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Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Eddygourdo(m): 7:01am On Apr 04, 2016 |
olalat:you should learn to understand that women are humans with feelings as well. You highlight Wat you passing through as a man if the house, yet you fail to realise what she is passing through as the woman in ur house. Many times your wife has used the method I explained above but you didn't realise it. Read my suggestions slowly this time and you will understand why it's the best. As a woman is a support to you, do also are you to he and must make efforts to integrate her in ur life. What is she to fear from not implementing my advice. A divorce? Divorce is a small thing compared to living in a marriage that all emotions have left. Thus she better arrest it now by getting his attention. He has to open up to her and change his ways. We all take care if our families and children and it's not easy for any man. So why the fuss with him. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Omoluabi16(m): 7:02am On Apr 04, 2016 |
I am scared of marriage. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Cavenchy(m): 7:03am On Apr 04, 2016 |
On a second look at the topic, I think the OP believes her husband has just shown his true colour. And is no longer ashamed to admit he married her for her beauty, the smile he gave when he said those words to her is quite suspicious, considering the fact that he mentioned to her that he was at her mercy then when he didn't want to lose her but now no longer feels the need to keep her happy all the time and could care less what she says or feels. One starts to wonder, is the age difference that much that he suddenly can not even see reason in communicating with his wife? or is he just the kind that feels he is too big to laugh? This might be the case of those local traditionally-inclined men, who believe a wife's purpose is just to warm the bed, cook and give birth to kids, they wont even share their day or business plans with the woman as they believe as long as she doesn't go hungry she has no right to complain. OP I really hope this isn't the kind of man you married? The kind that knows they don't deserve you but because you are materialistic they happily use their money to charm you while courting, smiling and jovial the whole time, knowing they would open your eyes when you eventually place the ring on your finger and say I do. I have seen a man from a popular Nigerian pre-wedding day video interview, say that all that matters to him is for her to say I do, and that he knows his wife is more interested in the honeymoon location, the young pretty wife was there and acknowledged she cant wait to travel to this exotic place, do all the shopping and what not, but he kept saying all that matters is the I do, and with the smirk on his face you could tell he probably would switch his behaviour after that happens. Now while we don't know what happened in their marriage afterwards, I think it's something a wise woman would notice in his behaviour even before marriage, this seems to be common in marriages with long age gaps too and I hope OP isn't a victim of such. However, the things you agreed to do in your previous post would still go a long way in fixing your marriage as it might change how your husband sees you from the 'ceremonial wife' to the 'co-operative helpmeet'. I have written this so other young single ladies on this thread could learn and possibly review their decisions thoroughly before they sign that register. That old ready-made manfriend(won't say bf) smiling all the time and ever ready to part with his cash, might actually be a monk (like someone here said) who is only interested in having a pretty wife to procreate with cos he is already old and under a lot of pressure from society to stop acting irresponsibly in the name of being single. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Johnnoo(m): 7:07am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Its a phase, don't worry, he will change when the time comes. Likewise disconnect from him without rudeness or disrespect. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by modelly: 7:07am On Apr 04, 2016 |
My dear sister, if I were u I will just pray, keeping praying until sometin good happens, neva forget to pray for God to give him grace, to become all that God want him to be |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by kingsley2rhyme(m): 7:11am On Apr 04, 2016 |
It's obvious this fellow is not married and doesn't understand there is bound to be financial crisis when married. If your own advice is for her to leave her marriage for this reason then it shows the type of person you are if you are a female. You think marriage is boyfriend and girlfriend relationship? Oga, grow up. If you don't have an advice to give, it's better you just read through and don't comment at all. Madam, pray about the situation, give him some space for him to realize and call for your attention, you can then pour out your mind to him. familyrocks: |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by PresVA: 7:12am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Trapnews:eeeyyaa, so going out , playing games together etttcc is telemundo to you? I pray you find LOVE someday Don't pity me because I already have a lovely husband who I do those stuffs and more with.. Your marriage is what you make of it.. you either choose to live as friends or strangers. . All d best. . |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by IdJack(m): 7:14am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Hmmmmm Some