Timbuktou:


Leaving Nigeria is the highest risk? Not too hard to do if it's either that or paying up. Haven't you heard of men codedly transferring money to Ghana at the slightest hint of an ending marriage? Dr. Soleye was just being magnanimous is all and stewpid, especially as he was old money.

You are forgetting something. The lawyers and the law firm

You are welcome

daretodiffer:


If thees stupid men had a bit of common sense, they would work harder to save their marriages instead of jumping from one skirt to another knowing that it could wreck their marriages

who pushes them outside into the arms of waiting mistresses? dr. soleye swore an oath his wife started declining his sexual advances as far back as 20 years ago.

AyeeIdris:

I agree with you to an extent. I remember one case between an elderly man and his youngest wife. Gbajabiamila.....I think. We had gotten the wife a nice settlement. The babe wanted the mansion. Ofcourse the court refused on grounds that it has been the family assets for over 40 years. She was so angry, she fired us as attorneys and went on appeal. My boss used to send one of us to go check on the case to know it's status. It was eventually thrown out.

I personally hate the whole American system that one small girl will marry you for a few months and seek to get half your fortune you have amassed over a lifetime.it is complete bakwas.

thanks for your amazing use of logic & common sense. you have spoken well. daretodiffer, you would grow old if you follow the footsteps of ayeeidris.

Note d law recognizes the contribution of the wife. Even if we didn't build up the Fortune together, she supported you by feeding, cleaning and general taking care of things. The law views it as if she had worked in the office with you. The more years the better. The marriage act is very accommodating to the woman. But there is a lot of ignorance out there and the process can be tedious

and rightly so......
a woman who sacrificed everything she's got to build a home deserves loads of money as compensation. i am all for fairness. my pet peeve is those money-hungry, gold-digging heifer who are bent on reaping where they didn't sow.

daretodiffer:


I do appreciate the information. Is this the first time the court would be reaching this decision or has there been several case laws prior to this case?

Yeah there have been many high profile ones. Can't remember those. Only the one we handled. We once represented a senior officer at a bank. The wife got 150,000 for maintenance fee every month for EACH of their three children, a property in Ajah he had initially bought for her but seized and a lump sum of 3.7 million.

Although he was our client, I was not too sympathetic because there was a lot of domestic abuse but there had been a lot of useless women frustrating their spouse trying to hit payday on the guy's head. I remember witnessing a case where the guy was suing the wife for allowance and maintenance of the children . People were snickering in court but I was proud of the guy. Equity is not just by mouth. After all, it is both their kids. Really, pre-nup should be a thing.

nasha1:
http://encomium.ng/tunde-soleyes-divorce-mess-gets-messier/

Thanks I was however interested in the Verdict .. more of legal ish
Meanwhile this guy is a Casanova... see levels

A medical doctor cum contractor, the Kwara State born fun loving man is the son of the owner of Duro Soleye Hospital, on Allen Avenue, Ikeja, Lagos. He also runs Health Aids, a medical outfit, with his embittered wife (Mrs. Olufunmilayo Soleye) as an executive director.

Interestingly, the union with Oluwafunmilayo, who is equally the MD/CEO of Soleye Optics, an optical outfit on Victoria Island, Lagos, produced three children (among them Tolagbe and Temitope).

Before taking Nike Oshinowo as wife, Dr. Soleye had allegedly dated other women like Hadiza (an Abuja-based lady who felt heart broken when he intimated her that he was taking Nike as wife); Biola, daughter of billionaire Alhaji Rasaq Okoya and one Lara, who has a son for him.


Soleye, 57, is one of the few Nigerians who do not joke with their comfort. At a point in time, he was allegedly maintaining a permanent suite at the Transcorp Hilton Hotel, Abuja, but was eventually thrown out over some unresolved financial issues.

Nike (winner of the 1990 edition of the Most beautiful Girl in Nigeria), 45, is equally well known for her high profile relationship. She was romantically linked with the Lebanse owner of K’s Place, Kamal Boustani, Wade Chevkwayo, Oba Omobolanle Oyekan, the Onilado of Ilado and erstwhile MD of MTN, Adrian Wood, before settling down.

AyeeIdris:

I don't know if they are online, but they are public records. It will be in law journals by now. You can even get copies from the court house

Ok.. if however you come across anything online, please let me know

AyeeIdris:


The guy tried to hide money. They always do but she has been his wife for years. She knew where the skeletons were buried.

In light of new info I'd say the guy deserved to pay all he did and more. He even had a traditional marriage with the mistress? The wife should have sued his ancestors.

