Smellymouth:
Keep your distance and try to vamp up your own love life. You can replace your crush on him with a crush on somebody else who is single and available. Start going on dates, online, where ever.

At the end of the day, he's married.

You don't want to mess with that. Moral issues aside, getting involved with a married men will hugely complicate your life.

IRserveMyComent:
The first to comment just said what i had in mind. He is married, there is no guarantee he wont leave you for another person if he should leave his wife for you. Tell him to forget about you.

Abprettyneat:
So what everybody is saying that he will go back to his wife and he not serious with me and a player

Abprettyneat:
So what everybody is saying that he will go back to his wife and he not serious with me and a player

Abprettyneat:


How am I preventing him from seeing or talking to his kids. This separation didn't start bcuz of me I met him separated I may never let him "enter" me. And do nigerian men claim to be in love only to get sex wouldn't that be too risky considering "he may go back to his wife"

Abprettyneat:



Yes I'm experiencing that now. At this point I'm cool on dating I'm just going to continue focusing on my work is don't need these problems I don't date online I meet men by chance usually I'm pretty successful in this area but this situation proves otherwise

Mekzyzeus:


Not really! Those were very subtle "reality check". I rather honestly advice you to follow you heart and fight "sensibly" for what you want, while at the same time not compromising your standards.

mimzy:


I said you should leave him alone cos you said in your write up that you stopped talking to him for several weeks and then u started texting him back.

See I believe u know what's fair and what's not. If u really wanna cut ties completely with this man. U know just what to do. And he will never be able to reach you again.

But in the end.. after all said n done, we can only but proffer advise , the final decision lies in your hands.

SmellingAnus:
I actually feel that man is a good man but I also think it's not worth investing your time and emotions in... The risk is just too high to ignore

Abprettyneat:



I appreciate the honesty. I feel the exact same way but I'm going through it now he just said he love me our love feels so innocent it's not forced and I just think he is really busy and overworked he goes to work at 7am and will facetime me at 7pm and still be at work so that explains our phone issues. Then he has obligations to his friends and family he is such a strong man that's why I don't complain when he texts multiple times a day then stop, him finding the time is astonishing but he is married. I told him when he gets a divorce call me lol

IRserveMyComent:
That is the more reason you should try and detach yourself from him now before you get hurt.. From all indications you have developed feelings for him. Every one has issues in their marriages, as hard as it may be for you, encourage him to resolve his issues with his wife. Make him understand his children are his responsibilities no matter how his wife behaves about it. Then and then have you become a good friend to him. There is no quaranty he might not leave you tomorow for another person when you guys have issues if he should leave his wife for you. And they might resolve their issues at your back and you end up getting hurt because of how you feel about him already.

mimzy:



Lolz @ the emboldened..
You might end up waiting for that forever .

alobright17:
Op from the way you counter people's good advice of staying away from a married man,shows that you posted this thread seeking for people to encourage you on keeping up with the married man.

In your post you never said he is separated but suddenly in other to make your quest matured you now added it,from the way things are now and from the good advice you rejected I think and believed your mind has already been made.please continue with him but do not come back here and tell us about how wicked Nigerian men are.

He is separated is that what he told you or what you know for sure?We Men are very good actors when we wanted something from ladies as Mimzy said she is a lady and she know what she is talking about.

mimzy:


You didn't mention in your post that the man is separated from his wife . This is what u said below op

Abprettyneat:


Read my post again i said we both are seperated and I don't need anybody to encourage me to do anything rather a bunch of strangers agree or not I will do what I feel best I posted bcuz he is nigerian and maybe you guys could explain this behavior to me

Abprettyneat:



If him and his wife don't live together then what's does that mean? Separated right

mimzy:


You said they don't live together but they travel to USA together.
For all u know, they might not be living together for numerous reasons. It could be work related or any other factor.

The fact that they ain't living together doesn't necessarily mean that they are separated.

modelmike7:
....... Interesting, and it never crossed your mind 'if another woman' fight hard enough in the nearest future , she could win him from you also? Think about this lady!

mimzy:


This thread is unnecessary then my dear...

Abprettyneat:



Okay so why do you keep posting goodbye Okay you are seeking attention and I have none to give you anymore

mimzy:
Alobright17 .

Good morning

alobright17:
I found out he and his wife didn't live together but traveled to America together......as separated couples or business partners?you're divorced and he is separated

Meanwhile we Nigerians both male and female kept explaining the behavior of a typical Nigerian married man but your mind has been made up from your stance.

Meanwhile be ready to host him and that said separated wife in the nearest future and do not see him as a wicked person because you knew it from the onset that you're trading on a danger zone,don't feel shy to write how good or BAD the whole thing turn out to be.

In Lucky Dube's voice, IS NOT EASY TO UNDERSTAND IT SON.

mimzy:


You said they don't live together but they travel to USA together.
For all u know, they might not be living together for numerous reasons. It could be work related or any other factor.

The fact that they ain't living together doesn't necessarily mean that they are separated.

Abprettyneat:



I'm separated he is separated the only thing I've heard was the negative like I said I don't need no one to agree the comments seemed mindless and not well thought out I agreed with the one that crossed my mind as well I just don't see this as negative as you guys make it if he is leading me on then he is wicked who tell someone they love them just to have a sex. And love is never enough we are compatible I suggested a one night stand before lol and he said no I always give him a out I will never hold on to a man who wants to leave i just don't understand his actions he is so into me but it's like he is always doing something I wonder is it part of his nature or is he playing me but I guess posting on this thread was the wrong idea since in your eyes I'm breaking up a "happy home" or being a tricked by someone who constantly pursuing me I'm sure it's plenty of woman in Nigerian why spend so much time jumping thru hoops spending money flying here when it's girls out there who wouldn't require so much emotionally. He has money I sure he would buy a prostitute so no I'm not gonna agree with what doesn't match our situation