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My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by gatb(m): 10:13am On Dec 23, 2015
Mum-of-four Tracy was shocked to discover that hubby of 10yrs left his two kids to secretly marry another woman on Boxing Day

WHEN her hubby of ten years had to spend Christmas with his relatives in Nigeria, Tracy Akingbogun hoped he’d return with a special gift to make up for their time apart.

David, 43, had sorted out a present — for himself. He had secretly MARRIED another woman in Nigeria on Boxing Day.

Mum-of-four Tracy only discovered the shocking news through a friend months later — and kicked him out.

Heartbroken Tracy, also 43, says: “While I was at home with the kids missing him at Christmas, his present to himself was a new bride.

“I still can’t believe he did that to us after more than ten years together.

“I did some research and saw that the ceremony was a religious one and not a legal one. So he hadn’t committed bigamy.

“His dad had five wives during his lifetime, so I suppose David thought he could do that too.

“But not when he was living in the UK and not when he was married to me.”

Tracy, from Gravesend, Kent, adds: “This Christmas it will be just me and the children again, just like it was last year. But this time I’ll be over the moon that David isn’t with us.”

Tracy was a single mum to Cameron and Alysia — now 17 and 13 — when she met David in a nightclub while she was on a rare night out in March 2004.

She recalls: “I was watching a group of lads on the pull, but one of them wasn’t. He was just leaning against the bar enjoying himself. He saw me watching him and came over to chat.

“His name was David and he was really kind and gentle. He’d only arrived from Nigeria three months before.”

David moved into Tracy’s home just six weeks later and Tracy was delighted to discover she was pregnant.

Their son Kayodo, now 11, was born in December 2004 and they married two months later.

Tracy says: “It was a small ceremony with a few family and friends. David read out a poem and told me he really believed in me and our future together.

“From then on he called me ‘Wifey,’ his pet name for me.”

The next year the happy family went to Nigeria to meet David’s relatives.

Tracy says: “They were lovely to us and even went through the traditional ceremony of washing our feet when we arrived.”

Their second son Olalekan, now four, was born in December 2011.

Tracy busied herself bringing up her brood while David turned his hand to various businesses from buying and selling cars to running a market-stall. He also tried to set up an internet cafe.

But two years later she found messages between David and a Nigerian woman.

Tracy says: “One read: ‘When you were last here I wish I’d kissed you.’ I shouted at him, and wanted him to explain himself.

“He said she was someone he used to date before he came to the UK. He said it was nothing, they were just friends.

“I told David it was her or me. He said it was me, I was his wifey and that was that.

“Over the next few months he tried hard to show he meant it and we got back to normal.”

Then David announced he would have to go to Nigeria over the 2014 festive period. Tracy says: “I was furious. I told him he should be here for his sons — for our family. He kept insisting he had important family business.”

David flew out the day before Christmas Eve and Tracy was upset the family would be apart.

She says: “I was so angry with him, but I wasn’t going to let the children know that.

“It was Christmas so I was going to make it a good one.”

She messaged David, reminding him to call their boys on Christmas morning.

Tracy says: “David finally called at 9pm. I gave him an earful but let him speak to the children. I was so angry with him.

“On Boxing Day I didn’t hear from him, but I spoke to him and his family the next day and they were all friendly and normal.”

But, on David’s return, Tracy felt something had changed.

She says: “When he wasn’t away working he was on his laptop. He was hardly speaking to me or the boys. I would encourage him to spend time with them, but he’d snap at me and say he was busy.”

Tracy tried to make her family life as happy as possible but in May came a bolt out of the blue.

She got a message on Facebook from the partner of one of David’s friends in Nigeria, a woman Tracy had met when she visited.

She says: “The message read that he’d got married to another woman on Boxing Day — everyone knew apart from me. She didn’t think that was right.

“The world I loved had been whipped from beneath my feet. Tears streamed down my face. I’d known something was up.

“I confronted David but he denied it. He seemed so cool and calm. So I messaged her and said there must be a mistake.”

What came next wiped away any trace of doubt Tracy had.

Tearfully, she recalls: “She ended up sending me photos of the wedding ceremony via WhatsApp and confirmed it to me. There was no denying that.”

Shaking, Tracy managed to guess his Facebook password and logged in. There, she read messages between him and his new wife, the woman she’d caught him messaging two years before, who was also his ex-girlfriend.

Tracy says: “I was so angry I couldn’t speak. He couldn’t get married — he was my husband!

“I confronted him and he tried to deny it again but this time I told him I’d seen the photos and read the messages. I told him to pack his bags and get out.

“I don’t take calls from his family, as they were in on this and went to his wedding last Boxing Day while lying to me.

“He abandoned his children and me to get married to another woman. He’s made his choice and now he’s stuck with it.”

