themayor4542:
sorry but I think I'm slightly confused here. most of these things you just listed here are things that we guys do or must do before getting married. I'm talking about taking her out, buying her gift. if we still continue to do them even after getting married then what's the point? I mean, fish wey man don catch shey man dey hook am again ni? my apologies if my question seem unwarranted but I'm just a bit confused here. thanks.

kola1930:
We've been married for a year now and blessed with a pretty daughter. My wife feels little or no urge to be intimate. Its been more than a month now since I had s*x. Reason being that, am angry inside of me that she is always not in the mood, so I decided to hold myself and see when she'll realize it that am angry about it and do the needful. But it seems like am just suffering my self because she seems not to realize she needs to do something fast. I am feeling like cheating on her as a way to punish her maybe she'll realize it that she needs to satisfy her husband to keep him away from other ladies outside. I urgently need advice from married nairalanders... Is the situation d same or similar in ur marriage, and how do I resolve this differences. Am really disturbed

Joy1706:

Where did this retarrded child crawl out from?

mummydirect:

To be honest with you here, I don't know how the woman is doing it, but sincerely speaking, no sane woman will be comfortable not making love to her man for a whole good one month!!!! no no no, something is wrong somewhere.

Silsilah:
Haba! I'm not sure you are OK

Onegai:


They're fixing drains around us and this has driven mosquitoes into the house. That has made us take the decision to keep our baby in our small bed whilst we hurriedly got a mosquito net. I am currently "ignoring" him. He has not died and I have scheduled "shenanigans" for when I drop her off and rush to a good spot to book a night for us and celebrate his birthday in 2 weeks' time. (He doesn't know that yet so no-one spoil it )

Because a lot of you guys are not understanding (no-one has taught you to put others first) and see women as the "enemy to be subdued", you marry and make selfish decisions. You guys end up regretting it when you know how much destruction it causes later in life but by then it's too late.

OP, please ignore my post and listen to the guys on NL encouraging you to think like a lowly animal. Who doesn't know how to step back and look at the big picture but thinks only of now, instant gratifcation and selfishness. She's tired and her sex drive has disappeared taking care of YOUR CHILD but hey, what do I know (shrug). My husband knows the best thing to do is speak to me because if he goes sulking, I'm too exhausted chasing a baby to realise that he's blanking me or worse, I assume whatever caused the sulks will resolve itself. That is what your mouth is for, not discussing Football stats alone but communicating with people.

Pidggin:
Are you physically attractive?

smartigo:
^^^ what has it got to do with the issue on ground? Pesin way don born for am? Maybe the man is stinking or not good in bed? These r just 'maybes'.

@op let me know serious with you now. How are you contemplating of cheating on her becos of ONE MONTH abstinence except you are selfish. you need to get real and solve this problem by Communicating your feelings and understand her problem. Should she also apply the same method?

How are you sure she isnt feeling this same?
Many things could be affecting her like stress, hormonal changes etc.
Lastly, this just started, so try n check you didn't cause it as the first step to resolving it. Cheers!

Abel202:


When I read this, I started laughing in Swahili. I am now married for Ten years. From the first year, I unfortunately discovered that if you allow my wife she can stay without making love for a straight one year or even more. She is a lovely wife in every sense of the word, And I love and cherish her greatly, but as far as love making is concerned she is zero. Over the years, I have tried everything including all the funny advises am reading here. So if it's my kind of wife that the OP married, chai chai the OP is on a very loooong thing. If its my kind of wife then he will have to be able to source for alternative means of satisfying himself sometimes if he has to keep the home front and everyone happy lol. But it's still too early for the OP now. He still have to take some of the amusing advises I have read here and try it to see what it gives. But if it's my kind of wife iya iya you are on a very very long thing.[/b][b][b][/b]

naijathings:


Yes it is possible that there is something wrong. But what if the guy is not physically attractive just as some other females here were asking the OP.
is the lack of physical attraction enough to make a woman lose sexual appetite or not want to DO IT with her husband for one month or more ?

austine4real:
Mayb the load is too much 4her to bear, wash clothes,cook,breastfeed,wash yansh


and u go com bak 4rm work remove ur smelling prik 4rm ur dirty boxers and say baby spread ur legs i want fvck,no intimacy no hw are u? No hw did ur day went


my broda u must b wicked oo aaah u must be D 2nd satan sef


do u communicate things to her,i mean hw u feel?

