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Chastity

Q  How do you know if a guy loves you or if he wants to use you?


A If you ever want to know if a guy loves you, apply the love
test. Here's how it works. I know a young woman who applied
this love test on a first (and last) date with a particular guy.
He made certain suggestions as to his intentions for the
evening but she informed him that she practiced chastity. He
responded, "That's okay. We can do other stuff" (implying
everything short of intercourse). She proceeded to give him a
crash course in the definition of chastity, and he
responded, "So you mean that I'm not going to get anything?"

He sounded like an eight-year-old boy having a tantrum
because his mother wouldn't buy him a Lego set. His request
coupled with the childish reaction shows that he had no idea
what he was asking for. He assumed that buying her dinner
should more than suffice to gain him access to the priceless
treasure of her body. This is the blindness that comes with an
irreverent attitude towards sex.

What this young woman did wasn't easy, but it was much
easier than dating the guy for six months before realizing that
he loved pleasure more than he loved her. Because she
practiced the virtue of chastity, she saw through the
manipulation that some people use to get others in bed. She
knew that if a guy pressured her to give him her body, then
he didn't love her. Because of a woman's great dignity-she is
made in the image and likeness of God-she deserves
authentic love. She must never allow herself to be used or
treated as a thing. Her body is priceless in the sight of God,
and her heart is to be treasured.

Although this love test will weed out a lot of immature guys,
only time will reveal a man's intentions. One man said, "If I
sensed there was a moral dilemma in her mind, I would play
any role necessary to reach the point where sex became
inevitable."i There are many good guys out there but there
are also plenty of predators who will tell a girl whatever she
wants to hear. Therefore, a girl needs to proceed slowly,
develop the skill of listening to her heart, and have the
courage to follow it. Otherwise, a young woman may be left
feeling as this fifteen-year-old did: "I felt strange, and in a
sense, used. It was like we were both caring for the same
person-him. I felt left out of it."ii


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i McDowell, op. cit., p. 110.

ii As quoted in lovematters.com, p. 5. Taken from Boyfriends:
Getting Them, Keeping Them, Living Without Them by Joyce
L. Vedral, Ph.D. New York, Ballantine Books, 1990.

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