Per your other post. Yes, the divorce environment is a soul-killing business. I shudder to think that people actually are desperate to specialise in it.

pickabeau1:


Thanks I was however interested in the Verdict .. more of legal ish



Ok.. if however you come across anything online, please let me know

Matter don end since. The lawyer during cross examination accused her of connivance and condoning since the man has multiple children outside I remember that day of judgement. his counsel walked up to my boss laughing...that we want to kill the man. Efcc is following him and now this. He does not know how we intend to squeeze 25 million from him. My boss said he does not know either, but squeeze we shall. Lol. My boss was a G back then. Very funny old guy.

Nike has divorced him too, so he has lost out in all ends

AyeeIdris:


Yeah there have been many high profile ones. Can't remember those. Only the one we handled. We once represented a senior officer at a bank. The wife got 150,000 for maintenance fee every month for EACH of their three children, a property in Ajah he had initially bought for her but seized and a lump sum of 3.7 million.

Although he was our client, I was not too sympathetic because there was a lot of domestic abuse but there had been a lot of useless women frustrating their spouse trying to hit payday on the guy's head. I remember witnessing a case where the guy was suing the wife for allowance and maintenance of the children . People were snickering in court but I was proud of the guy. Equity is not just by mouth. After all, it is both their kids. Really, pre-nup should be a thing.

How can pre nup become more widespread in Nigeria?

raumdeuter:

Did you see the below

www.nairaland.com/attachments/3023927_capture_png78f16eee552a85331b9f4f38cd4a8a5f

www.nairaland.com/attachments/3023933_5_png8266e4bfeda1bd42d8f9794eb4ea0a13

https://www.nairaland.com/2705619/man-brings-wife-nigeria-abroad

fücking hell.......
i don't believe this - nigerian women are too saintly for this kinda thing to happen. no nigerian woman can deceive her husband into believing an illegitimate child is his. no such things happen in our country - there must be a mistake somewhere!

Timbuktou:

Then he didn't need the court to mandate him to settle her. He had already messed up abx shoukd have corrected his fvck up discreetly.

he had stopped all means of communication with the wife. he screwed up big time - he sired a kid each with 3 different women and that excludes his affair with nike osinowo. the court order was fair & just!

coogar:


who pushes them outside into the arms of waiting mistresses? dr. soleye swore an oath his wife started declining his sexual advances as far back as 20 years ago.



thanks for your amazing use of logic & common sense. you have spoken well. daretodiffer, you would grow old if you follow the footsteps of ayeeidris.



and rightly so......
a woman who sacrificed everything she's got to build a home deserves loads of money as compensation. i am all for fairness. my pet peeve is those money-hungry, gold-digging heifer who are bent on reaping where they didn't sow.

What did he do to resolve the issue? Family, mediation and arbitration? He could have also married another wife

AyeeIdris:


Matter don end since. I remember that day of judgements, his counsel walked up to my boss laughing...that we want to kill the man. Efcc is following him and now this. He does not know how we intend to squeeze 25 million from him. My boss said he does not know either, but squeeze we shall. Lol. My boss was a G back then. Very funny old guy.

Nike has divorced him too, so he has lost out in all ends

Choi... His own too much sha
See all the contracts he ran away from sef

May God help him..

AyeeIdris:


Yeah there have been many high profile ones. Can't remember those. Only the one we handled. We once represented a senior officer at a bank. The wife got 150,000 for maintenance fee every month for EACH of their three children, a property in Ajah he had initially bought for her but seized and a lump sum of 3.7 million.

Although he was our client, I was not too sympathetic because there was a lot of domestic abuse but there had been a lot of useless women frustrating their spouse trying to hit payday on the guy's head. I remember witnessing a case where the guy was suing the wife for allowance and maintenance of the children . People were snickering in court but I was proud of the guy. Equity is not just by mouth. After all, it is both their kids. Really, pre-nup should be a thing.

That is a lot of money

I would have been sympathetic but for the violence part, I am not

Thanks.

TV01:

Please forgive my ignorance of this case. I hate divorce - as all lovers of marirage do !

But please, are you saying Nike (was she not the mistress?) also had to make a court-mandated payout? In these days of "no-fault divorce" - not sure if that obtains in Nigeria - I quite like that, but am not sure how it could happen? Nail the covenant breakers and the accomplice .
TV

Good news if this is really happening in Nigeria.

I think this was Edwife and byvan03 stance in that "other woman's" thread. Like byvan argued, I also agree they (man and mistress) should be jointly culpable.

pickabeau1:


How can pre nup become more widespread in Nigeria?

E go hard o. If a man approaches you for marriage in a typical naija setting and says he wants you to sign papers before he marries you, you go gree. First thought will be "eh heh, so this man was to Marry me and throw me out when he is tired of me and leave me with nothing" Pre nup will only be condoned between the super rich for now where both parties are bringing big cash into the marriage and don't want to lose it.

daretodiffer:


What did he do to resolve the situation? Family, mediation and arbitration? He could have also married another wife

resolve wetin?
aren't you an advocate of "a woman has the rights to decide what goes in & out of her body?" any further pressure would be tantamount to marital rape.

he could have married another wife is neither here nor there. infidelity comes first before marrying a second wife, no? wives cannot continue to lock their vaults and expect men to stay loyal.

man must wack!!!!!!

