy" has not spent 100naira on her, I'm very sure. She's just being a woman, enjoying the attention from the "other guys". I like men who have control over their women, I mean u are the man here, teLl her to quit paying attention to these "other guys".

Her heart is probably not innit anymore.

delectablegyal:
@op, have you started fvcking her?

dis vi*g*n girl. But why be say na fvck fvck dey ya mouth everytym?

delectablegyal:
@op, have you started fvcking her?

Are u not on d head?

OP... U are in a similar boat as I was in few weeks ago... LET ME TELL U HOW THIS WORKS
Boy meets girl
Girl likes boy cos he's exciting and fun etc
They start dating and relationship becomes routine (doin same thing over and over nd over again)
Girl gets bored nd starts wondering what life would be like with another guy (GIG effect)
Guy suddenly realizes that his gf is 'changing' and tries to NAG her back into his life by arguing, begging, groveling, stalking etc
Girl gets more irritated and asks for SPACE
Guy becomes hrtbrken....
OP, ur relationship with this girl as u know it is over if u continue bugging her or pleading with her to go back to how things were ... She has obviously entered the 'i need space' phase so respect her decision and give her an entire 'GALAXY'.... This is the only thing u can do to increase the chances of u guys ever being together again....
If u have always been nice to her nd never offended her nd the relationship fails due to a fault of hers, trust me she would miss u at some point in her life when everything goes south for her.
Walk away nd dont contact her, act like u are better off without her (i know ur thinking she's the best girl ever, but nah, there's even better) ... Let her experience other guys nd see what she lost... She may come back (plz experience other girls as well, life is short)... U may not even want her again wen she comes back (I know u would take her back tho, cos u think she's ur 'soul mate'...well she isnt! ).

oselixir:
You claim she has change, you should also change, drop acting as if she is your all in all, you are not married, free her alittle that will also make her feel jealous

Give her some space n stopped being jealous, if you don't you will end up loosing her my friend.

We have a nature that attracts us to what we can't get, or control. Make her jealous bro, she will regulate.

Goodluck

how do u think I can do that,I have really talked and talked to her and d issue is getting complicated...her wahala is too much and she wouldn't even gimme attention again.

bronzegoddess:



I am pretty sure d "other guy" has not spent 100naira on her, I'm very sure. She's just being a woman, enjoying the attention from the "other guys". I like men who have control over their women, I mean u are the man here, teLl her to quit paying attention to these "other guys".

Her heart is probably not innit anymore.

I told her this nite but she's saying she wants to have friends and dat I can't stop her from having friends.she has become so bold now and disrespect me...nobdoubt she loves me but she's becoming sometin else probably because of the friends she walks with now and they are convincing her

The end is upon you. Just prepare for life after her...

pharmroyle:
OP... U are in a similar boat as I was in few weeks ago... LET ME TELL U HOW THIS WORKS
Boy meets girl
Girl likes boy cos he's exciting and fun etc
They start dating and relationship becomes routine (doin same thing over and over nd over again)
Girl gets bored nd starts wondering what life would be like with another guy (GIG effect)
Guy suddenly realizes that his gf is 'changing' and tries to NAG her back into his life by arguing, begging, groveling, stalking etc
Girl gets more irritated and asks for SPACE
Guy becomes hrtbrken....
OP, ur relationship with this girl as u know it is over if u continue bugging her or pleading with her to go back to how things were ... She has obviously entered the 'i need space' phase so respect her decision and give her an entire 'GALAXY'.... This is the only thing u can do to increase the chances of u guys ever being together again....
If u have always been nice to her nd never offended her nd the relationship fails due to a fault of hers, trust me she would miss u at some point in her life when everything goes south for her.
Walk away nd dont contact her, act like u are better off without her (i know ur thinking she's the best girl ever, but nah, there's even better) ... Let her experience other guys nd see what she lost... She may come back (plz experience other girls as well, life is short)... U may not even want her again wen she comes back (I know u would take her back tho, cos u think she's ur 'soul mate'...well she isnt! ).

we were already planning about marriage before,I even asked her dis evening maybe we can start planning our introduction and she told me dat we should wait until we are balanced..until we settle our issues,but dis issues cant settle wit her having this male friemds., she just wouldn't understand

waley007:
I told her this nite but she's saying she wants to have friends and dat I can't stop her from having friends.she has become so bold now and disrespect me...nobdoubt she loves me but she's becoming sometin else probably because of the friends she walks with now and they are convincing her

hw old is she abeg.

bronzegoddess:
hw old is she abeg.