people comments on Nairaland is something else, how can you advice her to pull out from the marriage? I am not sure you are married...becos if you do, you will not give this kind of advice to a young marriage that is not even up to a year. The woman said..the husband told her sometime that he has a lot of financial pressure, a lot of responsibility so i think that might be the cause. familyrocks: |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by onunwa21(m): 7:14am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Continue, some1 will soon be happy wit him |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by olalat(m): 7:16am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Bros i take care of my home with ease FYI. I just gv u scenarios there. No perfect marriage. Ignoring the man will compound the pressure. It will mk their home hotter i repeat. The fact that ur wife use the technique to calm u down does nt mean it can be generally applied. The fact dt d man didnt open up to his wife is enough evidence 2 show dt hes a diff person to u. Ur advice may their home so i repeat. She should act normal and pray. My one kobo. Eddygourdo: |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by funmind(f): 7:17am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Men sha! |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by djraymy(m): 7:17am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Tekevwe:maybe he's an introvert |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by PresVA: 7:17am On Apr 04, 2016 |
sykeng:I understand you but my comment about class still stands You meet a girl, she lives a flamboyant lifestyle, you can't meet up yet you stress yourself? After you come crying about how she has milked you dry? Calling her names? When you can choose a woman you have same perception with? |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by huntax(m): 7:21am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Tekevwe:The way he's behaving,it feels like he has discovered something about you (or someone told him something false about you) but chooses not to confront you. It might not be the case but judging by your story, that's the best scenario I can conjure up. In my opinion, this has nothing to do with work and stress, but everything to do with you. No matter how tough things might be, when I come home to my wife, her warm welcome should be enough to soften me for a little while at least. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by smartn09(m): 7:22am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Tekevwe:Dear madam, You can check if your husband is a cultist, being a Christian does not make him immune to cultism, every average cultist always want to be alone, he may likely get a flat for you elsewhere to be visiting at his own time. The only way is to discover and declare your readiness to get involved and you will enjoy the best of him.If not he will be seeing you as a little girleeeee! that he can only crack joke with at his own time. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by funmind(f): 7:22am On Apr 04, 2016 |
PresVA:Congrats! but do you think it is realistic when the family is in debt? I think the person that quoted you has some points too |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Nobody: 7:23am On Apr 04, 2016 |
My dear, your husband is your husband don't believe in ehn give him space or that, you have the right to be clingy because that's the only way u can protect,know him more. How can u let your husband be on his own when u are suppose to call him regularly while he's away from home to check on him and even flirt before he gets back so that you can do . Your husband might be going through some emotional issues and he hasn't find anyone to share it with, he needs someone to talk to and that person is you. Here is the game , that moment you both are done with sex which is always His happiest moment, go on your kneels and ask him to share His worries with u. He has a lot to tell you. Tekevwe: |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by olalat(m): 7:25am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Dont be scared bro. Its easier than imagined if u marry ur own wife. Just pray nd pray. Make it a prayer point. Omoluabi16: |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by idealsico(m): 7:26am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Sorry, Op. Is your husband a member of APC? Otherwise I can not see the reason why he should display a complete opposite of whom you perceived him to be. Note: I dont belong to any party. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by 1miccza: 7:26am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Eddygourdo: You are completely on point!!! That would worke 105 percent.. Nice one..... |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by taryur(m): 7:32am On Apr 04, 2016 |
