LaurelP:


Then it means that u already know the answer to ur question. Therefore ur title shouldn't be a question but shud read "Men are more selfish than women".

refiner:




my dear am not surprised cos u are lady and so u are trying to defend ur gender!...buh truth be told women are more selfish!



a woman loves doing stuff DAT will favour her not minding d feelings of d guy!.... u can hardly see a lady sticking on a poor diligent guy wifout having two or more guys outside!.....

let's call a spade a spade!

Creamish:


Bullocks!!

Do not assume MOST women to behave exactly like U. Its always safer to stick with "SOME" when making un-researched statements... There is no spade to call here. I know a good number who have stuck with men in their poor state and were supportive without having backups outside their relationship. These women have the respect and luv of their men.

refiner:



TRASH!



I never said dere are no ladies DAT stood by a guy through thick and tin!.....try to comprehend well!...


well I don't wish to ague more on this....believe all want to believe and leave me wif my own belief!after all op asked for opinions and I stated mine wifout quoting anyone!




CHEERS!

refiner:




my dear am not surprised cos u are lady and so u are trying to defend ur gender!...buh truth be told women are more selfish!



a woman loves doing stuff DAT will favour her not minding d feelings of d guy!....u can hardly see a lady sticking on a poor diligent guy wifout having two or more guys outside!.....

let's call a spade a spade!

Suigeneris93:



Its obvious you're that kinda lady, stop forcing your ideology on the rest of us that are not like you

refiner:
I fink women are more selfish!....yea guys are selfish buh women are more selfish!....


op d example u sited above was from just a friend of urs and it apply to some men too buh most women does all DAT and even more!....dey might date more Dan 10 men,each has dere purpose......maybe one for sex,one for money,one for love,etcetera!

dey mostly fink abt demslves wifout feelings for oders!

Smartguy001:


She is rite majority will act dat way

Creamish:


Bullocks!!

Do not assume MOST women to behave exactly like U. Its always safer to stick with "SOME" when making un-researched statements... There is no spade to call here. I know a good number who have stuck with men in their poor state and were supportive without having backups outside their relationship. These women have the respect and luv of their men.

Suigeneris93:



When you have some sort of research to back up the bolded, kindly mention me, thanks

Creamish:


Some people have no clue what "Most" and "Majority" implies. They just think its an English word they can use freely to make their points. Without research, it always safer to use "SOME". This isn't a battle of the sexes.

Each individual has their selfish needs but then what you know about urself does not necessarily apply to the next person of same gender. So if u (as a woman) are promiscuous with 10 boyfriends scattered around, it does not mean the next woman is exactly like U. Personally, I cant say which gender is more selfish because being selfish is not gender-specific. It is more individualistic. When a proper research from a sample size is carried out, one can now comfortably compare the number of selfish men as against that of the selfish women to arrive at a sampled opinion.

Creamish:


Some people have no clue what "Most" and "Majority" implies. They just think its an English word they can use freely to make their points. Without research, it always safer to use "SOME". This isn't a battle of the sexes.

Each individual has their selfish needs but then what you know about urself does not necessarily apply to the next person of same gender. So if u (as a woman) are promiscuous with 10 boyfriends scattered around, it does not mean the next woman is exactly like U. Personally, I cant say which gender is more selfish because being selfish is not gender-specific. It is more individualistic. When a proper research from a sample size is carried out, one can now comfortably compare the number of selfish men as against that of the selfish women to arrive at a sampled opinion.

Suigeneris93:




True but from what the op said, I think she was talking about being territorial about whomever you're going out with. That's the ground I agreed with her on, very few men can forgive a cheating spouse but the reverse is the case for the women folk. Most men serial date like her friend but forbid any of the women they date to do so, I think that's the basis of the selfishness she's talking about.

LaurelP:
Ive noticed that all the ladies are attacking refiner cos she has a different opinion, this isn't right.
Everybody cant see things from the same perspective, we think, reason and view differently. Besides, we live in different environments.
For instance, a person living in Lekki is likely to have a different experience and opinion from someone living in Agege. Why? Because what he/ she sees around is different from that of the Agege resident.
When arguing on issues, we are normally tempted to root for the opinion that favours us especially when it has to do with our gender, tribe, or religion. It takes courage to say the truth even when its against us.
A guy rooted for the ladies and both the op and another lady praised him for saying "the truth".
Why attack refiner for having a different opinion?

Creamish:


My only contest with her is on the use of the word "MOST"... U cannot have MOST women in your area going by your reference. U can only have SOME.

LaurelP:


I see where u are coming from and you're correct. The word "most" signifies generally and its wrong to generalize.


And am surprised to see u again, my before before friend. lol

refiner:



TRASH!



