lazeal:
Thanks man. I have stopped the calls, only sent her an sms last night cos she didn't come online and chatted her up this morning. I tried the funny/witty via facebook the next day after reporting here and she was really enjoying it.

Something happened and I didn't seize the opportunity right. It went like this:

Me: can you teach me?
her: what?
Me: Teach me how to be a pretty babe like you.
Her: hahahaha... but you are not a babe na but I can teach madam for you.

Why did she include "But I can teach madam for you na" I pretended I didn't see that line though.

I will be meeting her next month for the first time lol. Does it make sense to reduce the communication to a once a week thing?

jhiizy:
Bros Harddon... Sometimes I'd be chatting with a girl with all sassy and fun and she'd jus say 'for ur mind'. Wah cud I possibly reply her?

HARDDON:


****Teach u how to be pretty like her? Da heck gee! Now im rEd faced! U started so well then got ur brain stuck again!
Wud u just get ur head out of her a33? If u dont, u r heading for Da F zone sooner than u think! She already gave u a clue...by telling u about another madam, not her.


If i was to roll that convo, this is how i wud:

Me: i wano teach u something...
Her: what wud that be?
me: how to laugh without ur nose twitching or how to catwalk with those tooth pick legs of urs, or how to sing with that ur husky voice or how to make a guy laugh in 5secs......




We told u to take charge not to turn ducks. Arrrh!


SHE WUD BE HAVING D PRIVILRGE OF MEETING U NEXT MONTH, not the other way round.

And NopeS there aint no sense in limiting convo to once a week. So long she is reciprocating the gesture by calling u too.

Be sporadic with em calls, unpredictable with ur life.
One moment u r chatting , the next u call her n act like she's done some wrong by taking another guy's call while u were chatting with her.....

Spring fun, surprises, spring u!

HARDDON:
Tell her when u wud be free to roll......" see ya @ so n so place by 6pm on so n so date .ok...gtg, bye." b4 she responds, hang up

peterpen:
Goodday boss, hw do you carry-on a conversation with a churchy girl without making it boring(especially on phone calls)....How do you build attraction with such a girl.... Cc HARDDON

peterpen:
thanks

HARDDON:


That statement is to throw u off balance, the mild version of it , is : ' You are Funny"......instantly kills the convo for learner guys or they go blabbing some brash .

Only the lame gurls that cant keep a convo flowing that use such. They just simply lack what to say and tries to put u on wrong foot too!

Dont fall for it......rather twist her with lines

These r possible lines:


1) is that all u can possibly say? Can see this r/ship is not gono work. U wud just bore me stiff.

2) my mind is made of metals , that wasnt from my mind, but from my lips. Talk ur own jor


3) yea, my mind is clean, what on urs? Dirts i suppose
. Cos u have been looking @ my lips all day, hope its not what im thInking...

4) yea, my mind is on itz own ram, what does urs run on?


think of others

LordZero:
[b] Nice work @HARDDON and others. ...

..I just want to say something to those claiming they are shy/introverted..
Deep down y'all are just trying to protect your ego (the part of you that fears failing, cares about what people think). That part of you will always want to keep you safe (keep u in your comfort zone) but heck MEN are not meant to stay in their comfort zone all their life. Acknowledge that part of you(and constantly remind yourself that you are a MAN not a baby) and take countrol of your life by pushing the limit of your comfort zone.

What people will think or think of you doesn't matter: stop living too much in your head and stop worrying about what people think about you cos everybody is busy worrying about themselves to give 2 fvcks about you. It's all in your head.. Walk up to that girl you've been admiring and start a conversation about anything, two things might happen;
1. You succeed (had s great convo, collect her digit e.t.e) and realize strangers/new individuals are not monsters that will kill or eat you. OR
2. Things go horribly wrong and you end up feeling awkward but you'll learn from your mistake and improve ur skills for next time. The funniest part is u will be d one stressing yourself about the failed attempt because you are not the first to approach her and crash and won't be the last so probably in 30 minutes time, you are just one of the things that happened to her that day so it's all in your head. PEOPLE ARE BUSY WORRYING ABOUT THEMSELVES TO CARE ABOUT UR BLEEP UPS..
It's only you that will remember when you dribbled four guys b4 scoring a goal on the football pitch after 3 days, same applies to relating with people..

