Igwe.:

I used to think that love is a kind of debt owns to the other party until something struck my head with the above subject.
What's your take on this? 

TOPE2000!:

love isnt a debt
altho i dont really understand what u trying to say.
explain

what i'm asking is, if it's true that love is just something we decide to do on our own accord or something that's bound to happen? i don't mean love making dear.
If isn't a debt , why then the rain of curses and what have you when one declines from loving the other accordingly?

Igwe.:

what i'm asking is, if it's true that love is just something we decide to do on our own accord or something that's bound to happen? i don't mean love making dear.
If isn't a debt , why then the rain of curses and what have you when one declines from loving the other accordingly

TOPE2000!:

I think love is something that happens without planning or whateva, its not a debt and u cant force urself to love someone

Point noted, meaning we can fall in and fall out as many times as we can with as many people as we can  owing to the fact that we never planned for it and are allowed to retreat whenever we like.

Thank goodness it's friday

iice:

It's a decision. 

biola44:

cos it affects ur life!

Igwe.:

meaning it can be changed at anytime or what?

biola44:

positive decision good 4 u n negative,

positive, good 4 me and when it turns out negative, I'd back off.
yeah i got you

luxoire:

Love in it self is a feeling you have no control over.

However you DECIDE on whether to nurture that love and make it grow, keep it alive - or whether to let it die

still digging how right you are, methinks something one has no control over is as good as something one's decision doesn't count.
How then do you intend to decide on what's beyond your control. It ought have taken you by storm and maybe, you can decide to jilt or accept upon realising yourself

Ben20001:

Love?

lol, love = kissing

Lexiwhite:

The balls and the brains are 2 sovereign states - their armies only obey instructions from them individually.

You can say that again

Igwe.:

positive, good 4 me and when it turns out negative, I'd back off.
yeah i got you

dats d deal!

Igwe.:


still digging how right you are, methinks something one has no control over is as good as something one's decision doesn't count.
How then do you intend to decide on what's beyond your control. It ought have taken you by storm and maybe, you can decide to jilt or accept upon realising yourself

Igwe.:

Please expatiate on it. can it be changed?

Yes it can be changed. 

I agree with what Luxoire said to a point

Attraction/chemistry is something we decide on - well not often and not all the time - but because we have a certain image in our mind, we get attracted to anything like that, that shows up - it's not a noticeable decision but it's there. What is noticeable is turning it into something deeper/more.  .  .Because some of us are not tuned in to every little thing that goes on in our brain, we attribute it to just feeling.  Same for falling out of love. You start to pick on something, something small.  .  .and it escalates and influences how you feel about the person.  You can also choose to work it out or choose to let it go.  .  .in the end it's still a decision.

iice:

Yes it can be changed. 

I agree with what Luxoire said to a point

Attraction/chemistry is something we decide on - well not often and not all the time - but because we have a certain image in our mind, we get attracted to anything like that, that shows up - it's not a noticeable decision but it's there. What is noticeable is turning it into something deeper/more.  .  .Because some of us are not tuned in to every little thing that goes on in our brain, we attribute it to just feeling.  Same for falling out of love. You start to pick on something, something small.  .  .and it escalates and influences how you feel about the person.  You can also choose to work it out or choose to let it go.  .  .in the end it's still a decision.

Igwe.:

Is it wise of me to say that  this decision is dynamic? just as i'm about to make another decision not to love my lolo again after realizing what kinda woman she is

Igwe.:

Is it wise of me to say that  this decision is dynamic? just as i'm about to make another decision not to love my lolo again after realizing what kinda woman she is

Busy_body:


You can be sooooo slow sometimes I am going to tell the Doctors to have you chemically castrated so that I don't have any child for you, don't want them to take after you physically or mentally

Did you miss out the part where iice said "not often and not all the time" which simply means that it is not applicable in our own case so you are stuck with me whether you like it or not for better for worse Now go out and make some more money for me to spend

iice:

It's a decision. 

iice:

yes i suppose. lol

whichever one, my decision is final, i'm tired of your ranting upon all the food i have been giving you, I still cannot feel your bum, so sad! you 've gotta go!