[quote author=doskie post=44386865]sister. he doesn't love you. I know where hes standing. I don't love my gf for instance. we actually dont have enough mutual interest. if I get married to her by any circumstance beyond my control, I think I'll do exactly what im reading about your man. the feeling wasn't there. if you were observant enough, I think you should have known prior to the marriage. marriage that is founded on such base as age, material comfort, physical looks and all are bound to be maintained only with difficulty. take time to fall in love if its still possible. Secondly. why did you not find out why he wasn't jovial with his siblings. did you ignore such a major red flag? did you ask questions about his past? have you told his brothers about this development? what did they say? is the sex between you too good? like... where you guys having sex before you got married? has he noticed changes in you too that he cannot communicate in order not to hurt you? does he have another lady outside? what about friends with benefits? how long did you know him? was he rich when you met him? he may not love you if you didn't play a role in his life. one of sacrifice. I drop my pen.[/quote though,i wouldnt agree with u totally that OP's husband doesnt love her but u r spot on in all u av said. d most important of all...."ignoring and boning his family" .she should av found out the reason for that. now,its like she is just starting courtship.what she should av done then,she is gona have to do them now that she is in d marriage.its a hard way to learn bt OP doesnt have a choice. just follow what the person I quoted said and as u get answers to those,you would gotten a direction on how to prepare,else,u would be praying amiss. God bless u n ur home. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by barnabas91: 7:34am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Cholls:eddyguordo is totally right wit his words, u guys are even sayin dsame tin. With what he said, d man wil finaly realises himself. If a man is takin himself too important to his woman, iif she turn out not to care of his attitude and act normal, d man wil come to his senses, thinkin of hw to please her back. Speaking from experience 1 Like |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by merrymaker2: 7:36am On Apr 04, 2016 |
[Egbon, u no gada. Na we heaf u say dey knock like honda? U no evn see gud car cpmpare us wt..lolquote author=EggovinMma post=44361955]Lol. Maybe you should give him a little bit of space.Its just a moody phase that will eventually phase off. Men with their wahala. You can't just satisfy them, their head dey knock anyhow like HONDA engine. Try and go back to your own shell. Be sweet but still give him space, enough that he will notice. [/quote] |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by mcangelo(m): 7:36am On Apr 04, 2016 |
He never tasted Osogbo weed before and someone gave him that as a wedding gift. Remedy: Plenty caring Continue loving Massaging after work Special dishes Love him the more |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by BlackAlbino6(m): 7:37am On Apr 04, 2016 |
peedeeasobie: a typical lifestyle of most Nigerian girls. They demand expensive items from you not minding your level of earnings, neither do they care whether you have some family relatives to cater for. When your husband to be was showering you with expensive gifts, smiled only with you at the expense of his relative you felt that was love em? Op u re just on point. I still wish her a beautiful marriage life. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by missjahiniekpe(f): 7:37am On Apr 04, 2016 |
SAMBARRY: He should have remained single if he wanted 'the me time' married couples can't afford the me time. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by chronique(m): 7:38am On Apr 04, 2016 |
Every man has a breaking point and a melting point,every man has a mumu button that when touched,will make him soft like a puppy. Get to work and start looking for the mumu button and keep pressing it until he starts laughing continuously like a jackass. Don't be a lazy wife;marriage aint for the faint hearted. Tekevwe: |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by janway(f): 7:40am On Apr 04, 2016 |
give him back in his own coin, then he will seat back, new marriage, and he his giving attitude, see me see wahala oo. just tell him u want to go and spend some time with ur parents , that u are missing ur parents and d attitude he his giving to u his becoming unbearable. let's see his reactions. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by ucjesuso: 7:40am On Apr 04, 2016 |
sister the only thing is that we are in the time of change. so change is now affecting every thing in nija. am sorry because it enter your home, do not worry because it will soon be over |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Bunker1(m): 7:40am On Apr 04, 2016 |
That's how ritualist act, before taking on they actions, maybe his about to go spirtual, so pray harder. Or you just talk about plans without thinking where the income will come from. |
Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Xerum(m): 7:42am On Apr 04, 2016 |
There are some other qualities I discovered in him that I never saw while we were dating. I jokingly told him he has changed and that day he smiled and said he had to give me all I wanted cos he didn't want to lose me since I'm a pretty girl. Now that we re married its like he can't be bothered with trying anymore. The bolded part is very indicative of what might be wrong in yr marriage. I am very sorry to say this, he clearly just admitted he does not love you and that there is hardly any chemistry, bonding or anything that connects you guys beyond him finding you pretty (Superficial). Hence his being nice whenever he feels the urge to make use of your perceived beauty (by him) to satisfy his needs. There is more to a marriage than just liking a person or the outward beauty of a partner. You might want to speak to him on the bolded comment and ask him how he would have felt, if you said same to him. It is a shame you are going thru this just a few months after your marriage. Try and focus on the things that you love doing and do things that will make you happy. Life is short dear. Wish you all the best. |
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