Fear of failure: if you don't fail, you can't learn from your mistakes, and if you don't learn, you can never improve. .
Stop thinking about what to say, what will she will say or what she's going to tell people. Just walk up and say something (talk about her cloth, the environment or any thing meaningful) confidently or atleast pretend to be confident while saying it and b4 you know it you are talking (as long as you can think of witty stuffs on the spot)..
Also talk to alot of people and in time you will get over the fear of talking to people/failing. .


To newbies:: work on yourself b4 thinking of relationships, work on your body, self esteem, confidence, sense of humor, communication skills and relating with others. Above all cut the PÖRN AND WANKING (they rob you of your drive to meet other people of the opposite sêx).


Be independent of the outcome of any conversation you want to get into, do it for fun and to learn new stuffs.... ..


I hope to organize this better later and other things I will be posting later. (with due permission from Harddon and other bruhs in d house)..
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Always remember; everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. .

Always remember; everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

youngestmilly:
Harddon please give me tips on overcoming the fear of failure

LordZero:


[b] First you'll have to realize that the most successful people in any field didn't just get there from the start. The tried, failed, tried again and fail again time over time but they didn't give up and they learn from their mistakes..

A.. be outcome independent/have abundance mentality; whenever you are trying to meet someone new, take your mind of the result, don't care about whether youare going to succeed or fail, see it as a process of learning (just like playing PES/FIFA for the first time). If you fail, there are plenty of other girls out there, if you succeed, all is well.. BECAUSE ONE GIRL BLOWS YOU OFF/YOU CRASH AND BURN WITH ONE GIRL DOES NOT MEAN IF YOU LEARN FROM THAT AND TRY AGAIN LATER, YOU ARE GONNA FAIL.

B.. Accept yourself for who you are. If there are things you can improve about yourself, do it (improve yourself for ur own joy not for others). If you are not at peace with yourself, others will sense it from miles away and they will do the same thing (see you as fake).

C.. Meditation: this may sound funny, but try and meditate one in a while, clear your mind. I read about a type of meditation used by ninjas/samurai/assassins during war; before war, they will sit and visualize all the possible types of death that can kill them, this remove the fear of death. use this technique to visualize the different ways you can fail and ACCEPT FAILURE AS A CRUCIAL PART OF LEARNING.

D.. PRACTICE AND PRACTICE. Do it for fun, take your mind off dating, just go out and meet new people...

E.. if you have the chance, hit the gym or do exercises at home.. This help you stay fit, boost your confidence and also boost your testosterone level (the male hormone
)

Also, improve your communication skills, and sense of humor..

Others are gonna give you more tips...... peace bro..
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celibate:
She initially claimed she was in a ldr but eventually agreed on a date with me though o couldn't make it.
Now she says she's not in the mood for talks. Perhaps somebody is getting her attention cuz she was up late last night on whatsapp yet she did not read or reply my messages.

She eventually said she gas forgiven me and wished me well.

I need your advice bro cuz it was all my fault when I asked for a break when I realised our chats isn't getting anywhere Even though she insisted that we were still good.

She claimed I pushed her away when we had the fight.

What do I do now bro?

celibate:
She initially claimed she was in a ldr but eventually agreed on a date with me though o couldn't make it.
Now she says she's not in the mood for talks. Perhaps somebody is getting her attention cuz she was up late last night on whatsapp yet she did not read or reply my messages.

She eventually said she gas forgiven me and wished me well.

I need your advice bro cuz it was all my fault when I asked for a break when I realised our chats isn't getting anywhere Even though she insisted that we were still good.

She claimed I pushed her away when we had the fight.

What do I do now bro?

