You may think you know everything about your significant other. But despite your wealth of knowledge, there’s still a chance you haven’t asked the right questions to uncover certain key issues quite yet. When you’re getting engaged to someone, there are certain things you need to know about them, partially to assess your compatibility and partially because communication, openness and trust are the foundations of a healthy relationship. Huffingtonpost.com suggests these five things you must know.



1. How your significant other feels about children

This isn’t talk you should leave until after you tie the knot. Before getting in too deep, you should know how you each feel about children. Discover whether your partner wants them. Then, find out how many your partner wants and when. Ask, what are your partner’s views on parenting and gender roles? Can either of you imagine taking a break from a high-powered career in order to focus more on caregiving? How do you each see your roles as mom and dad?



2. Whether you share the same values

From family to religion, are you and your significant other in agreement? Or, ask if you can find a way to make room for your differing sets of values? It’s important to know you have similar values so you don’t feel blindsided or surprised when your partner tells you what they’re willing or unwilling to do in terms of shared goals.



3. Your partner’s financial status

Being compatible doesn’t just come down to chemistry. Financial compatibility, is also important. So before you tie the knot, it’s best to know if you’ll be taking on your partner’s debts or whether you’ll be able to reach your own financial goals with his or her help. Ask your partner if he or she is willing to share bank accounts, and how much he or she makes. You’ll need to know how the financial burden might be divided between the two of you, especially considering that money is the No. 1 thing most couples fight about.



4. Your sexual compatibility

Ask yourselves: Are your sex schedules and sex drives in sync? Do you approach sex with similar views, looking to share and receive the same things from the experience? Explore the desire and attraction you have for one another so you can go into your relationship with a foundation for sexual intimacy that can help sustain you when things are difficult. Because if you know and understand one another’s sexual needs, you’ll always have a baseline to get back to one another.



5. You partner’s level of commitment to work

You can’t marry your partner if he or she is already married to his or her job. Look for signs that your partner is maintaining a moderately healthy work and life balance, and consider carefully whether you can handle a partnership that leaves you lonely most of the time.

PiccoloBrunelli:
Just 3 days chatting with a girl on whatsapp I'll know all 5! Bad man na bad man.

MzzTega:
Nice one.

Every one of your point I like.

bet9jaguru:


you can every go ahead and marry her on whatsapp and have ur kids there too


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PiccoloBrunelli:


Lol. You've wounded my spirit. Wait lemme craft a comeback.

Emodeee:
Somebody like zoe of nigeria info, i wonder who will marry her. She is married to her job.

bet9jaguru:




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PiccoloBrunelli:


The modification still get appendicitis. Commot am.

bet9jaguru:



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PiccoloBrunelli:


Aren't we talking about October/November time? I applaud your wickedness Sir. Make all your games this weekend cut.

bet9jaguru:



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osesology:
No 4 and 5 are really really important.

PiccoloBrunelli:


Kikikikiki Correct. Your future shall be bright.

bet9jaguru:


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osesology:

No 4 and 5 are the major reasons why most couples cheat on their spouse. So I totally agree with you when you say the best time to decide what you can or cant live with should be during courtship. But it's so unfortunate that most people pretend a lot (esp women) just because they are desperate to get married.

PiccoloBrunelli:
Just 3 days chatting with a girl on whatsapp I'll know all 5! Bad man na bad man.

Bluezy13:


You lack maturity.
You will understand what [b]courtship[\B] means when you mature.

Bluezy13:


You lack maturity.
You will understand what [b]courtship[\B] means when you mature.

PiccoloBrunelli:


Her name is Ella. We're getting married after her youth service. You can now die.

bet9jaguru:


getting married on whatsapp abi

PiccoloBrunelli:


Lol. You know na....we'll say our vows via status updates. No reception venue. I'll just open whatsapp group.

bet9jaguru:



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PiccoloBrunelli:


Trying to scare me abi?

PiccoloBrunelli:


I noticed you were trying to bolden the word "courtship". But you don't really know how it works. Anyways. Her name is Ella. We're getting married after her youth service. You can now die.

Bluezy13:

I pity the innocent Ella...
She supposedly has her lifetime to dwindle with someone with an IQ equivalent to that of a 5 year old