Codedboy95:
tho i didn't read what you wrote well.. but next time the uncle is around tell your girlfriend that you want to pay him a visit just to thank him for all he has been doing .....

Randyhot work on this advice, if she refuse then it's obvious she's dating him, if she accept watch closely her so called "uncles" reaction to you and make sure the uncle knows you are her fiancee, if she doesn't introduce you as such, introduce urself as such and see his reaction.

From OP's response it's clear you know the truth but just don't want to admit. You are saying I don't want to loose her. What advise where you expecting to get here.

For you FYI your "fiancé" is an adult woman, she has met the man she is going to marry. It means she has to tailor her lifestyle to what the both of you can afford. Trust me, that uncle is NOT taking advantage of her. She is a willing party.

Randyhot:
I have this issue that i have been pondering on for sometime now, and the more i think about it, the more i get confused.

Its about this man my fiancee always call's her uncle, she said that this man is a relation to her grandma and honestly, this particular man is the one sponsoring her education since both parents are divorced.

My problem is this, everytime this man is in town, she goes over to his house to clean up, and will spend the night over there as well, and this man has never for once visited with his wife. Secondly whenever this man calls her on phone, and she happens to be anywhere expect her house or in school, he will start accusing her of sleeping around, something i am suspecting might be a 'lover's jelousy' than a mere concern for her well being. I might be wrong in my suspecions but i cant just bring my mind to rest when he stoped paying her school fees for a while when it was reported to him that she was caught coming from a guys house by a friend. I knew that day in particular , cause i was escorting her when she bumped into someone she remarked as her uncle's bossom friend, it took the intervention of her mother and sister to placate him.
I was shoked one day when she remarked that if you dont know well, you might think that they where dating, and futher said that his wife might be suspecting them atimes. I was thinking, what must be running through her mind for saying all these? I have seen her selfies in this uncles apartment and most of the pictures are not so "funny" as what she wears around the house.

Now today, the man is around and as usual she will be up there cleaning and stuff, but what is worrying me this night is the " swtheart,my husband good nite" sms i got from her after all the missed call i gave her earlier tonight. Its unlike her, cause we never fail to call eachother and say our goodnights every night.
I replied her asking if shes spending the night in her uncle's house which she did not reply.
I dont know how to confront her on this, about my fears and suspicions.
Your advice is kindly needed, as the imaginations alone is giving me sleeples night.

Op, Listen man:

I used to have a friend who is a big boy with lots of cash to play around with though relatively young (mid 30s).

He introduced me then to a young lady that came to visit in his office and after she left, he told me about her and the story is similar to yours.

He's constantly sleeping with her cos of the financial benefits she gets from him up until she got married and introduced him to her fiancé as her "uncle!"

He found it so amusing cos the fiancé would come and postrate whenever they receive financial help. They even used his car for their wedding with the fiancé rolling on the floor in gratitude to the amusement of this "uncle".

To his surprise, the lady still wanted to keep up the banging after the wedding and he told me that he had to stop it!

He shared this secret btw him & the lady with me to show how callous some babes can be; but to me, I saw him as equally guilty as the babe.

Op, As a man, the last thing you can't afford to be is naive! Wake Up man!

smithsydny:
God bless u bro

Yea thanks ma brother, until next time

They are both banging each other.

Period.

So I v to get access to her phone to hear the voice calls again right

Trendy247:

Modified

Hmm..He might not be her uncle, but the 'Main man' that even her family knows her because of his display of affection in cash. Let's her agree that he is her 'Uncle' and he is soo strict that he tolerates no guy around her, nor calls, do they sleep in the same room? That she cannot call you back even after cleaning all day? Atleast at night she should be free, if he is her uncle why won't he give his matured cousin some time to herself? So they are always together? Even at night/midnight that she cannot even talk to you. At lady of marriageable age should have some freedom no matter how strict the guardians or parents her. If he is her Uncle her mom has been unable to voice out on his harsh principles knowing such will ruin her daughter. Bro there ia more to this, I do not believe he is her uncle, he is her 'Main Man' don't be shocked to when you hear she is getting married to him. But still, straighten up, make your findings and get the truth of this uncle and nephew of a thing, its a question of your life bro, you can always go underground for your findings without letting her know, cunningly get some info about her 'Uncle' and her family at large from her.. Then do your findings.. But for the main time, just be cool and collect some cash from her tho

