brokenPearl:


My dear, I don't even wish my enemy what I'm going through, I cry myself to sleep every night and wake up in between to still cry. Sometimes, I wish for a tragedy that'll end my life once and for all... the only thing that keeps me going is my baby girl.
I'll try to heed your advice, but that man, who will even consider loving me wouldn't even get the best of me, not after all these, I don't think I still have it in me to ever show a man love and affection.
I gave my daughter's daddy everything and he could let go of me without even thinking us through, I even went to beg him and he told me I've just been wasting my time, he can never love me. But he used me to climb up the ladder and pushed me away now he feels he can do better.
It's well, I never ever be a fool again to any man.

Hmm. It's well.

you can get gynaecocid I think that is the spelling from the chemist that works for late period of up to 3 months i think.
I really don't trust all these doctors as per your womb for the abortion part,u don't want to compound another problem with another one.
All you're going through now is a phase,hold on tight n focus on other things dear,it will get better,might take a while but just hold on.
It is well with you

bim2:
you can get gynaecocid I think that is the spelling from the chemist that works for late period of up to 3 months i think.
I really don't trust all these doctors as per your womb for the abortion part,u don't want to compound another problem with another one.
All you're going through now is a phase,hold on tight n focus on other things dear,it will get better,might take a while but just hold on.
It is well with you

Thanks, i'll look it up, meanwhile a friend told me about mistoprostol, and she says it's safe, only very painful. The DNC gives me nightmares, I've never been through it, it's my second pregnancy ever.

Then be both a mum and dad to your kids..giving a child up is hard.You will never stop thinking of that child and how the child feels without you.Dont you have relatives to financially help you?

Rone16:
Then be both a mum and dad to your kids..giving a child up is hard.You will never stop thinking of that child and how the child feels without you.Dont you have relatives to financially help you?

My family would just kill me if they found out.
They managed to swallow their pride and assist me with one and will now hear there's another on the way? My mom would just die of HBP(God forbid), I can't even begin to imagine their reaction, they'll cut me off, totally. I can't do that do them.

brokenPearl:



So your advise is I should against all odds, keep another baby? With no daddy?
I totally agree, im full of mistakes, but another baby for him would only compound my problems I think.

Keep ur baby its urs

God will look after dem for u

@BrokenPearl...babygal, please gal don't abort that innocent baby! that's not the solution..you won't be able to live with yourself afterwards..its a tough call but one you'd be glad you made eventually! Be around your folks at a time like this to heal...karma is a b!tch and there's payday..the loser will get it wherever he is...right now,you need to be strong for your baby girl and the unborn child...you will smile someday you will see..are you gainfully employed? if no,work on getting a business together..you will heal, trust me its not the end of the world as someday you'd meet a man thats worth your love and the kids..one who will love you like you are supposed to be loved.

BlaqCoffee109:
@BrokenPearl...babygal, please gal don't abort that innocent baby! that's not the solution..you won't be able to live with yourself afterwards..its a tough call but one you'd be glad you made eventually! Be around your folks at a time like this to heal...karma is a b!tch and there's payday..the loser will get it wherever he is...right now,you need to be strong for your baby girl and the unborn child...you will smile someday you will see..are you gainfully employed? if no,work on getting a business together..you will heal, trust me its not the end of the world as someday you'd meet a man thats worth your love and the kids..one who will love you like you are supposed to be loved.

Thanks, I wish it could be as easy as you typed. But sadly, I can't begin to burden my family with another baby, I'm not employed, neither do I have the means to start a business. Abortion wasn't an easy decision for me to reach, but its actually the best solution for my problems. I've already suffered and endured a whole lot before, can't continue or add to my sufferings plus, it would make it very very difficult for me to move past my daughter's daddy.
Thanks again.

Please tell your parents...they might be harshe on you and all but they might not support the abortion issue.discuss with them especially your mum(she'll give you the best advice) and she'll be the best shoulder to cry on

brokenPearl:


Strangely, I was on pills.
There's no excuse, I agree, I've made a mistake, I wish I knew a good couple who wanted a baby and are willing to finance it, as difficult as it sounds, I think I could give the baby to them.
There no way I can keep the pregnancy, im not fit, psychologically and financially, not with everything i'm going through right now.