AyeeIdris:


E go hard o. If a man approaches you for marriage in a typical naija setting and says he wants you to sign papers before he marries you, you go gree. First thought will be "eh heh, so this man was to Marry me and throw me out when he is tired of me and leave me with nothing" Pre nup will only be condoned between the super rich for now where both parties are bringing big cash into the marriage and don't want to lose it.

Very true BUT how can it penetrate deeper

We have the rise of ladies out for cash these days...

This will only worsen

coogar:


fücking hell.......
i don't believe this - nigerian women are too saintly for this kinda thing to happen. no nigerian woman can deceive her husband into believing an illegitimate child is his. no such things happen in our country - there must be a mistake somewhere!

The wife is a Nigerian man, that can be the only explanation.

he had stopped all means of communication with the wife. he screwed up big time - he sired a kid each with 3 different women and that excludes his affair with nike osinowo. the court order was fair & just!

I said the guy is a mumu, or he seriously underestimated his wife which still qualifies as mumurity. Apparently, his wife had looked the other way while he had his affairs but he had to bury himself by taking another wife after siring bastarrds all over the place. He was definitely over-feeling himself.

coogar:


resolve wetin?
aren't you an advocate of "a woman has the rights to decide what goes in & out of her body." any further pressure would be tantamount to marital rape.

he could have married another wife is neither here nor there. infidelity comes first before marrying a second wife, no? wives cannot continue to lock their vaults and expect men to stay loyal.

man must wack!!!!!!

You don't know me at all. I am neither a feminist nor misogynist.

He can't rape his wife. There is always the divorce option and I believe the court will be pathetic to his situation. Then he can marry another wife or they could reach an agreement where she stays but allows him to take in another wife.

raumdeuter:


Wont you be one of those that would end up being accused of "Stay married at all cost" and promoting archaic African culture

Cos It seems every Nigerian womans dream is to be divorced but the backward culture, Nigerian men and society are holding them back

Marriage is not boyfriend or girlfriend things where you vex and send a " I am breaking up with you"message. Bad behavior cannot be excused but you cannot just divorce over things that can be worked out. The husband is cheating. Reprehensible. Has she spoken to him? No. Courts don't grant divorces anyhow. They will always order a family conference. Do you know how many cases I have had that the couple reconciled at the family conference, wasting My Time, MY brain and NOT COMPLETING MY fees. Matters that they can solve if they just applied a little tolerance and worked through their problem instead of running to divorce.

Choi. It used to pain me back then. I was happy they reconciled but complete my darn fee

AyeeIdris:


E go hard o. If a man approaches you for marriage in a typical naija setting and says he wants you to sign papers before he marries you, you go gree. First thought will be "eh heh, so this man was to Marry me and throw me out when he is tired of me and leave me with nothing" Pre nup will only be condoned between the super rich for now where both parties are bringing big cash into the marriage and don't want to lose it.

I'm surprised you don't know your sisters. I can bet my life savings that most of them, I'm thinking 85%, will gladly sign prenups if their boyfriends brought them up. And in this era, if Nigerian law will respect it, I see no reason why any man with serious money shouldnt implement it.

raumdeuter:


Wont you be one of those that would end up being accused of "Stay married at all cost" and promoting archaic African culture

Cos It seems every Nigerian womans dream is to be divorced but the backward culture, Nigerian men and society are holding them back

Hahaha Dayo, which levels naa

Even Aunty lawyer has advised say make she never seek divorce

pickabeau1:


Very true BUT how can it penetrate deeper

We have the rise of ladies out for cash these days...

This will only worsen

the nigerian law is mostly modelled like the british law. the british courts don't recognise pre-nups. if a billionaire marries a woman today and she files for a divorce next week, she would be entitled to half of what he owns. if the brits don't value pre-nups, i don't see it ever working out in nigeria.

daretodiffer:

You don't know me at all . I am neither a feminist nor misogynist.
He can't rape his wife. There is always the divorce option and I believe the court will be pathetic to his situation. Then he can marry another wife or they could reach an agreement where she stays but allows him to take in another wife.

i know you very well!
you are an unrepentant feminazi

Thanks ayeeidris for these information.

babygirlfl:
Thanks ayeeidris for these information.

You are welcome

coogar:


the nigerian law is mostly modelled like the british law. the british courts don't recognise pre-nups. if a billionaire marries a woman today and she files for a divorce next week, she would be entitled to half of what he owns. if the brits don't value pre-nups, i don't see it ever working out in nigeria.

