Pride goes before a fall, and it keeps you on the floor. BE WISE O

Most Nigerian women have deeply rooted insecurities about being abandoned or dumped, they try and hide such behind the mask of self sufficiency and fake superiority to hide the things that make them feel inferior, such women in an effort to remain calm on the exterior try to kill their natural drives such as love and care, they open themselves up for varying degrees of demonic attack by being heartless. All she really wants is to be valued, but her insecurities will never let her express her true feelings, all of this is displayed as self destroying pride. There are some women that will realize when they have messed up for too long and even if there's no chance will quickly run back to their man and humble themselves at last, though it may or may not be too late, they have at least been able to conquer a trait that sets them up to be God's enemies, as God detests the proud, no exceptions, so they may be too late to win back a loving man, but may be granted another opportunity at love because she humbled herself and tried from the bottom of her heart to get things right. Also though, there are the greatest tragedy of them all, the woman who will go to the grave with all her pride, never say sorry, never try to fix things, sorry to say, such a woman has been cursed by her actions and may never know the love again, she will become everything she dreaded to be seen as, weak, hopeless and lost, lonely after destroying a good relationship because she refused to let her man be the boss. Such women are to be avoided by men and even women at all cost, they are wasters of years of their own lives and a little of the lives of their partners, they are dead inside, they are caged in spiritual prison of pride and can not be freed, only a strong deliverance ministry and thorough apologies and repentance to all she took for granted and repaid evil for good. Truly all things are possible through God, but to avoid wasted love, time and money, avoid such women and men, does she find it hard apologising after she offends you because she feels justified? Does she always feel she's right? Does she argue for the sake of argument only to become upset and unapologetic if proven to be wrong? Does she repay her man's heartfelt gestures with a non chalant attitude like his effort was no big deal? Does she lack the ability to make her man feel loved? Does she act heartless and uncaring? Finally does she laugh off the grave consequences of her pride and attitude justifying herself by her own standards only for the truth to catch up to her and her pride to destroy her and all she has? Run far from such a person, they are specially oppressed cases and need urgent spiritual attention not a relationship, they are not fit for love and can not show love, nor do they crave love, they are walking dead. This applies to both sexes, the walking dead can not smell their rotting carcass until all is lost, they can not take advice even if they tried to change their ways and will never be able to fully make ammends and move forward in life because her pride is her god!

My ex can never say am sorry or break the ice during quarrel in relationship..

It pained me she left me, but when I remember I also do the mending fences after issues, I am happy she is gone..

Senseless girls everywhere!

Speechless...

Hummm..

olisasegun:
A FRIEND WROTE;

I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it's good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws.

I am 32 years old. My ex hubby & I dated for six years. We where best of friends, I waited until he completed college and started work, my family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now).
My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn't control me.

Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me.

I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes. One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside. I went to my family, my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing was wrong.

My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone. After two days I received a call that he was in the hospital, my family told me that I shouldn't go there because it would look like I was begging him, and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness.

All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me. I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell.

When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.

We were divorced in 2009 July.
Now, this Saturday (today) my husband is marrying, whilst l am here wasted! My family members are gossiping about me, I depend on what my ex gives to my son for survival. I know I wasted my
marriage. I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advise.

Don't be cheated, don't entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader. Even my young sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and
bad mouthing me. Please ladies be vigilant in your marriage

Thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage.
There is no benefit in pride for nothing.

#SOMETIMES IT'S NOT THE MAN'S FAULT AT ALL,IT'S YOUR PRIDE,AND THE PEOPLE YOU ALLOW TO ADVISE YOU. I read this story and felt the need to share it

why are you reliant on what your ex gives you? Can't you start a business? Go back to school, look for work.

Your ex remarrying and you not doing so is not a bad thing abeg. Stop listening to gossipmongers and focus on your life

That you are divorced doesn't mean happiness should elude you.

That's the part I do not understand.

Sis, divorce is a phase of life. Take responsibility for your actions and make something of your life.

You have accepted your mistakes, your crying stage should be over by now. Move on instead of focusing on what you lost.

Look on the bright side, you have some opportunities that married people don't, you can make decisions without anyone questioning you.

No one is asking you where you went to late at night.

You are not waking up at 5am to cook food that you don't want for more than 2 people.

If you know how many nigerians would be happier divorced than married. Don't listen to talk and mind the business that pays you.