Lax75:

I have never understood the long distance relationship thing. Especially international long distance. MOST especially with girls/guys in naija. There are some success stories no doubt, but I have heard of some horror stories. When it's bad, it is REALLY bad. Personally, I wouldnt do it. And neither would I advise Naija girls in diaspora to do it. Face it, the situation in Naija is one that gives opportunists a stupid excuse to do "what they have to do" sometimes. I have a cousin who married someone who lives in London. Turns out that the guy happened to pregnate a couple of other chicks while he was in london and she lived in Naija.  So she has a baby for him, and so do two other women in London.

I'm not saying this is the case with all Diaspora-Naija relationships, but sometimes you can slim down your chances of catastrophes/drama by avoiding this kind of relationship.

I would rather just find me a naija sister within the same country at least.
My 2 cents.

Pittbaby:

about the other way around can a Naija gal abroad trust a guy in naija to be faithful

prittigrrr:

@na2day - All I am saying is that if you demand fidelity, be ready to give fidelity. If the girl or guy cheats, leave them and move on with your life if you demaanded absolute faithfulness but dont expect to reap a faithful fiance or bride when you yourself are off cheating in the diaspora. You reap what you sow.

prittigrrr:

This is still on topic. It is ironic that this question is being asked and the women are being derided as cheaters when there is story after story and thread after thread about guys abroad cheating with, marrying, and having children with foreign ladies with the ulterior motive to return to their Naija sweethearts. I am not bashing anyone; but, I stand by my original post. The question needs to be asked whether the guy who demands fidelity on the part of the lady in Nigeria is giving her the same fidelity and faithfulness while he is abroad; or, is he bedding a temporary girlfriend until he is ready and able to wed the intended madam from Nigeria.

prittigrrr:

@na2day - you and I will ne er agree. I feel I am on topic. You feel I am off topic. I feel one question is unfair without the other. You feel it is unfair to interject an extraneous topic. We can not be rconciled and will never agree but I hope we can respectfully agree to disagree. I bid u peace.

prittigrrr:

@na2day- LOL! No fun for me in disagreement, but I do enjoy a lively exchange of views. I tire on this one, though not for lack of conversation. I am just curious. Where are u located in the US? I am a southern girl (Tennessee).

erico2k2:

JJYOU, no there are no 9ja wife material where we at and yes we are limited to 9ja girls only cos we are talking bout marrying from 9ja Capri?

na2day?:

i go offer u slap offering ooo

Go chop saw dust.

It has been my experience that the only way to make someone trustworthy is to trust them and the way to make them untrustworthy is to distrust them.

spikedcylinder:

Go chop saw dust.

Lax75:

I always wonder how these kind of relationships are executed. Do the guys just go home on vacation, meet the girl within the short period of time and then they become an item? The shortly after marry them? Or is it that these are chicks that they've known from before leaving nigeria. In either case I still feel you don't really get to know the real person you are dealing with. So I wouldn't do it. No one is perfect, but I would rather deal with the known (naija girls abroad) than the unknown. On both ends, there will be people advising that the other person across the ocean is probably getting their grove on with someone else, they would probably advise them not to be a fool for love. As a result, even those with good intentions end up allowing these seeds to grow.

I wouldn't do it as a guy. I'd rather just stick to naija girls here.