I never said dere are no ladies DAT stood by a guy through thick and tin!.....try to comprehend well!...


well I don't wish to ague more on this....believe all want to believe and leave me wif my own belief!after all op asked for opinions and I stated mine wifout quoting anyone!




CHEERS!




Setiously u dey fall oh

Just dey fall dey go

But thats not trash i see ur point but ur wrong accept it

Btw wer u get that hat on ur dp i got one just like it and i cant find it i dey suspect u

LaurelP:
Ive noticed that all the ladies are attacking refiner cos she has a different opinion, this isn't right.
Everybody cant see things from the same perspective, we think, reason and view differently. Besides, we live in different environments.
For instance, a person living in Lekki is likely to have a different experience and opinion from someone living in Agege. Why? Because what he/ she sees around is different from that of the Agege resident.
When arguing on issues, we are normally tempted to root for the opinion that favours us especially when it has to do with our gender, tribe, or religion. It takes courage to say the truth even when its against us.
A guy rooted for the ladies and both the op and another lady praised him for saying "the truth".
Why attack refiner for having a different opinion?

Creamish:


My only contest with her is on the use of the word "MOST"... U cannot have MOST women in your area going by your reference. U can only have SOME.

.....then why should d op ask us such question since u and I don't av MOST women or men in our area!

and den how do u know dat men are d most selfish since u cannot have MOST men in your area?

mimzy:
I was chatting with a colleague of mine (male) amebo things and we got talking bout relationships. One conversation led to another and he made this statement 'I CAN NEVER EVER SHARE MY WIFE!!! infact wife is too deep , i can never ever share my girlfriend with another man'. And i was like really

Before you crucify me, This guy has about five girlfriends that i know of (they come around) and i'm very sure he has more. He wants them to be faithful to him and he is actually cheating on them all . Isn't this selfishness of the highest order
so i told him i'll use his mini story as a case study .

No matter how sensitive or "different" men declare themselves to be they always end up being more interested in making themselves happy than making you happy...all the while expecting you to take care of them when they are sick, cook for them when they are hungry, sleep with them when they want sex. In my experience the only time a man is ever warm or understanding is when he wants pleasing of some kind. No matter how evolved they think they are, that is ultimately what they think your purpose is. To make them feel good. To serve them...but only when it suits them...

Guys/Ladies, in all sincerity, who is more selfish in nature

Suigeneris93:



When you have some sort of research to back up the bolded, kindly mention me, thanks

refiner:



.....then why should d op ask us such question since u and I don't av MOST women or men in our area!

and den how do u know dat men are d most selfish since u cannot have MOST men in your area?

abimic:

Everything still boils down to personality as everybody has an iota of selfishness In him or her. That Girl A is selfish isn't a yardstick that Girl B must be selfish and that MAN A is doesn't mean MAN B must too. So there is no premise for the conclusion as it is sure a continuum based on different points.
The op already had her stand automated, hence nothing can be done to change her opinion.
Literally, i still think it's wrong to say who's more selfish as we all had different experiences ranging from different vantage points but generally, I think men are more selfless. For a long-term consideration, real men grow to handle lot of things that it takes one to be selfless to make it a success. The day a lady start becoming too selfless in a relationship, pride can easily set in and u know what that means, but when a guy becomes too selfless, the girl would say, isn't that his responsibility! So it really factors into it a lot. Be that as it may, u were unshaken from the different people hurling all sorts, I concur with u though even with different views. Again your use of MOST was well appropriated as most of these present age of girls fit into it very well. Everybody claiming good and holy on nairaland!

....fanks a bunch for d cool explanation!....it depends on individual tho!...we cant judge a whole cos of one or two person/persons!.....I appreciate!

refiner:



.....then why should d op ask us such question since u and I don't av MOST women or men in our area!

and den how do u know dat men are d most selfish since u cannot have [b]MOST men in your area?[/b]

Creamish:


Each individual has their selfish needs but then what you know about urself does not necessarily apply to the next person of same gender. So if u (as a woman) are promiscuous with 10 boyfriends scattered around, it does not mean the next woman is exactly like U. Personally, I cant say which gender is more selfish because being selfish is not gender-specific. It is more individualistic. When a proper research from a sample size is carried out, one can now comfortably compare the number of selfish men as against that of the selfish women to arrive at a sampled opinion.

Creamish:


Madam Refiner...pls quote where i said men are the most selfish... And i'd appreciate u dont remain mute on this request.

Like i told u earlier... My issue with ur post is on the use of MOST. I dont dispute some women being selfish but pls when u decide to generalize, u'd best have a data to support ur findings. The below was my take on the matter..



Still waiting for the quote where i supposedly stated that men are the most selfish.

