What is that one thing your partner could do or turn out to be that would make you end a relationship? I’ve heard several different opinions ranging from an abusive nature to bad breath. Fair enough. But the most common as expected turned out to be infidelity.

When people hear or talk about Infidelity, physical infidelity is usually what comes to mind. The fact that your partner had intercourse with someone else is unacceptable. It’s painful. You can’t take it. It’s the height of betrayal.

However, while it is not my intention to trivialize this deal breaker, I would just like to bring attention to the fact that emotional infidelity could be a deal breaker as well. Infact, Emotional cheating is as bad, if not worse, than its “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” counterpart.

“Emotional Infidelity has been defined as a relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that affects the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance…”.

Everyone is very familiar with Physical infidelity but what people don’t understand is that it first starts in the mind. If you feed your mind with wrong images, wrong conversations, wrong movies etc. you eventually find yourself gradually embracing the need to act likewise. Nothing happens just like that. Emotional infidelity on the other hand is something people are not very conversant with but starts the same way in the mind. To have feelings for someone, it must have developed over time. It takes weeks, months, even years. It means you were conscious of what was taking place for that long period without any feelings of guilt. You allowed it, and you enjoyed it.

An emotional affair is so subtle and seems so harmless that it is easily overlooked by many people. It is easy to think you can justify it by simply saying “we are just friends, nothing happened”. But think again. Something did happen. What happened is you have formed a deep romantic attachment with someone who isn’t your partner that could inadvertently cause pain and destroy your primary relationship. You have kept secrets. You have lied to your partner. You have broken the trust your partner had in you. You have done everything but sleep with that person. And trust me, sooner or later, that is bound to happen.

If you’re texting a member of the opposite sex and your partner is uncomfortable with it but you think it’s more important to keep the other person’s friendship, that’s emotional cheating. If you prefer that person’s company to your partner’s, that’s emotional cheating. If you find yourself complaining to that person about your partner, you, my dear friend, are guilty of emotional infidelity.

“It starts out as a friendship, so it can be confusing,” says sex and relationship expert Dr. Tammy Nelson, author of “The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.” “The important thing is to determine where a friendship crosses the line. It is a slippery slope from friend to emotional affair to a sexual relationship.”

So that lady at your workplace you eat lunch with all the time, the Facebook friend you are connected to 24/7, the ex you still talk to and ruminate on the past with, they’re all people you are likely to cheat on your partner with.

If you still think physical cheating is the height of infidelity, think again.

So what’s your deal breaker?

i have deal breakers.... Bad hygeine, a loose mouth. Foolishness... Ego......


Above all... If she lacks respect, the relationship won't work.... A lady that doesnt respect you while dating will kick your mum out of your house when married. If she can gimme my respect as a man, ion care, I'll break that heart

RoyalBlak007:
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Cheating & lying are a big no-no to me. Let me add, anything that shakes my trust & makes me question someone's loyalty, will get them iced.

Infidelity is a worse nightmare of everyone whose in a relationship.

BrideOfDracula:
Cheating & lying are a big no-no to me. Let me add, anything that shakes my trust & makes me question someone's loyalty, will get them iced.

Oh good. That means I can pummel you very well, just to curb your loud mouth and you won't call it quits.

There's one particular behavior most ladies exhibit which I dislike a lot.
Discussing their personal issues with friends, it's very annoying.
Some will even complain about you to their friends in your presence. It's a no no for me.

Well, mine is Abusiveness.
Be it physically or verbally.
I am gone.

Well, mine is Abusiveness.
Be it physically or verbally.
I am gone.

Wat is wrong with this generation?




I wish God had a deal breaker with humans tho.

archdon:
What is that one thing your partner could do or turn out to be that would make you end a relationship? I’ve heard several different opinions ranging from an abusive nature to bad breath. Fair enough. But the most common as expected turned out to be infidelity.

When people hear or talk about Infidelity, physical infidelity is usually what comes to mind. The fact that your partner had intercourse with someone else is unacceptable. It’s painful. You can’t take it. It’s the height of betrayal.

However, while it is not my intention to trivialize this deal breaker, I would just like to bring attention to the fact that emotional infidelity could be a deal breaker as well. Infact, Emotional cheating is as bad, if not worse, than its “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” counterpart.

“Emotional Infidelity has been defined as a relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that affects the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance…”.

Everyone is very familiar with Physical infidelity but what people don’t understand is that it first starts in the mind. If you feed your mind with wrong images, wrong conversations, wrong movies etc. you eventually find yourself gradually embracing the need to act likewise. Nothing happens just like that. Emotional infidelity on the other hand is something people are not very conversant with but starts the same way in the mind. To have feelings for someone, it must have developed over time. It takes weeks, months, even years. It means you were conscious of what was taking place for that long period without any feelings of guilt. You allowed it, and you enjoyed it.

An emotional affair is so subtle and seems so harmless that it is easily overlooked by many people. It is easy to think you can justify it by simply saying “we are just friends, nothing happened”. But think again. Something did happen. What happened is you have formed a deep romantic attachment with someone who isn’t your partner that could inadvertently cause pain and destroy your primary relationship. You have kept secrets. You have lied to your partner. You have broken the trust your partner had in you. You have done everything but sleep with that person. And trust me, sooner or later, that is bound to happen.

If you’re texting a member of the opposite sex and your partner is uncomfortable with it but you think it’s more important to keep the other person’s friendship, that’s emotional cheating. If you prefer that person’s company to your partner’s, that’s emotional cheating. If you find yourself complaining to that person about your partner, you, my dear friend, are guilty of emotional infidelity.

“It starts out as a friendship, so it can be confusing,” says sex and relationship expert Dr. Tammy Nelson, author of “The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.” “The important thing is to determine where a friendship crosses the line. It is a slippery slope from friend to emotional affair to a sexual relationship.”

So that lady at your workplace you eat lunch with all the time, the Facebook friend you are connected to 24/7, the ex you still talk to and ruminate on the past with, they’re all people you are likely to cheat on your partner with.

If you still think physical cheating is the height of infidelity, think again.

So what’s your deal breaker?

Infidelity, and domestic abuse.

mehn consistent nagging, difficult to satisfy no mata aw much u try & den uncultured ladies.......personally I dunt av a sister but I learned a lot frm ma parents & d life dey live....as 4 cheating or infidelity I wunt listen to stories or wat pple say even if dey bring a video clip of ma woman on anoda xcept I catch red handed or see dey in such intimate position

Deal breaker 4 me?.....naggin...I dnt even keep nagging friends not to talk of being in a relatioship with one.

joseph1832:
Oh good. That means I can pummel you very well, just to curb your loud mouth and you won't call it quits.

That's if I don't mop the floor with you 1st I can float like a butterfly & sting like a bee

BrideOfDracula:


That's if I don't mop the floor with you 1st I can float like a butterfly & sting like a bee

Only in your dreams.

joseph1832:
Only in your dreams.

Awake

BrideOfDracula:

Awake

Then, Feed me more...

A guy who xpects me to reply his whatsapp messages in 0.000001 secs. OMG. I cnt stand him

joseph1832:
Then, Feed me more...

How about breakfast in bed, Wizzy style?

BrideOfDracula:


How about breakfast in bed, Wizzy style?

After some nice round of sex?

joseph1832:
After some nice round of sex?

As you wish

BrideOfDracula:

As you wish

Then you know what to do.

joseph1832:
Then you know what to do.

Hahaha. You're still on that?

BrideOfDracula:


Hahaha. You're still on that?

What else should I be on, if not 'that'.