Whether you’ve been in a relationship for years, are dating or swiping through Tinder like a
man possessed, there are certain things all men need to know about the L-word. By the age
of 30, you should have a firm understanding of what you want, what you believe, what
you’ll settle for and what you hope for when it comes to your love life.
While the surge of online dating and more and more couples delaying marriage has
transformed the romantic landscape in America, some of the same truths still apply to
finding, falling and staying in love. From how you treat a woman to what you crave with a
companion to how many children you want to have, these dating and relationship experts
share the 10 things every man should know about love before he’s 30. No pressure.

How To Meet Women (Not At A Bar)

Relationship and sex expert Dr. Kat Van Kirk says by the age of 30, a man should have more
varied interest than just where his next brew is coming from. “You are probably not going to
meet the love of your life in a bar,” she says. “Not that it never happens, but typically,
people have a better chance of meeting someone compatible when they aren’t under the
influence of alcohol and they are around like-minded people.”

Winning The First Date

According to the 2015 Singles in America study, 51% of men imagine their future with their
partner on a first date. If you fall into this half, you might have vivid fantasies but are a
serial first-dater. According to relationship expert Lori Bizzoco, you might be feeling unsure
how to get into something serious because you’re trying to figure out where you stand in the
relationship, even if only subconsciously. “For centuries, men have always saw their place as
the caretaker, but now they are trying to figure out where they fit in as women don’t need
caretakers as often,” she says.

That It’s Not About Your Wallet

Many men are driven to be successful and to be providers – both for themselves and for the
future they visualize. But here’s the thing: what really matters is how you treat someone,
not how much money you have. And if you’re holding out until you have it all together to
settle down, you might be waiting… well, forever. Dr. Kirk says attracting the right woman
will come when you’re able to be vulnerable and know that you might not have everything
figured out, but you’re in it for the long haul.

How To Let Go

Still holding onto lusty dreams of the girl you dated in university (who, um, according to
Facebook is now married with child)? Can’t stop thinking about the woman who first broke
your heart? Dr. Kirk says that by the time you reach your third decade, you need to let goof
ladies who let you down. “Sometimes you have to allow incompatible partners to self-select
out of a relationship with you,” Dr. Kirk. “If they don’t, or didn’t, want to be with you,
they are probably saving you longer heartache down the way. It is often a blessing in
disguise.”

What You Really Want

It might freak you out to really sit down and think hard about what you want out of a
future marriage or relationship, but Bizzoco says that not only is self-awareness good for
you – it’s sexy. You shouldn’t only consider your partner, but also how you’re doing as one.
What could you improve on? What are some of your weaknesses as a boyfriend? “Every man
should be able to practice open, honest, self-evaluation,” she says. “A woman will like a
man who can truly express his feelings and feel comfortable in his own skin.”

How To Communicate - And Listen

If you still haven’t figured out how to hold a kickass conversation — or argument — with
someone you love, it’s time to study up. “Men should be able to listen without interrupting,
judging or blaming. Women look for men who are open to other opinions and can talk about
their feelings,” Bizzoco says. “They should know that doing all of these things will help their
relationship grow stronger.”

How To Know If Your Relationship Is Healthy

“Being with the right person should help you feel good about yourself – not worse. This seems
like a no-brainer, but it happens all the time,” Dr. Kirk says. “For whatever reason, you are
attracted to a person who doesn’t treat you well, talks down to you or is highly jealous.
These relationships can hurt your self-esteem and affect your quality of life.” Don’t ignore
the signs of an unhealthy relationship – and get out so you don’t waste time looking for a
better, happier one.

How To Be Faithful

If you want a monogamous relationship, it’s time to take ‘keeping your options open’ off
your Facebook profile. “A man should be mature enough to know what he wants and what he
doesn’t,” Bizzoco says. “If something isn’t working you should be able to let your partner
know and make the decisions that need to be made to fix the situation.”

Whether You Want To Live Together

Sure, you might already be shacking up with your lady, but if you’re not and you see it going
somewhere, you need to start thinking about it. If you’re single, consider if sharing a
home before you share a last name is an important step for you. According to the
aforementioned Singles in America study, men are more likely to want to move in with their
partner sooner: 33% of men would sign a lease after 6 to 12 months of dating compared to
23% of women.

That ‘The One’ Doesn't Exist (But That’s OK)

You might have a perfect woman carved out in your mind, but women – like men – are never
going to fit one single mould. There isn’t one single person destined for you... but many
people you could be happy with, says Dr. Kirk. Make a list of what you want in a partner –
and then figure out which traits you could compromise on. Chances are you’ve likely let at
least one person who could have been incredible get away . But they won't be the last.

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