Pidggin:
Are you physically attractive?

halfricanadian:

Exactly my thought

nenergy:
[s][/s]If at all you two are ladies, you can't be more than 19-21 years to have such a mindset.
[s][/s]

kenrish2:
i have dated ladies and believe me some have very low sexual urge while some are tigers in bed all ladies are nt d same, so if u happen to mary a lady with low libido u are in real trouble. She can be there while u masturbate because she cant satisfy u

smartigo:


In that regard, visit www.zeevirtualmedia.com . If it doesn't help, then it is serious issue to either live with or run away frm

DaGeneral:

When she eventually opened up on why she became repulsive to se.x I was awe struck, I mean aside the stress mounted on her by baby sucking off and on alongside other duties every other things was about me. She was not sure how I would react to her new body....

DaGeneral:
Let me speak from personal experience and that of a friend.
My friends case was that he married a wife who believe se.x is only for procreation so anything aside that is a red flag for her, my friend couldn't bear it anymore thus resulted to self service from where he graduated to side chic's and dat almost cost him his marriage.
Before and during pregnancy my wife n I made love like minks,as in even 2hrs to when her water broke we had a quickie that night.now fast forward to after delivery, she had a tear and d doctor being a friend asked I give her 6weeks for d“ pleasure generator" to heal and I gladly extended it to 8weeks. After the healing each time I tried logging in the server is always offline, dis continued for another 4weeks,knowing full well that at times my cologne alone turns her on b4, I knew it has to be a postnatal issue. So i resolved to the d following,
1.At every opportunity I try to relieve her of chores as much as possible,sometimes I even back my daughter while in d kitchen with her, when am home on weekends I allow her to go to the market and do her thing leaving d small madam with me(its not dat comfortable because my daughter can drive u nuts I mean nuts) ,I do dishes,seldom cook and watch dem bibs n napkins.
2. I made her understand by my actions dat I know she going through and am ready to follow through with her.
3. Never to get angry wen she refuses Se.x rather I will cuddle her n we sleep.
And when it eventually happened it was like d movie “Olympus has fallen "
When she eventually opened up on why she became repulsive to se.x I was awe struck, I mean aside the stress mounted on her by baby sucking off and on alongside other duties every other things was about me. She was not sure how I would react to her new body, she was like a human just came from the pleasure generator and d b00bs at d moment now produce milk so she psychological dreaded the idea. Bros it takes a lot of sacrifices and compromises to Mk one's marriage work.
Se.x after birth is and can never be thesame as compared to before oooo. Bros sometimes when we get mind to do marathon na that day my pikin go put mouth for breast till 1am..

