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14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by BE811APP: 10:54pm On Mar 02, 2016
Cheating devastates relationships and shatters dreams. If you have entertained the idea of cheating on your spouse or significant other, let this serve as your official warning. Your handsome boss, cute office secretary or sultry neighbour down the street comes with a price tag that you cannot afford.

Before you cheat here are 14 things you really need to know.

1. You will become a liar

It’s bad enough to bear the title of “Cheater,” but if you cheat, you will also wear the hat of “Liar.” Cheating cannot occur without deceit on some level and normally the white lies in the beginning become full-fledged lies at the end. “I’m working late at the office tonight” may be a half-truth but you’ll need to redefine the word “working” to silence your compromised conscience. Cheating and lying go hand in hand.

2. You will get caught

It may not be today. It may not be tomorrow. But eventually, your affair will come to light. Your world will come crashing down on you. If you are fortunate, the story of your indiscretion may avoid the evening news or the front page of your local paper, but your circle of friends will know your deeds. And everyone likes to share juicy news. Your poor decision will become as public as a billboard. It’s not a matter of if but when. As Pastor Rick Warren tweeted recently, “If the Director of the CIA can’t hide and cover up an affair, no one can.” As the Chinese proverb goes, “If you don’t want anyone to know it, don’t do it.”

3. You will disappoint everyone

Everyone. Your spouse. Your friends. Your co-workers. Your God. Your parents. Your nephew. Your children. Yourself. The disappointment you cause will be like the stench of skunks and it will take a long time to remove the smell.

4. You will be a bad example

Everyone is either a good example or a bad example in all things that we do. Cheating is not only a very bad example in relationships but brings with it a cloud of doubt that hovers over you in other areas of your life. If you cheated in one area, would you cheat in another? Cheating communicates to everyone that you took the easy road. It tells others that you were willing to cut corners in your most primary relationship. It reveals that you were not willing to do the hard work and get the help you needed. No one ever admires a cheater. No one looks up to an adulterer. Even if you did a lifetime of good, this one bad deed can erase it all.

5. You will lose your moral authority


It’s hard to tell your children (or others) to do the right thing when they know you didn’t. Saying “Do as I say, not as I do” is the fastest way to lose the respect of others. Not only will you lose their respect, you’ll lose yours. Every moral judgment you make in the future will be weighed against your adulterous action of the past. It doesn’t mean you can’t speak the truth in the future, it just means that few will listen to you.

6. You will create trust issues for your spouse

Forever. You will single-handedly damage the precious self-esteem of the one you promised to love. Every relationship they have after you will be one that they struggle to trust. If that were not enough, you will rock the world of children and cause them to question the stability of every meaningful relationship they have. For children, their parents’ relationship is their anchor and cheating cuts the line.

7. You will lose your standard of living

Depending on what you do for a living, you may lose your job. Many lose their home. Most end up with enormous court fees since cheating is usually the precursor to divorce. Betrayed spouses have a way of making you pay and that payment is always expensive. Every check you write is a constant reminder of your foolishness.

8. You will spend years trying to rebuild your life

Literally years. Even if you somehow weathered the storm financially, you will find it takes years for you to recover emotionally. It takes years for you to restore certain friendships, if you even do. It takes years for you to rebuild your character. It takes years to rebuild trust. It takes years to truly forgive yourself.

9. You will lose relationships

You will lose a LOT of relationships. Lifelong friends will walk away. Close friends that you have helped countless times will not be around to help you. Even some family members who are supposed to love you no matter what will vanish. A cheater can end up living a very lonely life. It’s hard for many people who used to call you friend to get past that skunk smell of disappointment.

10. You will increase your chances of getting an STD

s3 xually transmitted diseases run rampant among promiscuous people. But your paramour is “clean,” right? After all, they told you so. And if there is one thing we all know – we can trust a cheater and their word. As the saying goes, “There is honor among thieves.” One helpful thought may be to assume that everyone but your spouse has an STD. That should curb your appetite for destruction.

11. The grass is not greener on the other side

The “grass is greener” idea is a common misconception. Because we have never been on that grass, we assume it must be better than where we currently stand. It’s not. In fact, though it may look greener from a distance – once you get there and make yourself comfortable, something interesting happens – the grass changes color. This usually happens soon after you get caught. You will then see that patch of land differently. You will also have a strange desire for the green grass you left … except now it is burned and won’t let you back. The best way to enjoy green grass is to water your own yard.

12. Would you want this done to you?

Thieves like to steal wallets but hate when it’s done to them. If we all lived by the Golden Rule (“Treat others the way you want to be treated.”) most of life’s problems would be solved overnight. Think about this action as if it were being done to you. The problem is that it requires thought and thinking is often the last thing a cheater has on his/her mind.

