MrCrackles:

Topic

Not a problem

Poster

Good to have you back

Meet up if you feel comfortable and dont forget to write him a long essay on how you miss him!_{Like you normally do on NL!}

follypimpi:

Once de be is Ever De be.

follypimpi:

I stand by the rule,i guarantee it.

shanda:

The funny thing is that most ladies think they are strong enough to handle such situation. There's no ex of mine that i've not laid with after we broke up. Don't just assume u r strong. If he's someone that u were attracted to and fond of, blv me that part is inevitable. I'll be waiting to hear from u, i just op u'll be open enough.

Feelitx:

What's the point meeting with this guy if you don't want him back? I have never met an ex that we did not get to sleep together. If you are sure you want nothing from this man as regards a relationship, stay away.

Ejadamen:


@ Poster, as for experiences, i have met up with several of my exes,still keep in touch with some to date actually, and it has not been an issue only because i set boundaries AND controlled the meeting. I met up with an ex of mine last week, we had lunch, he made some flirty remarks which i dismissed pronto and we went our separate ways in peace. The exes i keep in touch with are my very good friends now so if this your ex can translate into one, cool. Also it took some time to translate into that plus a demonstration of plenty discipline to drum into their heads that once de be is not always de be

sexybabes:

Why do you keep meeting with exes? If I may ask. I don't understand the whole point of meeting with an ex.

Ejadamen:

Like i said some have become my very good friends. I usually meet up with them for genuine reasons e.g. my car spoilt at ijebu ode and i do not know the place well so i pick up my phone and call the only person i can at the time, i am in lagos for a week and have to get to Ikeja(i hate that place!) and guess who lives around there and can direct me to where i'm going or better still take me there.
Bottomline is my meetings are a mix of business and pleasure. To be honest,i meet up when i need something from them and catch up while we meet up
If you can't handle the meet ups then don't.

sexybabes:

My latest ex, i blocked hiz no on my fone. The others must stay exes(no meeting up), Lol!!!

Ejadamen:

How do you block numbers on your phone? I need to learn that skill. As for the no meeting up thing i do that for those exes i do not trust. I can smell their lust form far

ThiefOfHearts:

I dont think you should go. If he wants to see him, let him find a way. As for you scurrying over to see him, makes you look desperate

shanda:

@ejadamen
Just thank God that I'm not one of ur ex, then u'll know that resistance that gives u so much confidence is actually a feeling that can be tamed/overcomed.

stillwater:

What does he want to meet you for? What would you guys even talk about? Is it possible to act as "friends" as if nothing happened between you two?

shanda:

The funny thing is that most ladies think they are strong enough to handle such situation. There's no ex of mine that i've not laid with after we broke up. Don't just assume u r strong. If he's someone that u were attracted to and fond of, blv me that part is inevitable. I'll be waiting to hear from u, i just op u'll be open enough.

Feelitx:

What's the point meeting with this guy if you don't want him back? I have never met an ex that we did not get to sleep together. If you are sure you want nothing from this man as regards a relationship, stay away.

ThoniaSlim:

From your replies so far I don't think you trust yourself around him. . .

Personally I would advice you to stay away from him, cus there's a 80% chance something you do not want to happen might occur. . . . Never Say Never. .

topup:

I guess, it would be smart to ask so that you know what you're going into - however people lie!!

I personally don't know what the hell he wants to meet up for, and no I'm not scurrying over there. In fact I'm not even planning my schedule around it, he hasn't arranged a date, he only text to say he'll be in town soon and hopes he could see me.

The phone call which will explain more is still to come - if he goes through with it anyway.

Here's my opinion, if he calls, he calls, I'll be frank and listen so I can guess what the meeting's about (but never forget that people lie and can pretend to be genuine).

For all those people who think that for one second I could sleep with my ex. I don't have proof but the next best thing, I just KNOW that it will never happen, to go into details and explain how it just wouldn't is personal, so you either believe me or not.


Who's to say that the exs you met didn't hope to get laid either??



I don't think that my replies imply that, I think they imply that I'm being cautious & careful not to put myself into positions that could increase the likelihood of something that wouldn't happen (if I put myself in a different position) - happening.

e.g. what's the worst that could happen during a walk in the park?? (Hope I don't get kidnapped lol!!)

I'm also trying to get across the idea that I'm human, so I haven't seen this guy in a year, even though the relationship ended really messy and disasterously, I think I'm bound to miss him >>>after he leaves<<< (that's when he's gone, when I can't do anything physical with him) - in the moment when he's around I believe that I'll be fine, I'm impecable with self-control. I have never been in a compromising position that I wasn't able to get out of - to date.

Feelitx:

Apparently you are hoping of getting laid too. So why did you come up here for advise? I miss him=I wouldn't mind getting laid.

JJYOU:

topup. answer to your name and the advice you would have given others being DONT GO.  i would say  DONT BOTHER  GOING.

topup:

Are you KIDDING me!!


Okay, so if your ex called you, hinting if he could see you once, and you ignored him, then a few months later, he still asks you'd still ignore him??

Am I supposed to avoid him forever??