DaGeneral:
Let me speak from personal experience and that of a friend.
My friends case was that he married a wife who believe se.x is only for procreation so anything aside that is a red flag for her, my friend couldn't bear it anymore thus resulted to self service from where he graduated to side chic's and dat almost cost him his marriage.
Before and during pregnancy my wife n I made love like minks,as in even 2hrs to when her water broke we had a quickie that night.now fast forward to after delivery, she had a tear and d doctor being a friend asked I give her 6weeks for d“ pleasure generator" to heal and I gladly extended it to 8weeks. After the healing each time I tried logging in the server is always offline, dis continued for another 4weeks,knowing full well that at times my cologne alone turns her on b4, I knew it has to be a postnatal issue. So i resolved to the d following,
1.At every opportunity I try to relieve her of chores as much as possible,sometimes I even back my daughter while in d kitchen with her, when am home on weekends I allow her to go to the market and do her thing leaving d small madam with me(its not dat comfortable because my daughter can drive u nuts I mean nuts) ,I do dishes,seldom cook and watch dem bibs n napkins.
2. I made her understand by my actions dat I know she going through and am ready to follow through with her.
3. Never to get angry wen she refuses Se.x rather I will cuddle her n we sleep.
And when it eventually happened it was like d movie “Olympus has fallen "
When she eventually opened up on why she became repulsive to se.x I was awe struck, I mean aside the stress mounted on her by baby sucking off and on alongside other duties every other things was about me. She was not sure how I would react to her new body, she was like a human just came from the pleasure generator and d b00bs at d moment now produce milk so she psychological dreaded the idea. Bros it takes a lot of sacrifices and compromises to Mk one's marriage work.
Se.x after birth is and can never be thesame as compared to before oooo. Bros sometimes when we get mind to do marathon na that day my pikin go put mouth for breast till 1am..

JustHere2Observ:
Just say you want to cheat, shikena. I know of someone whose husband cheated on her despite all the sexual energy they share...his excuse for cheating, he was being stupid and not thinking.

DaGeneral:
Let me speak from personal experience and that of a friend.
My friends case was that he married a wife who believe se.x is only for procreation so anything aside that is a red flag for her, my friend couldn't bear it anymore thus resulted to self service from where he graduated to side chic's and dat almost cost him his marriage.
Before and during pregnancy my wife n I made love like minks,as in even 2hrs to when her water broke we had a quickie that night.now fast forward to after delivery, she had a tear and d doctor being a friend asked I give her 6weeks for d“ pleasure generator" to heal and I gladly extended it to 8weeks. After the healing each time I tried logging in the server is always offline, dis continued for another 4weeks,knowing full well that at times my cologne alone turns her on b4, I knew it has to be a postnatal issue. So i resolved to the d following,
1.At every opportunity I try to relieve her of chores as much as possible,sometimes I even back my daughter while in d kitchen with her, when am home on weekends I allow her to go to the market and do her thing leaving d small madam with me(its not dat comfortable because my daughter can drive u nuts I mean nuts) ,I do dishes,seldom cook and watch dem bibs n napkins.
2. I made her understand by my actions dat I know she going through and am ready to follow through with her.
3. Never to get angry wen she refuses Se.x rather I will cuddle her n we sleep.
And when it eventually happened it was like d movie “Olympus has fallen "
When she eventually opened up on why she became repulsive to se.x I was awe struck, I mean aside the stress mounted on her by baby sucking off and on alongside other duties every other things was about me. She was not sure how I would react to her new body, she was like a human just came from the pleasure generator and d b00bs at d moment now produce milk so she psychological dreaded the idea. Bros it takes a lot of sacrifices and compromises to Mk one's marriage work.
Se.x after birth is and can never be thesame as compared to before oooo. Bros sometimes when we get mind to do marathon na that day my pikin go put mouth for breast till 1am..

sameolg616:

pls madam...let me speak for the men...
its in a mans nature to cheat...ow can one 1 woman wan chop all these dangote sugar?she wan kill herself ni?how u define ur "ferrari" vs "rolls royce" is wat makes the wife and the gf..
the bible has predicted itself in isaiah 4:1 In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, "We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!"

so pls why would a brother be begging for sex when all he shd do is find he remaining 6women...
i keep telling my friends:we must help all these single women as they are just to many...the more we ignore them,the more they would become our problems"
just imagin if our brother in need just meets another gal that would set all his fantasies alight daily(they would even pay for the pleasure just to make sure they obtain his c of o from the wife),do u think he would wan go back home ?then,the woman would start complaining when indeed she was the main cause but they nevr remember it...
my brother,join the "help the needy(single gals" crusade and i promise u wld come back here with a testimony ur wife is now behaving herself"