Since u were on pills n u still conceived ah feel its more reason to know d baby is special







Pls forget worries about finance naw and focus on ur child





Notin is impossible with God. Go to Him





Pls I want u to forget about terminating dat prregnancy biko. Believe me tins will work out fine

brokenPearl:


Thanks, I wish it could be as easy as you typed. But sadly, I can't begin to burden my family with another baby, I'm not employed, neither do I have the means to start a business. Abortion wasn't an easy decision for me to reach, but its actually the best solution for my problems. I've already suffered and endured a whole lot before, can't continue or add to my sufferings plus, it would make it very very difficult for me to move past my daughter's daddy.
Thanks again.

Please give that Soul a chance at life...ever thought about giving the baby up for adoption? That child i am sure will be a blessing!

I feel so awful reading this. Do what you'll.
Ask your mum indirectly if she supports abortion and on what basis...
If she's understanding, tell her otherwise just go ahead with whatever you decide to do.
I wish I had all the resources to care for the new child.

Oh well!

brokenPearl:
Dear Nairalanders,

Call me a hopeless romantic or a fool for love, but my story is just really pathetic..
I blame nobody and take full responsibilities for my actions. There's this saying about once beaten, twice shy but I've been beaten over and over again and I keep making the same mistake all over again.
I refused to see beyond, paid no attentions to warnings from friends and family.
I'm the kind of girl who loves with everything I've got, my time, my finance, my body, my loyalty @100percent, but I've always given all these to the very wrong people or should I say people who have lil or no value for me, despite the fact that I'm really pretty and intellectual.
Currently, I'm going through a very painful breakup, almost 4years of my life wasted, a two year old daughter and a month old pregnancy( which I intend to abort tomorrow) as my daughter's daddy and father of my pregnancy has moved on.
Can't really blame him, he never loved me, I did all the loving, made terrible choices and mind blowing sacrifices for him and got nothing but hurt in return.
If only those who committed suicide had a place in Heaven, I would have done it already.
I'm in so much pains, as much as I want to move on, one good look at my daughter and the memories flood in... how do I heal?

crying doesn't solve problems, u need no advice, u've already made up ur mind, if u die the world won't die with u, u will die only, u are ON YOUR OWN, pathetic story, don't force urself on any guy, fellow guys step by step

I hope you gets better..
And if possible give that soul a chance to live at least.

And one or more idiots might have been rejected by her all with the excuse of he's not from the same ethnicity with me, he's not too tall, he's not rich, he's not a car owner, he only went to a polytechnic, etc.

Sad story. The ones who love wth their all,always get trampled upon. Good intentions never win;were you able to keep the child?

My sister, just lick your wounds and move on....we all at one poin in life get cheated even for the good things we do...being able to let go and move on only makes you a stronger person and not a loser...

Op, life is beautiful,life is precious,look on the brighter side of Life,be strong and find strenght even in your own weakness,ur case is too little compare to another and if you wanna try go out and find out and see if you won't smile back home,he's moved on right?so why do you concieve in mind to stop ur own precious life? Love ur daugher and embrace ur unborn child and most importantly be happy and see if you won't find joy again.

columbus007:
Op, life is beautiful,life is precious,look on the brighter side of Life,be strong and find strenght even in your own weakness,ur case is too little compare to another and if you wanna try go out and find out and see if you won't smile back home,he's moved on right?so why do you concieve in mind to stop ur own precious life? Love ur daugher and embrace ur unborn child and most importantly be happy and see if you won't find joy again.

Unborn child? Lol... that was Nov/dec 2015,I didn't go through with it and I have no regrets... I'm actually a much better person and I can say confidently that I'm happy...
Thanks for the encouragement tho.

chronique:
Sad story. The ones who love wth their all,always get trampled upon. Good intentions never win;were you able to keep the child?

That's the irony of life. No, I didn't.

firstking01:
My sister, just lick your wounds and move on....we all at one poin in life get cheated even for the good things we do...being able to let go and move on only makes you a stronger person and not a loser...

Thanks, you are correct... I've moved on.

brokenPearl:


Thanks, you are correct... I've moved on.

My pleasure hani;(

brokenPearl:

Unborn child? Lol... that was Nov/dec 2015,I didn't go through with it and I have no regrets... I'm actually a much better person and I can say confidently that I'm happy...
Thanks for the encouragement tho.

I hope you didn't open dis thread then in other to play the victims card

columbus007:
I hope you didn't open dis thread then in other to play the victims card

Naaaah!!...was just super depressed at the time.