expocreek:

You see the more reason nigerian Forums can never help you ... In any way ... If you made this post in a foriegn website

You would have seen comment's like

i used to do it but i used this method to stop it and more helpfull comments but here see wetin una dae comment naaa

Mtcheeew

radarada

Epatty, its either ur bisual or gay(gay as in a lesbian) dat maybe y u arent 2 attracted to guys, these things happen alot tho, masturbation happens with most people, alot just pretend about it, we don't know if ur a virgin contemplating sex or just a girl who is sex starved and masturbates on ur fantasies, u should be comfortable to express urself ok, alot of people wud put u down, i've kinda helped people give therapy to sexually related issues like this, u could really be in2 guys but curious about ladies too, its odd but kinda normal, u need 2 experience and stop fantasizing, that would clear ur head u wud know what n who really turns u ön, it could also be cos ur idle and get lonely 2 much, get urself engaged wif things dat r not sexually related, get new hobbies, avoid porn sites, toys and try new getting new hobbies, usually d friends u surround urself with are a big factor n influence point..

Epatty, ask Jesus to make u straight again. He will surely redirect ur mind

Cutehector:
Epatty, ask Jesus to make u straight again. He will surely redirect ur mind

See my guy don turn pastor ooooo

3rdlegxxx:
Epatty, its either ur bisual or gay(gay as in a lesbian) dat maybe y u arent 2 attracted to guys, these things happen alot tho, masturbation happens with most people, alot just pretend about it, we don't know if ur a virgin contemplating sex or just a girl who is sex starved and masturbates on ur fantasies, u should be comfortable to express urself ok, alot of people wud put u down, i've kinda helped people give therapy to sexually related issues like this, u could really be in2 guys but curious about ladies too, its odd but kinda normal, u need 2 experience and stop fantasizing, that would clear ur head u wud know what n who really turns u ön, it could also be cos ur idle and get lonely 2 much, get urself engaged wif things dat r not sexually related, get new hobbies, avoid porn sites, toys and try new getting new hobbies, usually d friends u surround urself with are a big factor n influence point..

Tnx a million. I appreciate

xmileeasy:
If you have decided that you would like to stop masturbating there
are a few methods you can take to start curbing the habit.

Stop feeling guilty - The first step in getting over an addicting
behavior is to stop feeling guilty for indulging. If you are dwelling
on your bad behavior, it only makes it more tempting to continue.
Some also find they are just as addicted to the guilt as they are
to masturbating in the first place. It is perfectly acceptable to
make mistakes and stumble along your path to recovery. Forgive
yourself and move on rather than focusing on your slip ups instead
of beating yourself up and focusing excessive energy on this
incident.

Rid enablers - Remove anything that increases your temptation
to participate in masturbation. If you have a stash of toys or
paraphernalia, throw it away. Block websites on your computer that
allow you to access pornographic content. If you have someone in
your home that you are comfortable sharing this with, ask them to
reset your passwords so you will not be able to remove these bans
yourself. Avoid situations such as hot showers or staying up late
so you will not be tempted.

Fill up your social schedule - Do this so that you do not feel
bored and lonely. Loneliness increases the temptation to
masturbate, especially if you feel as though you are using
masturbation as a replacement for romantic interaction. Boredom
gives your mind time to wander to sexual thoughts and provides
the time and energy to masturbate.

Join in activities and find new hobbie - As you work to fill
up your schedule with other activities, you will want to find
another channel for your energy. Finding a creative outlet for your
energy will fill up your time and give you something to feel
satisfied about so you do not need masturbation to be satisfied.
Find a new hobby, join a club, start playing sports or find a
volunteer activity that you can use to fill up your time.

Alter your diet - Increasing your intake of fruits and vegetables
can make you feel more alert and give you the energy you need to
take part in other activities. This can also boost brainpower, giving
you the push you need to resist your urge to masturbate.

Be patient - You are not going to be able to stop masturbating
overnight. It is perfectly understandable if you have a relapse or
struggle with letting go of your habit. Set up a reward system or
checkpoint that you can use to keep yourself motivated. This will
help you avoid dwelling on the negative and allowing a mistake
from blocking your way to recovery.

Find someone trustworthy. Sometimes you might need help to
completely stop masturbating. Find someone you can trust such as
a religious leader or counselor so you can talk through your urges
and find a set of tools that can help you stop. There are
counselors that specialize in providing counseling and care to
those with sexual addictions who may be able to help you find
healthy ways to rid yourself of these urges.
cc: Epatty

Am grateful for ur advice. I went to d counsellin unit yesterday bt was so disappointed wit d woman. She was jst insultn me n evn joined yoruba dat I dnt understand. She tod me to come bk today n I went ds mrn around 10am. I met 2 oda women in d office n she was nw tellin d women dat am d one she tod dem abt. U need to c d way dy wer lukn at me, lyk a damn sinner. Telln a pastor abt it makes me doubt if I'l nt b used for preachin...

gulfer:
What about the barber

Dnt wok out cos of my situation... I really regret bn a lez. I do regret it nw

Sunkyphil:
radarada

That's your dad's name ryt??

expocreek:


That's your dad's name ryt??

ur family's

expocreek:


That's your dad's name ryt??

dayumm!! (Brutality)

Epatty:
Dnt wok out cos of my situation... I really regret bn a lez. I do regret it nw

I have this feeling that you regret it cos you are a Nigerian girl living in Nigeria (Africa) if you were living in more civilized society, you would have been made to relax with it and survive it, they are hundreds of bisexual girls and guys who end up getting married and having kids but the sexual orientation doesn't change but for societal reasons they have to conform, i know a bi girl who can argue till tomorrow that she isn't but leave her with an attractive guy and all that and watch him try to touch her and seduce her and u had be stunned she would give off almost no reaction but try that with a girl she finds attractive and just cuddles with kisses and she is gone (like so turned on gone ) you could actually be a bisexual and not a lesbian, 2 different things, since you've dated, you've gotten attracted to guys but just find the female attraction stronger, ur still ok, u can lead a normal life, u just need to understand that u are not evil or bad and there are millions like you out there, bi curious who still tell themselves they are straight and act like it but deep down have noticed there innate attraction to the same sex.