24

bronzegoddess:



I am pretty sure d "other guy" has not spent 100naira on her, I'm very sure. She's just being a woman, enjoying the attention from the "other guys". I like men who have control over their women, I mean u are the man here, teLl her to quit paying attention to these "other guys".

Her heart is probably not innit anymore.

Hmmm, thought he affirmed he's done that already but she dismissed it saying her friends and other girls keeps male friends too.

ronald4lif:


Hmmm, thought he affirmed he's done that already but she dismissed it saying her friends and other girls keeps male friends too.

op is not a man.

waley007:
we were already planning about marriage before,I even asked her dis evening maybe we can start planning our introduction and she told me dat we should wait until we are balanced..until we settle our issues,but dis issues cant settle wit her having this male friemds., she just wouldn't understand

Introduction?... Then this is not 'young love' and I believe she should be mature enough to realise how much harm this new attention she is enjoying from her male friends is doing to the relationship
U have tried to talk things over with her
U even brought up the suggestion of the introduction
U have been trying to get back to the honeymoon phase of the relationship
But i dont see 'Her' in any of these attempts to make the relationship work... She wants u to 'wait till you are balanced' but how would that balance come when the root causes of the imbalance 'her male admirers nd ur trust issues' are not sorted out...
She needs to draw the boundary between u nd her other male frnds....nd bro if that boundary is not clear enough for u, i really suggest u give this girl a little break cos its better to have a failed relationship than a failed marriage

ronald4lif:
You can't change her, only she can change herself. I think she's seeing someone else, who likely spoils her more financially and she's attached to the person(s).

I'd advise you move on and stop watering stones, only way to withdraw her attention from the new lover boy(s) is to spoil her with money too, more than he does.

this is true... when a lady starts acting too funny in a relationship when you sure you didn't hurt her, Hmmm..
op she is no longer yours

If she changed then change her

If you can't change ur girl frnd, change girl frnd.

waley007:

Right now am so confused about her and she doesn't even make me trust her again.I love her and I don't want to loose her but she's driving me really crazy.

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You've said it yourself, you're crazy in love. Why not 'uncraze' yourself and see things clearly as they are?

You're not yet married and she's exhibiting such traits? Expect more of this and that her friend to become the MD/CEO of her life if you decide to continue the relationship.

ivyT:
Op i wld have gven u a good advice,but as u c me so,na ovaChop belle full dey worry me..

Wait till 2moro.

Hahahahahahaha.....u must b mother christmas

Make yourself unavailable for her, women don't like always available and loving man.

If you really want her, act like you don't need her and act like you are also seeing a woman.

Thank me later

waley007:
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we both loved each other so much,we were best of friends and we both enjoyed each others company. But lately for about 6months now we have been having issues.
She has a females close friend who is now like "d director of her life" .
She has always been a decent,what baffles me now is that she won't even let me know her phone password,if I ask her she will say she needs privacy.we fight alot on dis and she's always busy on WhatsApp and bbm one way or d other.infact she now has alot of male friends and we never I ask her she tells me they are just her friends.
She now nags at every little issue dat she gets me so annoyed everytim..last week she was still with my family when she came visiting and her family likes me too,yet she claims she loves me but she has totally changed..she doesn't even respect me again and when we talk about the male friends she claims shes having,she said I can't stop her from having them,and this is because her females friends have them too.
Right now am so confused about her and she doesn't even make me trust her again.I love her and I don't want to loose her but she's driving me really crazy.
What do you guys think I should do..mature advice please,how do I change her back and how do I handle her situation.am tired of everyday quarrel

I went through a very similar issue last month and I asked guys for advice. funny enough d advice actually worked. give her distance. dont call her again as often, dont giv her d attention u usually giv her as often and act very forlorn about everything she. is doing as though u hav made your decision about her. then pray about it underground. my brother d truth is that if she is urs she will change but if she isnt urs then that is Gods way of saying u deserve somthing better gently walk. out of the relationship unofficially but I sense a major quarrel among her and her friends later so jus make sure u leave an openear so she can explain everything later to u