See covetousness of some women

Hmmm.... we need pre nups in naija

pickabeau1:

See covetousness of some women

Hmmm.... we need pre nups in naija

these women aren't smiling.....
if ridiculous divorce payouts start in nigeria, the wives themselves would be the ones setting up their husbands with younger women. as long as they can get evidence of infidelity, maga must pay.

coogar:


the nigerian law is mostly modelled like the british law. the british courts don't recognise pre-nups. if a billionaire marries a woman today and she files for a divorce next week, she would be entitled to half of what he owns. if the brits don't value pre-nups, i don't see it ever working out in nigeria.



i know you very well!
you are an unrepentant feminazi

The British law may consider prenup. It was considered in the divorce settlement of German heir, Katrina. It is still discretionary.



Then you don't know me. I can be either depending on the situation. One thing I have noticed so far is that men do not address gender issues with logic (no offense), you are guilty of the same crime you accuse women of. I also know that women are not blame-free.

Kimoni:


Good news if this is really happening in Nigeria.

I think this was Edwife and byvan03 stance in that "other woman's" thread. Like byvan argued, I also agree they (man and mistress) should be jointly culpable.

Glad the court sees logic in making the accomplice to the crime pay.

If you are aware that a man is married and still hold on to the relationship with him because it is your choice,then be ready to pay the other party.

AyeeIdris:

Marriage is not boyfriend or girlfriend things where you vex and send a " I am breaking up with you"message. Bad behavior cannot be excused but you cannot just divorce over things that can be worked out. The husband is cheating. Reprehensible. Has she spoken to him? No. Courts don't grant divorces anyhow. They will always order a family conference. Do you know how many cases I have had that the couple reconciled at the family conference, wasting My Time, MY brain and NOT COMPLETING MY fees. Matters that they can solve if they just applied a little tolerance and worked through their problem instead of running to divorce.
Choi. It used to pain me back then. I was happy they reconciled but complete my darn fee

I like this statement and coming from a lawyer and a woman at that, i am very pleased.

daretodiffer:

The British law may consider prenup. It was considered in the divorce settlement of German heir, Katrina. It is still discretionary.

no effing way....
feminazis have invaded their entire legal system for any talk of pre-nup to be given any serious look. pre-nups would reduce the massive divorce pay-outs & london wants to continue to remain the divorce capital of the world.

Then you don't know me. I can be either depending on the situation.

thanks for making my point!

One thing I have noticed so far is that men do not address gender issues with logic (no offense), you are guilty of the same crime you accuse women of. I also know that women are not blame-free.

men address it with logic.

the only problem is that women seem to think what's good for the goose is good for the gander in every case & that logic is flawed!

the consequences of the fall out is different for both genders. no equality theory dressing up can change that fact.

AyeeIdris:


You are welcome

You have done a great job. In this section, women have been scared by people telling them that women in Nigeria don't get anything after divorce. I am glad it's not the case and I think more women should be made aware of this.

Most of us don't support anybody who wants to reap where they did not sow. What we want is that women who have worked and built with their husband be well settled.

Also, most people would not support divorce for silly reasons. However, most people think a serial cheat and a wife beater is a flimsy reason to divorce.

babygirlfl:


You have done a great job. In this section, women have been scared by people telling them that women in Nigeria don't get anything after divorce. I am glad it's not the case and I think more women should be made aware of this.

Most of us don't support anybody who wants to reap where they did not sow. What we want is that women who have worked and built with their husband be well settled.

@bold blasphemy. How dare you?
Even if she's been employed from the day one of the marriage and they've been married for 15 yrs, built houses together and acquired property together. She should be thrown out.

Asking for anything else is unfair. That's how the west favors women against men. Giving them 50 percent of 'the man's' wealth.

edwife:


Glad the court sees logic in making the accomplice to the crime pay.

If you are aware that a man is married and still hold on to the relationship with him because it is your choice,then be ready to pay the other party.



I like this statement and coming from a lawyer and a woman at that, i am very pleased.

Oohhooooo!!!!The law is definitely wise!

coogar:


no effing way....
feminazis have invaded their entire legal system for any talk of pre-nup to be given any serious look. pre-nups would reduce the massive divorce pay-outs & london wants to continue to remain the divorce capital of the world.



thanks for making my point!



men address it with logic.

the only problem is that women seem to think what's good for the goose is good for the gander in every case & that logic is flawed!

the consequences of the fall out is different for both genders. no equality theory dressing up can change that fact.

The consequences is different because you made it so. I hope you live long enough to rewrite the consequences with us



Men like women are illogical and sentimental. They want to keep the status quo and are not willing to explore and analyse the grievances of women to reach a logical conclusion. For that reason, the law continues to systematically put them at a disadvantage



What is good for the geese is also good for the gander especially in situations where it encourages and institutionalises behaviours that demeans, hurts and disrespects a particular gender and further worsen the situation by telling them to just suck it up.