biola44:

I'll dump her asap cos i can stand cheats,

Learning how to deal with heartbreak is not a skill we are born with. Getting the news that your ex bleeped up with you brings on intense feelings of confusion and sadness. But there are things you can do to triumph over heartbreak, it is just a matter of setting goals and redirecting your focus from the pain. Here are some quick tips to help you get started.

Get Out of the House
The worst thing you can do at this point is to stay inside and reminisce over your old relationship. You need to interact with your friends and family no matter how hard it might be to visualize talking with other people. Don’t avoid situations because you think your ex will come up in the conversation. If this happens, just tell them that you appreciate their support and quickly change the subject. The more socializing you can do, the more you will occupy your mind with other things.

Treat Yourself
Dealing with heartbreak can zap your energy and dampen your spirits, so a little self-pity is allowed. Treat yourself to a new pair of jeans or something else you have been holding back on. This will give you a small taste of the empowerment and control that you are lacking in your life. Of course you should be careful not to go overboard. Rewarding yourself outside of your means can bring on feelings of guilt. Don’t go on a rabid shopping spree; just find that special item that will bring a smile to your face.

Don’t Punish Yourself
Too many people torture themselves after a break up by listening to sad songs or browsing through old pictures. You should give yourself only one day for pain and suffering. Use this time to get all of the tears and moping out of your system. After this you need to promise yourself that each day you will take another step towards moving on. Everyone deserves one day to wallow in depression, but after this point you simply need to try harder.

Set New Goals
This is the most important step in getting over your heartbreak. You need to visualize the future and where you want to be one year from now. It is best to stay away from relationship goals and instead focus on your personal aspirations. Career ambitions, fitness goals, and financial aspirations are all great places to start. Set incremental goals that will allow you to see progress as work towards the finish line. Each achievement will instill a new level of confidence in you.

Understanding how to deal with heartbreak is the first step in overcoming it. It is true that time heals all wounds, but only for those who want to be healed. Give yourself a short time to be sad, but then motivate yourself to control your destiny. You are the same wonderful person that you were before the break up, and your life will flourish again once you perceiver through this trying time.

peelovee:

If you cought a guy/babe you love so much cheating on you beyound your imagination,and you have a heart breaks, and sleepless night,what will you do. ;

Abeg naija make una advise

biola44:

But, what if every body, including the parents and freiends and neighbours pleads for you to go back to him/her, and already you have decided not go continue with that relationship. does it mean you are wicked or heartless.
abeg i need advise.

The guy/babe is saying it is better to die if you dont come back to him/her, and the people pleading are using that it as a key word so as to make you change ur mind, what will you do?.

biola44:

emotional blackmail,

Sasha009:

OP, did you mean "if you 'caught' them in bed together, or cough?
If you meant caught, then there's no excuse for cheating at all. They will still do it again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Dump him and move on. Trust me, it may be hard but you will be a better person for it. a cheater is not worth your time.

peelovee:

Dont u think they are up to some thing?