Alheri, It's funny how you always call "that thing" wrestling. I'm trying to picture a husband and his wife wrestling...makes me

Since you have encouraged us to share our ideas:
- I don't know about alcohol, because some husbands can become funny under its influence.
- An alternative to midnight wrestling is early morning wrestling.
- Thanks for sharing. I am keeping notes for future use .

Early morning is always the best!
Especially after a morning shower,it da BOMB!!
All dis women dem go dey form like sya dem nor like wrestling
minwhile,dem like am pass us,see dem yeye gals!
lolol

warriboi:

All this women dem go dey form like sya dem nor like wrestling
minwhile,dem like am pass us,see dem yeye gals!
lolol

Com'on! Did I say I don't like it? Yeye boy!

I tire for Warry boy oh! Anyway, na so dem dey yarn.......

I'm curious...

For the married women in this forum (post).. especially the newly weds...

Did wrestling form part of the pre-marital courtship??.. and if not, was it an issue before wedlock..

I'll be much obliged if u can share this with us bachelor menfolk..  ..

Abeg gals before you people start the confederation of nigerian wrestlers -- I hope say referee dey there to seperate when the fight come tough.
Alheri,
am happy to hear about your love-filled weekend. Happy birthday n advance to your baby.. are we invited for the wacking and licking?
Fabian,
how far now.. the bachelors are seeking for more lectures on this wrestling thing abi, have you gotten PHD? help please.

Ok Star, since you have given me a star PHD, I will be Dr. Fab for now!

CimonJorr:

I'm curious...
Did wrestling form part of the pre-marital courtship

Not necessary for a happy marriage, if you want it, its up to you..................

CimonJorr:

was it an issue before wedlock..

Not if you are both agreed that it will not be an issue!

Does that answer the questions?

Ok.. now to the reason why I asked those questions..

there have been several topics raised, and many a post on the issue of pre-marital sex... especially as it regards the "appropriateness" of it... Or as it regards both partners getting to know one another on a very deep and personal level.. more or less getting to understand the nature of their partners and their needs and requirements..

I now went through the posts on this very thread with these thots in mind.. Would it have possibly helped that partners get to know themselves on such an intimate level before tying the nuptial knot?..
Or would such intimate knowledge prove to be the undoing of such a potential relationship??..

In addition...

For marriages where sex was a very minor (albeit "unimportant") issue, would you hold the husband to blame if he wasn't as interested in sex as the wife, since that was not one of the main attractions which he considered when choosing his wife to be.. All things considered, most of the sentiment from many posts and discussions on this topic point to the direction that most people consider pre-marital sex wrong (for a variety of reasons)...

Most responses and sentiment favour the situation where the man is "patient" regarding sex before marriage, and also expect that after marriage, the man automatically transforms to the insatiable sexual beast willing to wantonly transfer all his agression to his newly wedded wife.. (I'm sure here the "wrestling" metaphor comes in quite handy..  )..

This I believe is an illusion perpetuated by those that want to make their point about pre-marital sex being proper.. Hence playing to the concept of man "hunting" down his prey (woman), while she teasingly, tauntingly and temptingly avoids being caught until she eventually becomes ensnared by his charms and agrees to marry him.. the "anticipation" of the final capture providing the mystique and setting the mood for the nuptial night..

Now in the case when a man and woman get married, and the man doesnt consider sex, and all its trappings (the cuddling, the kissing, etc etc..), an important ingredient of a successful marriage, would the man be at fault??.. Especially since it wasn't that "important" an issue prior to marriage..

Please note here I'm not refering to instances where the man is impotent, or a closet homosexual, or not a loving and providing husband.. Just one in which he doesn't necessarily consider sex that important..

Your views would be appreciated.. 

Quote from: CimonJorr on Today at 02:37:21 PM
I'm curious...
Did wrestling form part of the pre-marital courtship

Not necessary for a happy marriage, if you want it, its up to you..................

Quote from: CimonJorr on Today at 02:37:21 PM
was it an issue before wedlock..

Not if you are both agreed that it will not be an issue!

Does that answer the questions?

wooooo CimonJorr that was some long ass essay if i'd call it!! by the way tho... it makes perfect sense! whoa!! datz wat i call using d "brain"....i guess i'v gatt nothin to add right now.. i surely will 2morrow

chillin: I don't really understand what's 'wooing' you. He only asked a question!

Yes, a man that refrains from premarital sex can be a sex machine:
- A sex machine that has a pause button.
- That is, a sex machine that won't start wrestling other women whenever the wife is unavailable.

lol ohh mehn! seun u funny ooo.. whatz wooing me lol

If your husband says you have changed, then you have!

Na wa oh,noone has even congratulated me on my weekend randevous! e-friends indeed!

Congrats on your weekend rendezvous!

congrats too Alheri - more grease to your=-- -- wrestling costume.

Star, is it something you ate? You've been making me chuckle ever since you logged in!

@alheri
men i congratulate u. infact i read d post with envy cos ma wkend was so boring.

angela k:

If your husband says you have changed, then you have!

pls thats brash . why not d husband.

warriboi:

Early morning is always the best!
Especially after a morning shower,it da BOMB!!
All this women dem go dey form like sya dem nor like wrestling
minwhile,dem like am pass us,see dem yeye gals!
lolol

na wa o lol. experience is the best teacher . Abeg leave us alone o.

@Alheri
I believe by now u and your husband had made up for good. I am cock sure the sofa wrestlings can't be for just fun alone but for the betterment of the marriage (if possible for Junior's sake  ). Thanks so much for sharing with us and thanks again for been REAL (yourself), I respect a woman that is always herself and not some of these ladies here that will tell us they are virgins, meanwhile they are not Vaaaa let alone virgin
Congrats for your daughters birthday. I wish her a happy birthday in advance. I promise to send my gift to her through this thread.

@Fab
Thanks so much for your advice and I think as from now on, I will always give u a due respect, afterall, to be a Ph D holder in Marriology, isn't moimoi. Congrats for the three years of marriage in advance.

@Star
I gbadun you, u always make me 

meeen kenflavor, thanks for your comments. infact, God bless you my brotha. i'll try post the party pictures so no one will be left out of the fun. peace out,my brotha!
@IAH,fab,chillin,star,prettyH, thanks ladies. NO SLACKING!!!

Congratulations on your weekend rendezvous, and your daughter's birthday!

@loveth.

It is not easy.

hi there.........i agree with seun u know u really have to devote time for ur husband b4 he starts misbehaving at least then u can take fabians advice but for now u really have to watch things u do at least towards him now that he can say that ure changing.

thats right.

alheri is about three to four weeks after the birthday bash and you have not fulfilled your promise. My sister, I can't wait to see those pictures.

Ciao.

How was your weekend?

@kenflavour
hello.

my brother am so sorry about that. Ive been so busy, you know how christmas period is. Ive been working even saturdays, so ive not been able to get the pictures scanned yet. Will post asap!

@Alheri, are you posting your pic specially to Ken, or to the forum

of cause its for everyone!

Oh right, Ok, I would like to see your pic as well too