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The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by BreezyRita(f): 2:21pm On Jan 30, 2016
I actually intended to post this in my diary but then, I want to sample a lotta opinions.

What brought about this thought is the near- obsession with macho sex in this age.
Turn on just about any radio station and you will hear them: explicit songs about how today's men and woman supposedly want sex: Quick and dirty. Fast and hot. No strings attached. Hit-and-run.

I do not even want to ask what is behind this trend.

Some of the people who approve of this say relationships are not that important. (I'm independent and secure) They also try not to admit how lonely they are. Sex is often a by-product of some other need e.g a desire for intimacy and macho sex can never fulfil that need. Why? Experts say because its primary - usually only- goal is self-satisfaction.

I personally feel macho sex is so demeaning and unfulfilling. It leaves one emotionally empty.
I've asked a couple of people offline and a lot of them seem to be in favour of true intimacy (I.e before they want to see or be seen by anyone 'in the raw", they prefer to be both friends and lovers).

So to you guys now: True intimacy or macho sex, which is more fulfilling??

Oya, naijaboiy, Joecutie, princeparix, Oga KingTom, iAmCharis show here.
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by shegxi(m): 2:41pm On Jan 30, 2016
either of them can be fulfilling depending on wat u want at dat point of ur life.
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by vicraven(m): 2:49pm On Jan 30, 2016
gee! lets take a break frm this sex thingy abeg
sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by misspicy(f): 2:52pm On Jan 30, 2016
Macho sex is the best cheesy
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by BreezyRita(f): 2:57pm On Jan 30, 2016
misspicy:
Macho sex is the best cheesy
shocked
First time I'm hearing that from a female
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by misspicy(f): 3:00pm On Jan 30, 2016
BreezyRita:
shocked First time I'm hearing that from a female
True Talk my dear wink
why mess up my heart and emotions for a guy?

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by chibwike(m): 3:12pm On Jan 30, 2016
True intimacy all the way

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by chibwike(m): 3:17pm On Jan 30, 2016
misspicy:

True Talk my dear wink

why mess up my heart and emotions for a guy?
some guys are worth it.

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by naijaboiy: 3:17pm On Jan 30, 2016
It just depends.

Sometimes you just feel like getting things done quickly without attaching emotions and some other times you just feel like taking it slow.

Even with his girlfriend a man can still be macho.

But when it comes to the one preferred the most I'll say majority of guys if not all will prefer the rough macho sex while girls usually like it slow.

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by misspicy(f): 3:24pm On Jan 30, 2016
chibwike:
some guys are worth it.
obviously

so are you?
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Nobody: 3:33pm On Jan 30, 2016
Booking space
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by KingTom(m): 3:48pm On Jan 30, 2016
I'll have to go with naijaboiy . Sometimes we feel the urge to go rush rush like indomie especially when it's something stolen, but in this day and age where New stds are springing up by the day, true intimacy is my best bet.

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by naijaboiy: 3:54pm On Jan 30, 2016
KingTom:
I'll have to go with naijaboiy . Sometimes we feel the urge to go rush rush like indomie especially when it's something stolen, but in this day and age where New stds are springing up by the day, true intimacy is my best bet.
That's why I got myself a wife. grin

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by KingTom(m): 3:57pm On Jan 30, 2016
naijaboiy:

That's why I got myself a wife. grin
one man one vote..... Sorry one woman grin

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by BreezyRita(f): 4:23pm On Jan 30, 2016
naijaboiy:

That's why I got myself a wife. grin

shocked shocked
E don reach like that?

So if Oga Kingtom say new STDs are springing up daily grin (Him dey dodge ), I wonder why many are still plunging into it.

Misspicy, yes. Some guys are actually worth all of that.
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by KingTom(m): 4:26pm On Jan 30, 2016
BreezyRita:


shocked shocked
E don reach like that?

So if Oga Kingtom say new STDs are springing up daily grin (Him dey dodge ), I wonder why many are still plunging into it.

Misspicy, yes. Some guys are actually worth all of that.
We have to oh.Zika is real cry
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by misspicy(f): 4:26pm On Jan 30, 2016
BreezyRita:


shocked shocked
E don reach like that?

So if Oga Kingtom say new STDs are springing up daily grin (Him dey dodge ), I wonder why many are still plunging into it.

