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Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Clinton594(m): 4:36pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
breadandtea: I just logged in to comment on your post! First of all, I feel your grief.... I am a first born too and I understand. Just as If a family is to be enjoyable- it must first start from the parents then it'll go down to the kids so is it your obligation to spice up the relationship between you and your siblings. Too bad you are not guys, we have our own unique way of digging things up like playing computer games and stuffs like that. You can start by taking them out on a Sunday, just spend a little., it'll lighten up the atmosphere for you to converse with her. Include the youngest sibling so it doesn't look as is you're buying her off. Just have a good time together beforebefore engaging her in such discussions, it'll help AND REMEMBER, YOU MUST (AND I REPEAT! , YOU MUST) KNOW WHAT'S UP WITH YOUR SISTER IF YOU CARE ABOUT HEY AND DON'T WANT HER TO STAY. IT'S YOUR OBLIGATION AS LONG AS YOU ALL ARE STILL UNDER ONE ROOF |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by ikescope: 4:52pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Gaborone: Well said...u get sense! 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by misspicy(f): 4:56pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
MuyiRano:eokun o boda...koni sese |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by YEM101: 4:56pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
I have the same issue with my sisters but am not bothered, am very close to my brothers and am ok with that. |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by fynex(m): 5:16pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Well I think you should sit her down...let her know how far you girls have torn apart and how bad u feel about it, and what you want....but also let her talk and express her self so it doesn't look like you're imposing it on her....magic may not happen@that moment so you have to be patient because she would be studying you to see if you mean it! 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by dollydolly(f): 5:27pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
NwaNimo1:Is that really a picture of Oye Nimo that u used as ur profile picture?? Back to the topic op, I understand perfectly what u are passing through cos like u I'm the first Child n I also have a sister n 2 brothers. I'm closer to my immediate bro cos my other siblings are still rather young but at the same time I try to interact with them at their own level too. Recently my younger sister gained admission n I can't wait to hear all the gist when I get home 4 this Xmas. I really think u should improve on ur communication with her, learn about the things she likes discussing with ur neighbours n discuss with her, also try n request 4 ideas or opininons concerning things like fashion, relationship ideas since u guys are both adults n go to church or any other outings together and I promise things would improve. Lest I forget, also pray about it. Goodluck! |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by gistrepublic: 5:28pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Its all up to you!! I have no advise whatsoever other than...free your mind and start relating with her. Watch how you act towards her. Avoid over harshness and strictness. Take her as your best friend, boy friend and sister 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by meemeetruth(f): 5:31pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Ol |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 5:31pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Op u get time, Mhe and my brother we no even dy grit self... Yet we no dy fight.. Everybody dy him own lane... I don't think we have uttered 500words to eachother this year... And i Mean it... Bt i don't count it as anything...If i fry dodo, he chop and vice versa.. 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by olsheye: 5:33pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
simple solution. people get close when the have sths in common.as the big sis look for fun things u can do together. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by kiddkash(m): 5:48pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
breadandtea:you should be thankful if u 2 are close she will be all up in ur business especially when you are not in the mood 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by abduldope(m): 5:56pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
once a girl strts developing oranges she wld stet misbhavin mtchwww.. gv hr tym she mst surely cm dwn frm her horses 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by blessedfavoured: 5:56pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
meemeetruth: It was so hard to read what you wrote, but I did to the end. Feel bad... Take this e-bearhug. Must be hard. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Jacko1(m): 6:01pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Giv me ur sista number i read psychology il talk some sense into her hehe 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 6:01pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Swallow your pride and talk to her as your baby sister because you gradually drifted apart. Maybe you had the big sister complex which might have made her shift her grounds towards you. Every once in awhile try start a conversation with her no matter how awkward it may sound... just to prove to her, how much you care to know much more about her. it worked for me.. now we're best of friends #humility first... |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by olsheye: 6:08pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Oliviaarims: I hope u knowwhat to condescend means. check n correct ya sef |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by danbrowndmf(m): 6:18pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
misspicy:not ur fault..that doesn't mean u don't love her or she don't care about you too. That's just the way you guys were brought up. Same thing use to happen to me & my sister but in recent time(mayb cus we are growing older & we no longer leave together) she started calling each other & discussing but we are still not discussing relationship stuffs(like who is ur bf or who is ur gf talk) but gradually we will get there...All you need to do is to start updating her about your life & start taking risk for her..let your closest friend get to know u love your sister soo much..she will get to love u more she starts hearing from outsider how much you love her... Cc Misspicy 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by sweetgala(m): 6:23pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
You are not alone OP, I do not speak much with my twin brother we have very little in common and he often irritates me. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by megacruise: 6:37pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
BleSSedMee: Nice piece of advice......I suggest you talk to your sister too. You never can tell. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by glossy6(f): 6:49pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Am world apart from my twin sister and I thought am alone. We just don't flow and my friend told me of another set of twins that don't get along. Well, I have been trying to get close to her but its pretty difficult. Could it be because we were raised in different homes? 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by sashaa(f): 6:49pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
I can relate with this situation I have an elder sister and we are four years apart. We are very friendly towards one another but not close enough to discuss some personal matters like men and relationships or feelings and emotions. She has tried to bridge the gap but I always find myself shutting her out. It just feels awkward. Growing up she always had this seniority air thing going on and I learnt to keep my distance. Also growing up she used to use stuff I gist her against me later on and it used to hurt me. This she does not know but I know that is a major reason I can't open up to her 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by olubenjazzy(m): 6:51pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Gaborone: You already said it all. You spark some of what I wanna spoke. Nobody quote my correct Inglish 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by glossy6(f): 6:54pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
sweetgala: Unbelievable. I thought me and my twin sister are the only twins acting that way. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Lin2o(f): 7:21pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
I have the same issue with my sister...... God help us ooo 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 7:22pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
megacruise: *smiles* Thanks..... Will do so @ family Reunion this yuletide... I can only hope for the best.. |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Miami11: 7:48pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
You can only try to be her friend, if she is not willing there is no much you can do |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Tunechi1(m): 8:28pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
[b][/b][color=#006600][/color] my own is my elder broda we barely talk though it happened between me and my elder sista but since we re not livin togeda we have becom very close(buh not close to gist about relationship stuff) buh if sud start playing with my junior ones u wud tink we are age mate even though it was not like dat during our growin up days |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Jckleiin(m): 8:29pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
I can relate to this. It was weird initially but I had to make the move. Each day I got home I asked her how her day went and try to know if anything interesting happened to her. I told her mine too if I had any. Sometimes I joined her in preparing food and then asked her to accompany me to go see some of my friends. And above all, ladies react to GIFTS, so I never failed to buy something for her whenever I had the money to do so. It paid off and we bonded very well. Right now I am her safe deposit box, keeping most of her "Secrets" |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Jckleiin(m): 8:33pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
sashaa:Have a direct conversation with her when she is at her best moment. Tell her how you feel about her letting out your secrets. Am the 1st and I remember I was that silly back then not until my younger bro called me and told me about it. Family is everything. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Jckleiin(m): 8:37pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
glossy6:Thaf could be a factor. Now u need to look at what you have in common with your twin. Use it to get close to her. And also look out for her strengths and weaknesses. Where she is weak always be there to teach and support her (in a loving manner) and where she is strong be humble enough to learn from her. All the best. |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Holori(f): 9:49pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
... 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Have A Close Relationship With My Younger Sister. by Odunharry(m): 10:04pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
misspicy:lol..it happens to most people... U can ask her about school and stuff that's a good Way to begin |
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