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Why Sex Is Not Love by iscbaba: 1:10pm On Apr 14, 2016
In recent times, sex has been the popularly name everywhere you go across the globe. The named SEX has found itself growing rapidly because of the way people define it. Many people rather singles define sex in an obnoxious way to satisfy their flesh desire. But the original definition of sex is for reproduction between male (husband) and female (wife) who are legally married. Sex is designed by God for reproduction. The scripture says Gen 9:1 9 “And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth”. This passage connotes that the creation of sex is for reproduction and not for pleasure. But today, sex has been use to replace love even due the difference between the two words are clear and contrast.

Singles are finding guilty of this awful act of sex, while so many people are left confuse between love and sex. Permit me to define the two terms (love and sex). Love is an expression, feeling, and care express toward someone’s with no condition attach or array to it while sex is a form of contact between legally married partner to produce children.

“Don’t let his money; expression, caring, love, trust, sweet words, appearance etc. make you the mother of his children and his sex-mates if his dowry has not made you his wife“.

Sex never sustains love, what sustains love is friendship. Sex only exposes love and when love is exposed you find no prominent reason to stay with the person you once uttered to love. Why some relationship are still training together today is not because love is still framing in their heart but the mind to bear all the scar, shame and insult of their awful attitude in their relationship has been abortive and unable to bear.

“You can bravely reply anyone that talks to you in a hooligan manner if you have not spoiled yourself in his presence”. Ifyou still resist agreeing with me that sex never sustain love. Ask yourself some questions. Why it’s that many of those people visiting prostitute house never intend to marry them? Why it’s that when couple wants to get marry the love will be framing in them but after marriage the love will reduce? If sex is a clue to love why is Adam and Eve denied the privilege? It is simple because sex never sustains love. “Any relationship that stands on sex will fall speedily”.
Having sex as single is condemned in all beliefs and cultures. But the desire to be brave and say NO to it has been the prominent problem singles are battling with.
“What you can’t resist now will later or sooner resist you” There are some questions every single have to ask him/herself, which we all failed to asked ourselves. Some of the questions are

1) Do this guy need me as his wife in the nearest future?
Anybody you have sex with will not married you rather respect you because he have tasted the prominent value and respect you have
“Sex reduce love”

2) If He have sex with me and this relationship break will I be able to stand in his presence?
The truth is if the relationship breaks you will not be able to talk neither stand in his presence likewise anywhere he stayed your conscience will always restrict you from going there.
“Your Virginity is your mouthpieces“.

3) Does he love me?
Anyone that tells you that he loves you and still begging you for sex, never love you, he is just full with lust, maybe because of your appearance etc. Because love is an expression of heart and not an expression of flesh (sex). If he truly loves you he will not have sex with you until he is brave to pays your dowry and ready to setup his family around you.
“Friendship is the commitment to love not sex”

4) Will I not destroy my future by having sex now?
Having sex has a single can render your future fruitless, over some decade many case of STDs; unwanted pregnancy etc. has increase rapidly among singles. If you have sex as singles the possibility to contact those deadly diseases like HIV/AIDs, STDs etc. is 100% warranty which the result of those diseases can lead to early death and prohibit you from your future. Nevertheless sex weak bone, spinal cord, and make you apathy to work, imagine you’re tired and unable to work, read etc. when your mates’ are reading and working to meet their future demand. Will you not be drop out of school? Likewise sex can cause unwanted pregnancy. Unwanted pregnancy is widely growing across the global today which has rendered many glorious people life tasteless while many have lost their life true abortion. Some have been able to ardor the scar and shame that unwanted pregnancy caused but the scar still never eradicates from their life. A lady with kid without a husband, have automatically accept to play the role and responsibilities of both the mother and father for the child. Let’s now imagine the amount of money she’ll spent on the child’s wears, perhaps, feeding money, school fees, etc. nevertheless the time she will use to take care of the child before thinking of taking care of her well-being. Having she lost all the time on the child and despising her future demand?
Having sex as a single will also make you think inhuman. The thinking of good things that will make your future terrific will not come to your memory when you have to vehemently plan for your future.

“Not everyone have the zeal to succeed, don’t follow people with no definite plan they most surely affect your future if you do.
James 4:7 says “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

Having sex as a single will not only bruise your name but also bruise and bring reproach to your father’s name and your whole family. But when you are educated, living godly, dressing decent, planning for your future, keep your virginity and involved in godly acts, your family will be proud of you even outsider will embrace you.