....ohk!....my mistake,I thought u we're d Oder gals dat were shouting men were d most selfish!....u know u guys were many attacking me! cos of my opinion!....

well if dats ur take in dis matter,I fink I will go wif u....we don't av to generalise....becos one or two person/persons is/are selfish does not mean all are selfish!....fanks tho!


















maybe we should be friends!

CHEERS!!!

refiner:



....ohk!....my mistake,I thought u we're d Oder gals dat were shouting men were d most selfish!....u know u guys were many attacking me! cos of my opinion!....

well if dats ur take in dis matter,I fink I will go wif u....we don't av to generalise....becos one or two person/persons is/are selfish does not mean all are selfish!....fanks tho!

maybe we should be friends!


CHEERS!!!...

refiner:

....ohk!....my mistake,I thought u we're d Oder gals dat were shouting men were d most selfish!....u know u guys were many attacking me! cos of my opinion!....
well if dats ur take in dis matter,I fink I will go wif u....we don't av to generalise....becos one or two person/persons is/are selfish does not mean all are selfish!....fanks tho!
maybe we should be friends!
CHEERS!!!...

refiner:


lol!....u just made me smile now!.....we were only buttressing our points and opinion...I don't remember forcing my ideology on u gals!


not surprised tho cos u are one of those dat hate hearing d truth!....


note*...am not DAT kinda lady....if I was,I won't be saying dis,cos my conscience will surely prick me!


cheeers!

mimzy:



hmmm. well said. but i still think men are fundamentally more selfish." Unlike women, "they're simply less interested in people. And they're less empathetic.

Haaaa.... i had to check ur other topics. @ what u stated above, really?? Men are less interested in people? men are less empathetic??


Thing is women right from "babyhood" are generally more pampered than the male child, (men are trained to be tough. remember be a man?). So since women have this experience from everywhere, the feeling of entitlement develops, thats why a lady can walk up to a lecturer and try to manipulate him to get favour marks, thats why ladies can call a guy and ask for money she didnt work for and expect to have it. why does she have this confidence though, simple she believes she deserves it simply because shes a lady.......

Men on the other hand do almost everything right from puberty to please the girls, selflessly ...... A man would open the door for you, a man would stand up from his chair for u etc, how many times have u done these selfless acts to any man? except maybe u love him...... We dont have numerous people to pamper us, we dont have numerous people to call when we are starving.... .... Please dear, u need to begin to see the selfless sacrifices of a man.....

empathy have u seen good christian "oga madam"s maltreating maids simply cos she isnt the mother?
havent u seen a woman get unhappy cos her man is helping someone else?
Havent u seen a woman single handedly breaking a man relationship with his mother or siblings simply cos she wants to have her man to herself?
Havent you seen female drivers? can you ever ask a female driver for space and she will allow you go?
Who tries to place everlasting curses on a man who got tired of a womans bs and says im not doing anymore , some ladies would even slap their vjay to curse (i heard o) like it didnt take two to tango?

The only way men can be selfish or said to be greedy in a way it affects woman is through se.x.

I can therefore safely say that women are instinctively miles selfish than men..... We aint complaining though, we like to pamper too so its all good. but speaking of facts, u got to give that selfishness to the ladies worldwide....

gcode123:



Haaaa.... i had to check ur other topics. @ what u stated above, really?? Men are less interested in people? men are less empathetic??


Thing is women right from "babyhood" are generally more pampered than the male child, (men are trained to be tough. remember be a man?). So since women have this experience from everywhere, the feeling of entitlement develops, thats why a lady can walk up to a lecturer and try to manipulate him to get favour marks, thats why ladies can call a guy and ask for money she didnt work for and expect to have it. why does she have this confidence though, simple she believes she deserves it simply because shes a lady.......

Men on the other hand do almost everything right from puberty to please the girls, selflessly ...... A man would open the door for you, a man would stand up from his chair for u etc, how many times have u done these selfless acts to any man? except maybe u love him...... We dont have numerous people to pamper us, we dont have numerous people to call when we are starving.... .... Please dear, u need to begin to see the selfless sacrifices of a man.....

empathy have u seen good christian "oga madam"s maltreating maids simply cos she isnt the mother?
havent u seen a woman get unhappy cos her man is helping someone else?
Havent u seen a woman single handedly breaking a man relationship with his mother or siblings simply cos she wants to have her man to herself?
Havent you seen female drivers? can you ever ask a female driver for space and she will allow you go?
Who tries to place everlasting curses on a man who got tired of a womans bs and says im not doing anymore , some ladies would even slap their vjay to curse (i heard o) like it didnt take two to tango?

The only way men can be selfish or said to be greedy in a way it affects woman is through se.x.

I can therefore safely say that women are instinctively miles selfish than men..... We aint complaining though, we like to pamper too so its all good. but speaking of facts, u got to give that selfishness to the ladies worldwide....


too much story.