David said: “I can do what I want. It’s nobody’s business. What do you want me to do?”

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/real_life/6820040/Hubby-went-back-to-Nigeria-last-Christmas-to-marry-again.html

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by fromnigeria(m): 10:16am On Dec 23, 2015
The heart of man. This one though seems heartless. After 10 years. Even when confronted denies.

This is how they tarnish the image of Nigeria and Nigerians and make us almost untrustworthy.

And then someone should help tell that other lady she is married to someone else's husband. grin

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Blizzy9ja: 10:16am On Dec 23, 2015
Of course he needs to secure his space in Nigeria... That woman and her kids can't come back home with him

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by ChristDeKing(m): 10:17am On Dec 23, 2015
9ja men no dey joke. Charity begins at home .

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by flawlesRebirth(f): 10:20am On Dec 23, 2015
9JA MEN ALWAYS CHEAT...THE WOMAN SHA...I PITY HER

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by kilode100(f): 10:22am On Dec 23, 2015
The Man has very bad taste in women. He comot from one old cargo, enter another one.


There's love in sharing.. Abi na spirit go marry the remaining Aunty Gweggs?

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by talktonase(m): 10:25am On Dec 23, 2015
Eyaah! Sorry you have entered one chance!!!

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by gatb(m): 10:40am On Dec 23, 2015
lmao grin grin grin
kilode100:
The Man has very bad taste in women. He comot from one old cargo, enter another one.


There's love in sharing.. Abi na spirit go marry the remaining Aunty Gweggs?

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by nwaanambra1(m): 11:35am On Dec 23, 2015
kilode100:
The Man has very bad taste in women. He comot from one old cargo, enter another one.


There's love in sharing.. Abi na spirit go marry the remaining Aunty Gweggs?

u wicked! grin grin

but u r so right! cheesy cheesy

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by mostyg(m): 12:00pm On Dec 23, 2015
This life is full of deceit. The first marriage was for benefit. Men and women deceiving each other since time immemorial. That second lady knowing full well that the guy is married to an 'Oyinbo' lady still went ahead to marry him. These are set of ladies that brag that they can never be a second wife.
I wonder if Tracy would have mind if the guy was actually married to the Nigerian lady before she met him...

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:00pm On Dec 23, 2015
She was pregnant for him two weeks after they met and she already had two kids. undecided

Women! SMH.

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by looseweight: 12:09pm On Dec 23, 2015
Life goes on Tracy. You have gained weight too much, we have clean 9 over there too. Lay your hands on one and cut down your excess fat. If he sees a smart and slim Tracy again, he will come back begging...

If you are overweight like Tracy and its telling on your relationship, click my profile and choose a better plan for yourself

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by 20bc(m): 12:10pm On Dec 23, 2015
I have nothing to say cool
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by AyamConfidence(m): 12:10pm On Dec 23, 2015
This oyibo women will never learn that my Naija brothers will never marry them cos of love...na Green Card things them supose know say no place like home...by the way that man seems to be related to MrCork . But seriously these guys should stop giuing this country a bad name

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by pretydiva(f): 12:11pm On Dec 23, 2015
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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:12pm On Dec 23, 2015
What the man did was wrong!
Very unfaithful

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by hamaworld(m): 12:12pm On Dec 23, 2015
He like woman... He concour.

KASALA don bust
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by ChappyChase: 12:13pm On Dec 23, 2015
Men!!!!!!!!
We're. Too easy to predict but the women will rather turn a blind eye to the tale tell signs!!

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by McBrooklyn(m): 12:13pm On Dec 23, 2015
Home Sweet Home grin
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by miqos02(m): 12:13pm On Dec 23, 2015
hmmm
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:14pm On Dec 23, 2015
the alimony wey this woman go fire the man no go get part 2 o

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Akinz0126(m): 12:14pm On Dec 23, 2015
Chai the oyinbo woman don enter one chance.9ja men and women causing trouble all over the world since 1960

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Michellla(f): 12:15pm On Dec 23, 2015
these men arent loyal

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by sobmos(m): 12:15pm On Dec 23, 2015
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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Truckpusher(m): 12:15pm On Dec 23, 2015
Blizzy9ja:
Of course he needs to secure his space in Nigeria... That woman and her kids can't come back home with him
Your head is good.

After putting up with her bullshiit to make a living , she expects him to stick around and catch hell alone when he would be needing his family most? No way.

"Operation secure your old age".... grin

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by femi4: 12:15pm On Dec 23, 2015
kilode100:
The Man has very bad taste in women. He comot from one old cargo, enter another one.


There's love in sharing.. Abi na spirit go marry the remaining Aunty Gweggs?
Owo ni koko

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