Recently, it was jetted out on media, that the Governor of Edo State, Adams Oshiomhole married Iara Fortes from Cape Verde. During an interview, Governor Oshiomhole said he met his wife virgin and also uttered that he pay her parent huge amount of money after her dowry for keeping her a virgin and also give bravo and respect to the girl for keeping her virginity to her husband. She has loudly made her parents proud.

“Ladies, your VIRGINITY gains respect in presence of your husband. Keep it! It’s more than useful. Remember the scripture says your body is the temple of the Lord (1 Corithians 6:19). Keep the Lord’s temple holy, is because Mary keep it holy that why she is chosen to born Jesus Christ. Keep yours too holy”. You have to respect yourself before anyone respects you. ‎

Relationship often leads to marriage but not all, it’s so noxious that singles are giving it all to relationship instead for them to keep it all for their soulmates(Husband/Wife). Many guys don’t even care of their parent well-being who trained them to where they are today, but busy focusing and spending their money, resources etc on someone who they have not legally marry, who can leave anytime, any day. Nevertheless ladies are finding mostly in this awful behavior more than guys, many ladies like to do all horrific and ungodly things to their date that can end up marrying another lady. Ladies are found uttering barbaric statement like “If I give him my body he will not go”, but end up losing him after useless themselves in his presence. The truth is “It’s not the person you’re dating that you married, but the person that pay your dowry”. Keep your body holy. Don’t use your body to make anyone stayed, if he refused to stay, someone else will do.

“Virginity can’t be giving twice it’s once in a life time. Dash it well, give it to the person who pay your dowry. It’s wrong to give it to your boyfriends”.
Remember what (1 Cor 6:15-18) says “Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? Know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

An English proverb says the great ones are yet to be born, not that the great ones’ are yet to be born but many of those great ones’ have lost their glory true sex. If you should check Judges 14:1-17 you will find the story of Samson. He’s a powerful man that killed lion, but he lost his glory true sex, sin and ungodly acts likewise Reuben. Joseph will have also lost his glory and disdain his dream, if he have allowed to go by his flesh when his Masters’ wife tried to lure him to lie with her.

Sex damages glory, so we ought to abstain from this awful act! 1 Corinthians 7:8 says “I say therefore to the unmarried and the widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. Jesus here is counseling the singles to stay even as He stayed without sex, sin and ungodly acts if will want to enjoy our glory and life to the fullest.

Singles period is never the time to pay attention to your flesh but to your future. “How you plan it now, will recall in the future” Be brave to deny anything that will render your future tasteless. “The outcome of your single is the income of your family”, so plan your life, family and your well-being now, snub all inhuman and ungodly things and embrace what will make you incomparable and didactic. Use your single period to fight all battle, determine your future, focus on God, Your studies, learn hand work and be prayerful. If you win it now that you’re single you’ll always win it when you’ married. Plan it well today and relax tomorrow. Follow not the world neither the things of the world.

“A word is enough for the wise”

“The easiest way for satan to destroy your glory and well-being is true sex”

Single season is the best time everyone supposed to focus and plan for his/her future

If you wait to marry before you plan for yourself, you failed to remember that when you married you’ll not be planning for yourself again but your family.

If you don’t plan it when you’re single, forget it forever.

You have automatically accept to share the curses, problem, diseases etc. of anyone you have sex with”

You have share your glory with anybody you sex with

You’re not wholly to be call woman when your Virginity is missing during your Single Period.

Don’t let his money, expression, caring, love; trust, sweet words appearance etc make you the mother of his children and sexmates, if his dowry has not made you his wife.

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Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by Donlino(m): 1:13pm On Apr 14, 2016
Wait........you expect me to read all that shii?! undecided
Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by lordthree(m): 1:16pm On Apr 14, 2016
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Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by gbens2000(m): 1:16pm On Apr 14, 2016
Too long I pass,walks outathread
Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by Justycxx(m): 1:23pm On Apr 14, 2016
phoney
Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by frubben(m): 1:29pm On Apr 14, 2016
Am still waiting for u to write a long story on hw, spending heaven and earth for girls is nt love also.
Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by talktonase(m): 1:35pm On Apr 14, 2016
the spirit is willing but the body is weak.
Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by MRBrownJ: 4:17pm On Apr 14, 2016
i am not gonna reply on the OP's idea that sex has anything to do with religion... thats pointless and a waste of time, but here is a few points i would like to address:

iscbaba:
Singles are finding guilty of this awful act of sex, while so many people are left confuse between love and sex.

the majority of unmarried people having sex are not confused about the reason they DESIRE/REQUIRE sex in their lives, at that particular time. "you" are the one that is confused because you expect everyone to follow YOUR narrow minded doctrines.