Epatty:
Am grateful for ur advice. I went to d counsellin unit yesterday bt was so disappointed wit d woman. She was jst insultn me n evn joined yoruba dat I dnt understand. She tod me to come bk today n I went ds mrn around 10am. I met 2 oda women in d office n she was nw tellin d women dat am d one she tod dem abt. U need to c d way dy wer lukn at me, lyk a damn sinner. Telln a pastor abt it makes me doubt if I'l nt b used for preachin...

Welcome to Nigeria dear, a lot of counselors are still rigid jare, only a good qualified psychologist could really help, all thee people claiming counselors who are always quick to rebuke you and tell you how can you be liking sex? how can u say you only like girls? babe in naija u need friends who are exposed to that level, u need shrinks, qualified sexual therapists and pls the church and mosque thing, do that at your own discretion, a lot of them still preaches against homosexuality and sex as a bad thing for young ones, which isn't so bad so telling a pstor about it would definitely make you the topic of next Sundays discussion....

Sunkyphil:
ur family's

Ooo my family?? Well God has been guilding us oo not to fall in d pit your family fell into

#fooolsareeverywhere

expocreek:


Ooo my family??
Well God has been guilding us oo not to fall in d pit your family fell into


#fooolsareeverywhere

no nid to banter words with u

Sunkyphil:
no nid to banter words with u

Yea dats kuz you cant stand me jhoor

Epatty:
Cnt jst stop masturbating and worst of it is dat am not attracted to men. Dont knw y, pls help, pls.

The solution to every problem is always in the beginning cause if a challenge comes up while one follows a path then one must have missed a point @ the start. When how and and why did you start. Think about that and find the reason while you've kept @ it. Also break away from the catalysts (you know what I mean). There are a lot of sane guys here take time to find and make friends with them and put yourself on strict rules.am sure you'd break it with time (not in a day or week oh. Unless you have a miracle) hope this helps

Epatty:
I really appreciate. Tnx a million. I'l try n c a therapist tho scared if it wil b kept confidential by him or her.

Saw your travails and I bet you its one of the easiest thing to solve, what you don't tend to understand is you can't turn from lez to straight in a day its gradual, now what are the gradual process, make I stop abeg before dem think say I've got ulterior motives though. Nairaland can be sick atimes.

Epatty:
Am grateful for ur advice. I went to d counsellin unit yesterday bt was so disappointed wit d woman. She was jst insultn me n evn joined yoruba dat I dnt understand. She tod me to come bk today n I went ds mrn around 10am. I met 2 oda women in d office n she was nw tellin d women dat am d one she tod dem abt. U need to c d way dy wer lukn at me, lyk a damn sinner. Telln a pastor abt it makes me doubt if I'l nt b used for preachin...

There are great minds that can help you out here, make friends with them and seek their advice. Some Nigerian counsellors and therapist don't understand what secrecy and confidentiality means.

cruzita:
I'm not ooo

cruzita u re a big time dude ....deceivin urslf

olac21:


(You love him but he is a barber,now you don't love any man&you masturbate a lot) and I'm forced to assume if you're gradually running mad or maybe something strange has taken over you completely

Lmao! That's the way they counter their own threads here oh

Epatty:
Cnt jst stop masturbating and worst of it is dat am not attracted to men. Dont knw y, pls help, pls.

get a guy, u Dnt need to Lyk im ,den go on marathon s*x fr weeks or prayer which Eva 1 u fink suits u

KashyBaby:



Actually,y care what ppol say? Juz be urself & explore it...

Explore lesbianism and masturbation? What a wonderful world ...hmmm

My dear u need Spiritual cleansing - your case is very critical. Physical therapy can't help you all you need is the divine whipping of Alfa Sule and all your problem (demons) will be gone - you're welcome

@OP send me mail @ meneteabolo@gmail.com . I have the solution.

Gebbson007:

get a guy, u Dnt need to Lyk im ,den go on marathon s*x fr weeks or prayer which Eva 1 u fink suits u

among d options uv given, which to u is d best

Dirkcoyt:


Saw your travails and I bet you its one of the easiest thing to solve, what you don't tend to understand is you can't turn from lez to straight in a day its gradual, now what are the gradual process, make I stop abeg before dem think say I've got ulterior motives though. Nairaland can be sick atimes.

wat r d gradual process...

Epatty:
wat r d gradual process...

I'm afraid I won't say that here but let me loop you in, the basic thing is what does a lez partner give to her partner that makes her stay glued and always wanting a woman? You and I know the answer I suppose. So if you can, see you really have to pm me, I don't feel comfortable dissecting this issue here but believe me there is a solution.

Epatty:
among d options uv given, which to u is d best

PRAYER