HARDDON:


Oh boy!
Do we need billions to go on a date? The fun part of been a guy is the ability to swing things in our favour! U dont have 5k, pick a 2k joint, no 2k, pick a 1k joint. No one k? Go to a indomie joint! Arrrh!
The bottom line is: going out on a date isnt necessarily u going to show off ur spending prowess!

WHat i processed from ur flaking out TWICE is that u wanted to impress her with raw cash! Or u have been roling into her big talks that has hyped ur rep or u see her a big gurl that wudnt like cheap things!

Guess what?
The signals you sent her with that attitude is that u r UNRELIABLE, UNTRUSTWORTHY AND NOT A MAN OF UR WORDS this is so sad.

HARDDON:



OUR Watch word is : Be You @ all times.
We maintain ZERO MODE ALWAYS
while making them laugh, put em on suspense mode or give directives.

With arms akimbo waiting for them to impress us.

I wasnt kidding when i said this

SENSE PILL 70: Ladies r might to live to impress u. Only when u have mastered d act of putting them on edge n taking d driVe EMOTIONLESSLY with subdued subtle care.

HARDDON:


Oh boy!
Do we need billions to go on a date? The fun part of been a guy is the ability to swing things in our favour! U dont have 5k, pick a 2k joint, no 2k, pick a 1k joint. No one k? Go to a indomie joint! Arrrh!
The bottom line is: going out on a date isnt necessarily u going to show off ur spending prowess!

WHat i processed from ur flaking out TWICE is that u wanted to impress her with raw cash! Or u have been roling into her big talks that has hyped ur rep or u see her a big gurl that wudnt like cheap things!

Guess what?
The signals you sent her with that attitude is that u r UNRELIABLE, UNTRUSTWORTHY AND NOT A MAN OF UR WORDS this is so sad.

celibate:


You are right to an extent.
She also gave me the "I don't wanna talk right now and I wish you well line".
I am presently making up for my f ups and it seems she's yielding.

Apparently someone else is in the picture but she blamed it on her mood. She also says it really isn't about me.

I'm sure she's afraid to accept another date because I might fail to turn up again.

How do I convince her?

HARDDON:


She must really like u then.

Then dont book date, just monitor her programs n show up when u know she wud be free n take her out. The only down side to this is u might show up n d other is arround.

To avoid that, u can show up when she is really involved in chats wit u.

Just know that u r now on dah back foot n may be playing second fiddle.

ismart:
The day one girl I like used "k" to reply after I said I called her the previous day because I was thinking about her, was the day I went crazy on her and ended every damn communication with her.

She had better not make the mistake of calling me even in the next 2-3 years, she will get same hash response.

I know "k" isn't something to get angry at but this girl own don too much and my reaction is an accumulation of her bulllshits. It's a long story but I had to just do that cos I had taken a enough of her bullshit. The girl damn too daft for my liking.

HARDDON:


Thumbs up geee.

If it aint worth it, why waste ways?

ambs50:
Sir Harddon (allow me to addres u as dat cos u one, a very close female frend (nt dat beautifl though) of mine linked me up wit her bestie who is prettier dan her abt 2monts ago. We've nt met yet cos she still in schl Buh wil be bak soon. Howeva,we've got talkin nd she sounds my type: jovial, blunt, no forming nd jst cool.
Buh am aving som doubts.first she's south south nd am frm d west. Again frm d way she sounds, I feel she may be too rigorous for me. Althoh my random thots.
Pls wat do I do. Hw can I establish dis relasnsip wen we finally get to see. As in dnt knw weda to be fast or easy.
Thanks

Darejo:
I've been following this thread since day one and I must say this ;

Some people are angels in Human form sent to help others. HardDon baba, I owe you one carton of red wine whenever we get to meet.

All your drills have been working like magic mehn... I tried it all on my girlfriend of about 1year now, and her love for me has since skyrocket.

That aside, I have close to 4 potential side chicks now all disturbing and anticipating my chats, lol. These are the same people who weren't talking with me as much before until I came across this thread.

Just two days ago, one who's been playing hard to get got laid while my girl was away. Now she just can't spend a day without messaging me. Boss abeg after you Na you for women matter.