Permit me to define the two terms (love and sex). Love is an expression, feeling, and care express toward someone’s with no condition attach or array to it while sex is a form of contact between legally married partner to produce children.

since when the definition of sex has anything to do with marriage OR children?! ARRANT NONSENSE!
the definition of SEX is very simple: the consensual activity between human beings (whether married or not) involving genital contact and/or penetration.
there are many reasons why people wanna have sex, yet do not want children.... aka for PLEASURE, to bond, to show care and affection, to get rid of sexual urges, for stress relief, to sleep better, to explore sexually and learn etc

Why it’s that many of those people visiting prostitute house never intend to marry them?

thats simply because A) they are paying for her short time, not her life and B) having sex with someone has absolutely NOTHING to do with marriage.

Why it’s that when couple wants to get marry the love will be framing in them but after marriage the love will reduce?

simply because A) every smart person knows that love is NOT eternal NOR unconditional and B) many are faking who they are in order to get married, and after marriage they are now tired of faking and become their true self, thus possibly NOT loveable any longer.

If sex is a clue to love why is Adam and Eve denied the privilege?

did adam LOVE eve before they "decided" to get together? or better yet, were they even married?! stop writing rubbish online

Having sex as single is condemned in all beliefs and cultures.

having sex while unmarried is ONLY looked down upon by religion. at least, get your facts right.

1) Do this guy need me as his wife in the nearest future?
Anybody you have sex with will not married you rather respect you because he have tasted the prominent value and respect you have
“Sex reduce love”

do you mean to say that NOT having premarital sex increase love?! bwaaaah!

2) If He have sex with me and this relationship break will I be able to stand in his presence?
The truth is if the relationship breaks you will not be able to talk neither stand in his presence likewise anywhere he stayed your conscience will always restrict you from going there.“Your Virginity is your mouthpieces“.

what kind of low self esteem blind sheep do you take people for?! unmarried people having sex dont give a damn about what you wrote above.

3) Does he love me?
Anyone that tells you that he loves you and still begging you for sex, never love you, he is just full with lust, maybe because of your appearance etc. Because love is an expression of heart and not an expression of flesh (sex). If he truly loves you he will not have sex with you until he is brave to pays your dowry and ready to setup his family around you. “Friendship is the commitment to love not sex”

you must be REALLY confused... 1st you write that sex is not love, which we all agree on, then you write (above) that a man asking for sex doesnt love this woman...
let me try to enlighten you: sex and love are two different things. YOU are the one mixing the two for your selfish agenda, because since sex is not love then people SHOULDNT mistakingly use love as a reason to have sex. you cant say "love is not sex" and then in the same sentence say "no sex without love".... simply because sex isnt love therefore people have the right to have sex whether love is present or not, duh!

4) Will I not destroy my future by having sex now?
Having sex has a single can render your future fruitless, over some decade many case of STDs; unwanted pregnancy etc. has increase rapidly among singles. If you have sex as singles the possibility to contact those deadly diseases like HIV/AIDs, STDs etc.

what you fail to realise is that unmarried people tend to use condoms (at least they should), while married people dont... so as we all know that many married men/women are cheating (and dont use condoms with their wives/husbands neither), the chances of what you wrote above is the same whether unmarried or married.

Recently, it was jetted out on media, that the Governor of Edo State, Adams Oshiomhole married Iara Fortes from Cape Verde. During an interview, Governor Oshiomhole said he met his wife virgin and also uttered that he pay her parent huge amount of money after her dowry for keeping her a virgin and also give bravo and respect to the girl for keeping her virginity to her husband. She has loudly made her parents proud.

any young woman who marries a rich man old enough to be her grandfather, and thus making her parents "proud", is nothing but a goldigging clueless deluded woman, with equally clueless deluded parents. nobody respects such lady because we all know what time it is, and instead they are laughed at (apart from her equally goldigging mates and/or his equally +60yr friends and sugardaddies looking to buy/marry virgins).
Re: Why Sex Is Not Love by ettaetta(m): 4:45pm On Apr 14, 2016
Summary pls

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