Misspicy, yes. Some guys are actually worth all of that.
Example of such guys or idonbilivit tongue
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by naijaboiy: 4:30pm On Jan 30, 2016
BreezyRita:


shocked shocked
E don reach like that?

So if Oga Kingtom say new STDs are springing up daily grin (Him dey dodge ), I wonder why many are still plunging into it.

Misspicy, yes. Some guys are actually worth all of that.
They probably are still ignorant of the fact that keeping countless partners is very risky and dangerous.
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by jonaifame22(m): 4:38pm On Jan 30, 2016
Pls don't mind me jus pass okay, I 'm for here for the comments!

Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Cutehector(m): 4:53pm On Jan 30, 2016
Erm I think I like it passionate
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Cutehector(m): 5:50pm On Jan 30, 2016
Lalasticlala
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by chibwike(m): 7:00pm On Jan 30, 2016
misspicy:
obviously
so are you?
Lol, yeah
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by chibwike(m): 7:01pm On Jan 30, 2016
misspicy:
obviously
so are you?
Lol, yeah
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Nobody: 9:38pm On Jan 30, 2016
I go with true intimacy. Yea, there could be times when one just wants it sharp sharp but that's quite risky as highlighted by KingTom. I think the quality of your persona has a lot to say here. An emotionally stable guy won't just dig any vj that comes his way.

Basically, it's relative but I go with true intimacy.
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by KingTom(m): 9:45pm On Jan 30, 2016
iAmCharis:
I go with true intimacy. Yea, there could be times when one just wants it sharp sharp but that's quite risky as highlighted by KingTom. I think the quality of your persona has a lot to say here. An emotionally stable guy won't just dig any vj that comes his way.

Basically, it's relative but I go with true intimacy.
you could've wrapped this up in one or two lines, you just wan blow big grammar. grin

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Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Nobody: 9:57pm On Jan 30, 2016
KingTom:
you could've wrapped this up in one or two lines, you just wan blow big grammar. grin
grin grin grin
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Nobody: 10:00pm On Jan 30, 2016
She's called out those she'd wanta hear from, so What am I doing here?


..
Strolls off...
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by BreezyRita(f): 1:00pm On Jan 31, 2016
pinceprinz:
She's called out those she'd wanta hear from, so What am I doing here?
..
Strolls off...

#Drags him back tongue

I called them cos I've known them here. You expect me to tag all of NL? Na u go still vex say I tag you for wetin no concern you.

Now you're here, what's your take??

Happy Sunday BTW.
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Medunah(f): 1:42pm On Jan 31, 2016
True intimacy ofcourse. why would I have sex with someone I don't wanna get emotional with in the first place?
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by adeagbo101(m): 2:30pm On Jan 31, 2016
I just don't like the idea of not being sincere to ourselves. Now, this is not about you. I'm not trying to call you out but: haven't you experince a kind of sex (dont want want to use the word 'macho') resulting from just 'ordinary' likeness for some or a particular trait possessed by the other gender? Hmm? Humour being one. I'm not gunning for mahco sex, infact i wouldn't have comment had i not seen your reply to OP. But, i tell you most or even all girl at some point in their lives have had 'whatever sex' with a guy with not even a single emotion attached! You dont plan it, it just happens. Now, tell me that's not true.
Medunah:
True intimacy ofcourse. why would I have sex with someone I don't wanna get emotional with in the first place?
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Nobody: 3:20pm On Jan 31, 2016
BreezyRita:


#Drags him back tongue

I called them cos I've known them here. You expect me to tag all of NL? Na u go still vex say I tag you for wetin no concern you.

Now you're here, what's your take??

Happy Sunday BTW.

LoL. I didn't HV anything to say really, but cos the topic has potentials of hitting the big bang, wanta follow ,see things in the eyes of others and learn a thing or two. Im just a boy that knows little or nothing - naive smiley. Merry Sunday!
Re: The Debate - Macho Sex Or True Intimacy? by Nobody: 3:26pm On Jan 31, 2016
KingTom:

We have to oh.Zika is real cry

I'm getting scared to the bones for all these unheard diseases taking dominion day in day out, Sometimes I fear drinking ordinary table water out of fear of contamination with some unknown syndrome/culture.

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