Paentera:
If you're bearing the bulk of wedding expenses, simply let your wife-to-be know your budget and that you will drop only that amount. Any extra spending will have ro come from her & her family.

For those referring to the wife being Yoruba, I suspect majority are unmarried hence the the faulty haste to conclusion. In Yoruba culture, the bride's side of the family cater for guests thus OP, if indeed your madam is Yoruba & her family are well off & are open to hosting the wedding reception etc, you'll come to the conclusion that its almost so much ado about nothing.

Alternatively, get her pregnant & see how the family will quickly arrange low key wedding without inviting many people.

Medunah:

Dats her anyway. Call me insecure but my own fiance must be based in Nigeria cos i can't wait for nobody. He should now marry me, impregnate nd abandon me here in Nigeria. How sure am I dat he hasn't or wont marry a white girl over there? Just the way u guys are saying u can't trust Nigerian girls u take over dere is the same way we also can't trust u guys who marry nd leave us here!

So for me, its by fire by force

agarawu23:
don't try the bolded. Thank or curse me later in future.


You already know Nigeria party na. especially if they know say the husband no base Nigeria. I doubt your 200 won't turn to 500 (your wife church members alone gan)

The only option is to rent a good hall with security and it will be only with IV pass.

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

EgunMogaji:


I too have heard horror stories BUT I still think the good overweighs the bad. I encourage anyone that has a serious and fully vetted significant other to take steps to united them overseas. What the heck is the point of having someone overseas when the other party is in Nigeria.

Here are some pointers.

If the girlfriend has inferiority complex and is bleaching in Nigeria
If the girlfriend has the latest phones from Samsung, Apple and Blackberry while still in "school"
If the girlfriend knows the names of many local politicians PA
If the boyfriend is going to consider the girlfriend his property when she gets to USA/UK
If the girlfriend already displays tendencies of rudeness to her immediate family

So I think the fault mainly lies with the Men who don't take eye go market. The get involved and blinded with flash and overlook the core competence areas required of a Wife.

May Allah guide us in the righteous path.

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

uhiochris1:



That's the only solution make it based on IV but he might turnout to be the wicked and stingy type after the security must have bounced out like 100 extra people

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

herboshedhe:


Biscuit kwa
Lwkm o

ronald4lif:


It's not an act of insecurity if a woman insist she lives together with her hubby, it's her right and the most apt thing to do, couple should live together.

The problem is that some women have abuse it and prompted guys to leave their women in Nigeria. And about impregnating women and leaving them home isn't abandoning per say, as they frequently wire money to take care of them. No one abandons their wives and kids.

And no man likes to live separately with their woman, everyone loves to live together with their spouse. That's the point of getting married, live together. Some guys just don't bring their wife instantly until after a kids or two prolly to gauge her character and be certain she won't be troublesome. So, eventually these wives still join their hubby.

True, there are some guys who are married to whites but the marriage is usually a temporal engagement until they secure their complete paperwork. Such men can marry in Nigeria and leave their wives home until they secure what they want before considering she joins him. Is that a problem?

MyLady11:
Even na coaster biscuit #5 own (2 per person)

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

herboshedhe:

Lwkm

afroxyz:


You seriously need lessons on reading comprehension.

MyLady11:

The couple no fit kill demsef nau. Dem no wan s*x before marriage, that's why dey do quick wedding

agarawu23:
don't try the bolded. Thank or curse me later in future.


You already know Nigeria party na. especially if they know say the husband no base Nigeria. I doubt your 200 won't turn to 500 (your wife church members alone gan)

The only option is to rent a good hall with security and it will be only with IV pass.

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

samuelgambo:
oboy as u don't want to have great gathering in your wedding why not hold your wedding in your bedroom and restricted the invitation only to your father and mother and your father in law and mother in law