What are you bringing to your marriage?

We all have heard that ‘Marriage is beautiful, Marriage is honorable, Marriage completes you and make you whole again’ but looking at the multitude of examples of marriages we see today, one is tempted to believe that marriage is the direct opposite of all we were told. Fortunately, there are still few successful and romantic marriage dotted across the marriage continent. The question hence becomes “what are the successful couples doing that everyone else is not doing?? What do they know that others don’t and how have they prepared for the marriage institutions that others didn’t? This series of articles will investigate the ways we all can prepare ourselves to become married and happy ever after.

Marriage is truly a beautiful thing. Rather, marriage is supposed to be a truly beautiful thing: it multiplies your efforts by two and divides your problems by the same factor. Imagine falling asleep in the arms of love and waking up every morning with someone who has promised you to be there in sickness and in health, sharing every leisure time with someone special and a 24 hours license to SEX. Uhmm, sex.

But recently, there has been debates as to whether getting married is worth it. Stories of people being swindled by their partners, stories of cheating, obligatory or forced servitude and examples from Nollywood and Hollywood stars that we look up to have made us debate the importance/necessity of marriage.
Here is a Fact…

Marriage is just an empty cup.

When you fill a cup with water, it becomes a cup of water. When you fill a cup with juice, it becomes a cup of juice and when you fill a cup with poison, it becomes a cup of poison. Therefore the outcome of a marital union gives you a clue as to the type of people that are part of the union.

So if you think that you are ready for marriage, you have to begin with a single question: what am I going to bring into my marriage?
And here is a lesson…

A person brings his character into marriage not the ‘person’(s) he is when(s) he is with you!

A bitter person is bringing in bitterness into marriage. No matter how loving and caring your partner wants to be, bitterness will prevail. An African adage say ‘na small mess dey make room smell’.

Therefore, it is important that before you begin to think of getting married, you should think of overcoming all or most of the bad habits in you!

Do you lie a lot? Are you pathologically promiscuous? Do you have an unforgiving nature? Are you tied down by guilt and mistakes of your past? You should work towards overcoming any driving force that is likely to pollute your marriage and begin your journey towards wholeness-one quality that is vital to a happy and successful married life.

Peter de Vires once stated: ‘the difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality and we must live with a character.



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