[color=#000099][/color] Hi all, i was introduced to her by my aunties. i met her on val's day 2009 and we discussed like we ve known for years. we love each other and i asked her for us to establish a courtship (R/ship) which she accepted. i am 33 while she is 23. i noticed she is too open to me. first of all she told me that she has a boy friend who she is not too comfortable with but still tolerates. one day she sent me an sms that she will be going to the guy's house for his birthday and i replied and told her to obey her conscience i thought she will not go but she did and slept there . i refused calling her but she called and asked why i explained to her and she appologised. she visited me and both of us was really happy with our stay over the weekend but she was too open to tell me that she was disvirgined in 2007 and the same guy still calls her and despite that she doesnt hide anything for me about her past life. do i go ahead and marry her. pls am confused

The lady likes you and you are not giving her the right vibes.  I love her for being open to you and she is in her own way telling you that others are keen and asking you to declare your stand.  I do not think you have sat her down and made your intentions known to her.  I believe she will cool down and make you a nice partner!  If you do not like her over-openness, abeg tell her.  She is trying to communicate to you but you are busy judging.  If she tells you her, tell her your own!  After the initial talk, the relationship can then be built.

All the best.

i would love to date a woman like that because i know there will be honesty between us. at your age i think you are mature enough to build a great relationship with her. good luck.

nnanyi:

[color=#000099][/color] Hi all, i was introduced to her by my aunties. i met her on val's day 2009 and we discussed like we ve known for years. we love each other and i asked her for us to establish a courtship (R/ship) which she accepted. i am 33 while she is 23. i noticed she is too open to me. first of all she told me that she has a boy friend who she is not too comfortable with but still tolerates. one day she sent me an sms that she will be going to the guy's house for his birthday and i replied and told her to obey her conscience i thought she will not go but she did and slept there . i refused calling her but she called and asked why i explained to her and she appologised. she visited me and both of us was really happy with our stay over the weekend but she was too open to tell me that she was disvirgined in 2007 and the same guy still calls her and despite that she doesnt hide anything for me about her past life. do i go ahead and marry her. pls am confused

amazing. you don stay inside darkness too long like dey scare you. many will give their arms for a woman like her. you want the compulsive liar that most are. go sit down and you say you are 33.

wow! , so people still live in caves.

ezinne1212:

wow! , so people still live in caves.

yes!

its good, but handle things 4 good, 

k

ezinne1212:

wow! , so people still live in caves.

it has nothing to do with that.

eddy1977:

i would love to date a woman like that because i know there will be honesty between us. at your age i think you are mature enough to build a great relationship with her. good luck.

somtimes being overly truthful is hard for some to comprehend, exspecially when u just recouping from a bad relationship where lie was the norm there.

@nnayi - wait ohh - come come - you are in a r/ship with a girl that says she has a bf and she was going to sleep round his house?

me i am confuse oh

luxoire:

@nnayi - wait ohh - come come - you are in a r/ship with a girl that says she has a bf and she was going to sleep round his house?

me i am confuse oh

i saw that part, put assumed she told him nothing happened.
afterall them dey open minded here.

izeek:



i saw that part, put assumed she told him nothing happened.
afterall them dey open minded here.

this kind openess na wah ohh - in fact from that statement me sef no go even reply because i think na joke una dey joke - you and her are not serious in your courtship or r/ship or what ever ship you are having

Quote from: luxoire on Today at 02:48:12 PM
@nnayi - wait ohh - come come - you are in a r/ship with a girl that says she has a bf and she was going to sleep round his house?  

me i am confuse oh

i saw that part, put assumed she told him nothing happened.
afterall them dey open minded here.

Gbam!!!! you have said it all.

But I think I will prefer a girl that open up to me, even if I am not confortable with her Chracter, I know it will help me to work on her. Since she doesn't know how to keep secret.

u re confused? oh! man u re not serious.

i need such a guy my way

would you prefer if she ran around and pretended and you knew nothing about it?
That being said are you sure she understands what she still has with you? why going to the ex's party and spend the night there? strange and why did you tell her follow your conscience most guys will say point blank ''m not comfortable with that''
what a relationship you guys have

First off like others have said you should stop beating around the bush and let her know just what you approve of and dont approve of. If you leave the decison to her and she desides to do something that you dont agree to then you have no room for disapproval, esp. since she sought your approval first.

Secondly who the hell gets mad or upset because thier gf tells them everything and is honest.

I thought honesty and openness were two traits desired in a mate? Maybe I am asking for the wrong things?

men try letting her go on vacation and see how much u will miss her