Bisi Adewale

I have attended to countless number of men in counseling rooms whose major grouse with their wives is hatred of sex, many of them wonder why women hate sexual so much.



What to do:
1: UNDERSTAND THAT WOMEN ARE NOT WIRED LIKE MEN: Biologically most married men want sex two or three times a week, but women want it two or three times a month mostly during ovulation, that explain the reason why she doesn't look like somebody that is moves to have sex at all.
2: KNOW YOUR WIFE HAVE "TURN OFF": Apart from the biological make up of a woman, other things can make your wife to hate sex, we call it "Turn off", This you need to understand and avoid them. These may involve your outlook (pot belly), your Character, habits, lack of provision, failure to provide for her etc. please check chapter for more on this.
3: KNOW YOUR WIFE "HAVE TURN ON": You may also not enjoy your wife if you don't know what you can do with her to make her want to have sex with you, we call this her "TURN ON". You need to know these turn on and do them and they are different from woman to woman, this may involve gift, playing with her, dating her, good words, appreciation etc.
4: YOU NEED TO LEARN HOW TO HANDLE "NOT TONIGHT DARLING" WITHOUT TAKING IT PERSONAL: Learn how to handle it when she says "not tonight darling" stop been childish when she says this, stop fighting her or keeping malice, you will only make her to think all you want her for is sex
5: LET HER GET WISDOM IN THE RIGHT PLACES: Most married women were taught that sex is bad in the church before marriage this is true before marriage, nobody reverse this teaching for them as they prepare to get marry that sex is good in marriage they go into marriage that sex is generally bad either in marriage or outside it, this is the root of many sexual denial in marriage.
You need to know what your wife learnt before marriage and open her up for godly teaching about sex marriage. Get good books for her; take her to good marriage programs ask questions during the program to make her learn better.
6: SHE MAY NEED COUNSEL: She may also need to see a counsellor, this may be necessary as seminar may not really treat her own case
7: LET HER READ OUR BOOKS: Three books I will urgently advise you get for her are: SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE, HOW TO WIN YOUR HUSBAND LOVE AND ATTENTION, SEXUAL FULFILMENT IN MARRIAGE.
8: HELP HER DEAL WITH HER PAST: Was she sexually molested as a child? Was she raped as adult, does she hate men generally, does she have a good relationship with her father, was she circumcised, has she ever watch her father beat her mother, is her mother still with her father or they are divorce. Was she a virgin till your wedding night? If yes did you handle her well during the first sexual encounter in your marriage or you hurt her? (Most ladies begin to hate sex from their day one in marriage because they were sexually hurt during the first encounter during their honey moon)
9: TREAT HER WELL: Is she happy with you? If No she may not enjoy sex with you treat her well, treat her like a lady, stop treating her like a trash. The strongest sex organ in the body of a woman is not virginal; it is her mind, FEED HER HEART WITH GOOD THINGS IF YOU WANT TO OPEN HER PANT REGULARLY.
10. HAVE HEART TO HEART DISCUSSION WITH HER: Discus with her, take her out to a serene place to talk to her. she may have her reasons for behaving the way she is doing listen to her, let her talk to you, then say your mind in love. It will amaze you the result that will come out of it.
10: SUPPORT HER AT HOME: Give her helping hands, carry the baby enter the kitchen to cook when she is breast feeding the baby, help with children home work, by all means support her at home.

Culled from secrets of an irresistible Husband Available here on konga.com http:///vOHrH2


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