13. You will eventually regret this decision

In the heat of the moment, cheating appears to make sense. It feels good and sometimes even feels right. Feelings are deceitful. Soon afterward, your eyes will be opened and you will regret that you ever partook of the forbidden fruit. Don’t we all have enough regrets in our lives? Why add another one – particularly one that can only destroy everything you have worked so hard to build? Your home may not be perfect but it sure beats living in a tent.

14. The pain outweighs the gain

No one ever says from their deathbed, I wish I would have had an affair. No one ever leaves their lawyer’s office with a smile on their face – grateful for the experience. No one loses dear friends and is glad they have one less Christmas card to receive this year. The loss is immeasurable. The pain can be unbearable. Entire kingdoms can be lost for a few minutes of pleasure. It is just not worth it.


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Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by MzPecs(f): 10:57pm On Mar 02, 2016
They know these things already,
Pls tell them something they've not heard before. cool
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by BE811APP: 10:58pm On Mar 02, 2016
Lalasticala come and save some families... wink
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Tpave(m): 11:02pm On Mar 02, 2016
It depends on what made you to cheat on your partner. Some relationships deserve it before the cheated can get it right.
I don't support cheating on your partner anyway.
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by halfricanadian(f): 11:03pm On Mar 02, 2016
This is like telling a Dog you are a Dog

For crying out loud the Dog is aware already
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by halfricanadian(f): 11:03pm On Mar 02, 2016
This is like telling a Dog you are a Dog

For crying out loud the Dog is aware already.
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by DankemzI(m): 11:09pm On Mar 02, 2016
MzPecs:
They know these things already,
Pls tell them something they've not heard before. cool

You might lose your joystick or testicles if not your life lipsrsealed
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by MzPecs(f): 11:13pm On Mar 02, 2016
DankemzI:


You might lose your joystick or testicles if not your life lipsrsealed
Ehen! This one is more threatening.. cool

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Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Emmyk(m): 11:17pm On Mar 02, 2016
All these can happen even when you don't cheat. cool
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by BE811APP: 11:25pm On Mar 02, 2016
Its more like a reminder not to do it.. cuz it has more negative sides than positive..


halfricanadian:
This is like telling a Dog you are a Dog

For crying out loud the Dog is aware already.
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Olasco93: 12:35am On Mar 03, 2016
MzPecs:
They know these things already,
Pls tell them something they've not heard before. cool
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Olasco93: 12:38am On Mar 03, 2016
MzPecs:
They know these things already,
Pls tell them something they've not heard before. cool
They truly know these things, They just have not MASTERED it. Seeing this old truth over and o er again may just help them CHANGE their minds to stop Cheating...
#Moreover, there are no new advice(s) to give them anymore. The advicers are TIRED of them!
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Sarang(f): 5:02am On Mar 03, 2016
Nice 1 op

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Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Nobody: 6:22am On Mar 03, 2016
PLEASE, What's CHEATING....?
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Nobody: 6:52am On Mar 03, 2016
You will lose MONEY & TIME
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Nobody: 7:01am On Mar 03, 2016
If married, yes I agree. 'Cheating' is not for singles, it's called 'searching'
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by firstking01(m): 7:30am On Mar 03, 2016
Who does cheatingundecided??
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by MzPecs(f): 7:50am On Mar 03, 2016
Olasco93:

They truly know these things, They just have not MASTERED it. Seeing this old truth over and o er again may just help them CHANGE their minds to stop Cheating...
#Moreover, there are no new advice(s) to give them anymore. The advicers are TIRED of them!
True that..

With the rate at which people cheat on their spouse, you'll be forced to them if they don't know the consequences of cheating.

It takes the grace of God and discipline to stay away from cheating

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Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by BE811APP: 9:06am On Mar 03, 2016
I agree

HateU2:
If married, yes I agree. 'Cheating' is not for singles, it's called 'searching'
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by BE811APP: 9:08am On Mar 03, 2016
God Bless u..

U have said it all..

It takes Gods grace cool


MzPecs:

True that..

With the rate at which people cheat on their spouse, you'll be forced to them if they don't know the consequences of cheating.

It takes the grace of God and discipline to stay away from cheating
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Nobody: 9:54am On Mar 03, 2016
issokay grin
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by MzPecs(f): 9:54am On Mar 03, 2016
BE811APP:
God Bless u..

U have said it all..

It takes Gods grace cool


That's what it is. smiley
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Adasun(m): 10:28am On Mar 03, 2016
hmmm cheating nobe 2day wahala
Re: 14 Things That Would Definitely Happen To You If You Cheat On Your Spouse by Nobody: 10:31am On Mar 03, 2016
BE811APP:
I agree

wink

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