Coping with the blues after break-up is not and has never been an easy thing. Whoever disputes this fact has probably never been in a relationship where they like the other person so dearly. It is very painful when you feel you did all 'your best' to make the affair work...or when it seems you have been treated unfairly in the affair

There are oftentimes, many emotional troubles that surround a romantically heart-broken person, especially, when they have not allowed themselves enough time to get over the break-up; seriously speaking, time heals!!!

Dating someone who has not gotten over a break-up could be a 'packaged pain' waiting to be delivered! Below are some of the reasons why you should avoid dating heart-broken people:

1) They could be desperate to date again: Most people who fall off a relationship find it enticing to date again...most times, it doesn't really matter whether they click with the other person or not; the most important thing to them is just to date and probably 'torment' their ex so that he or she would know that they can actually do without them. If you tangle with someone in this situation, they might later dump your ass when they finally get over their past affair...then, dia eyes dor clear...na you go come be the heart-broken!

2) They have not gotten enough time to learn from their 'mistakes': In relationships, people make mistakes. That's why certain things you did some years back in a romantic affair would not be easily repeated by you if placed in same conditions as at then. Same reason why some young men will tell you that they can never marry a girl who is not up to 24 or 25! Why? They feel women who are not up to 25 lack a particular type of wisdom. When someone is heart-broken after an affair, they should be allowed or they should allow themselves to learn from their mistakes so that they don't carry such mistakes over like ICH 101 into your life!!!

3) They could be vengeful and unreasonably 'clever': It is common to see ladies saying 'He used me; I am wiser now and will never submit myself to any man again; I will always use them first'. Now, how do you intend to cope with such a person? The lady could have been truly used by the guy because the guy was wicked, selfish or never loved her but the fact remains that she would always want to use you now that you have fallen in love and now her scape-fowl!!!

4) They might have issues of trust: Wonder why some guys are so desperate to an extent where they become 'Desperados' because they can't trust any woman? Even when they call their girl and she says she is with her female friend shopping, they would want to talk to the 'said friend' to confirm whether she's truly with a female! They normally start with 'Can I say "Hi" to your friend?' Such person has probably not gotten over the painful experience of a failed relationship where they were cheated on as if tomorrow didn't exist. Trust is earned, it can never be commanded. So when you find that person you can trust, please do. Lack of it can crumble your affair! Stop monitoring her every move, you are not a police detective!

Good evening everybody!

Written by Rapmoney

Really valid points op

They are reasons why I can't date NL guys

Don't quote me biko

A broken heart needs time to heal, but some people usually make the mistake of rushing into another hoping it would cover up for the previous.
Doing this, they later end up hurting the new partner.
I wonder why some people take relationship as a do or die affair. Others even think it's the only source of happiness. A wrong ideology!

Good evening

ShakurM:
They compare their ex and you

Sure, you are right, Mr Shakur!

Suigeneris93:
Really valid points op
They are reasons why I can't date NL guys
Don't quote me biko

so u cannot date me

Suigeneris93:
Really valid points op
They are reasons why I can't date NL guys
Don't quote me biko

so u cannot date me

Mhizkel:
A broken heart needs time to heal, but some people usually make the mistake of rushing into another hoping it would cover up for the previous.
Doing this, they later end up hurting the new partner.
I wonder why some people take relationship as a do or die affair. Others even think it's the only source of happiness. A wrong ideology!

Good evening

You are correct. If you are desperate, you can tie your happiness to someone else's life

saintloveren:
so u cannot date me

Yep

Suigeneris93:



Yep

u break my heart

saintloveren:
so u cannot date me

Woman wrappering is prohibited in here!!!

saintloveren:
u break my heart

Awwn
Condolences

Lalasticlala, rocktation!

Rapmoney:
Woman wrappering is prohibited in here!!!

LOL sorry

saintloveren:
LOL sorry

Suigeneris93:



Awwn Condolences

i will kpai myself

saintloveren:
i will kpai myself

K

Suigeneris93:

K

RUBBISH

Mhizkel:
A broken heart needs time to heal, but some people usually make the mistake of rushing into another hoping it would cover up for the previous.
Doing this, they later end up hurting the new partner.
I wonder why some people take relationship as a do or die affair. Others even think it's the only source of happiness. A wrong ideology!

Good evening

Very apt. The emboldened is true. Unhappy and disconsolate people embark on a relationship to seek for happiness when happiness is within and a self rummaging task. No one can guarantee another happiness if they are unhappy and can't cultivate the spirit of happiness themselves.

ronald4lif:


Very apt. The emboldened is true. Unhappy and disconsolate people embark on a relationship to seek for happiness when happiness is within and a self rummaging task. No one can guarantee another happiness if they are unhappy and can't cultivate the spirit of happiness themselves.

Dis ma ehn! U get sense o!

ronald4lif:


Very apt. The emboldened is true. Unhappy and disconsolate people embark on a relationship to seek for happiness when happiness is within and a self rummaging task. No one can guarantee another happiness if they are unhappy and can't cultivate the spirit of happiness themselves.

It's so glaring that people go into relationship for selfish reasons. Some go for the fear of being lonely, others to satisfy their sexual urges, and so on.

ShakurM:
They compare you and their Ex...Let's take an instance, On her bday you must wish her at exactly 12:01am, just do mistake wish her at 12:02, they start crying saying Charles ( whatever her ex name is) used to wish me late too ...

Honestly, this shiit makes my balls itch
Pls n pls, to you guys downstairs, don’t derail this thread na

Id1ot why using Charles as ur example

Chei rapmoney thank u for this post


I have been in dat shoes and I can tell u it's so not easy at all..

Am done being frnds with the hurt girls....

Rapmoney:
Dis ma ehn! U get sense o!

Onye nna, I learnt from you o. I'm a fast learner.

Cutehector:
Chei rapmoney thank u for this post


I have been in dat shoes and I can tell u it's so not easy at all..

Am done being frnds with the hurt girls....

Lol bro! Such a complicated stuff you would say

ShakurM:
They compare you and their Ex...Let's take an instance, On her bday you must wish her at exactly 12:01am, just do mistake wish her at 12:02, they start crying saying Charles ( whatever her ex name is) used to wish me late too ...

Honestly, this shiit makes my balls itch
Pls n pls, to you guys downstairs, don’t derail this thread na

can you folks allow exes to have their birthday in peace?

ronald4lif:


Onye nna, I learnt from you o. I'm a fast learner.

Thanks bro. I take that as a compliment

tpiar:



can you folks allow exes to have their birthday in peace?

Na wa o! How many tpiars dey for NL sef? I have counted almost 3!

Mhizkel:

It's so glaring that people go into relationship for selfish reasons. Some go for the fear of being lonely, others to satisfy their sexual urges, and so on.

Some go into it for babies while others go into it for money...

Suigeneris93:
Really valid points op

They are reasons why I can't date NL guys

Don't quote me biko

See your long neck like willy ...

your head dey there

Rapmoney