BlackMystery:
Investigate on ur own or hire someone to do it for you

OP, this lady just said my mind. To be candid, one tends to notice anomalies more, when he is faithful to his spouse but the spouse isnt. I was noticing some thngs about my then Bae (now ex) and I was prompted to make some researches on my own, before I discovered many heart-rending things. Lets me teach you how I bugged her whatsapp (pls make sure you practice on a friend's phone and tidy up all loose ends, cos you can't afford to make mistakes. The con of this tutorial howevr is that she has to be online before you can access her whatsapp info. Also, dont forget to screenshoot, and make sure she dsnt see them. Also try to be subscribing for her if she says she dsnt have internet connectivity )

Many atimes when we know our "Bae" is cheating, we find I hard to believe and seriously hope its not true. I have been in that position and trust me, "e fit kill person through hypertension or high Blood Pressure ". I got my facts before challenging my "bae" (through whatsappweb, and just smile within myself when she tell lies and even swear again without asking her to).

A man that marries the right woman will b forever happy, but a man that marries the wrong woman, will be great philosopher
A failed relationship is better than a failed marriage. Love with your heart, but carry your brain along. And finally...It is smarter to be single than to be in a wrong relationship

https://www.nairaland.com/3060322/how-access-single-whatsapp-account

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josite:
this uncle pays her school fees and you are yet to tell us what u do for her that entitles u to get to where her uncle definitely is getting to.do u need to be told that this uncle is not paying her school fees for free.

Dude is endowed, handsome and presentable, he looks like half cast. Lok, but true. That is a comma

Nwannem, that ikpu na ala gi otu na isi

I don't usually jump to conclusions but this one is strong. I can't just shake out the impression that she's doing ish with him

OP sorry to burst your bubble but that man might just turn out to either be your fiancee's other husband or he has been sleeping with her before she met you... Please confront your fears by asking her now before you know....

missKiffy:

Randyhot work on this advice, if she refuse then it's obvious she's dating him, if she accept watch closely her so called "uncles" reaction to you and make sure the uncle knows you are her fiancee, if she doesn't introduce you as such, introduce urself as such and see his reaction.

Nice one there have you ever tried relationship counselling??

1miccza:



Nice one there have you ever tried relationship counselling??

Nope, why do you ask

in a relationship, 99% of your gut instinct is always right when it comes to a cheating spouse. and to think that you are already calling her FIANCEE. Awwwww You better goan find your own "AUNTIE" too and be cleaning her house shior


OP Rule of thumb :WHEN A LADY IS CHEATING, THAT'S WHEN THEY ACT NICEST AND MOST AFFECTIONATE, BUT WHEN YOU START DOUBTING AND SNOOPING AROUND THEY WEE SAY YOU ARE A CONTROL FREAK

Dude,if the guy is actually her blood uncle, then you need to consider the fact that if they are screwing, that means they've been screwing for a loooooooooong time, he probably took advantage of her when she was underage and she can't break free. This is not the type of relationship you can just tell her 'stop'. She can't, and won't, in oyibo land she'll have to go through therapy and counselling and shii. Forget abt that marriage but try and advice her to get help, cos the guy probably has some sort of psychological hold on her.
But I need to ask, are u 100% sure she's @ this uncles house when she tells u she's there? Or she just tells u uncles house when she was to sleep out?If you are sure it's his house then there's definitely something wrong wt that relationship.

missKiffy:

Nope, why do you ask

I just feel you've got something going there for you which you could explore cos that was a wonderful suggestion

Randyhot:
I have this issue that i have been pondering on for sometime now, and the more i think about it, the more i get confused.

Its about this man my fiancee always call's her uncle, she said that this man is a relation to her grandma and honestly, this particular man is the one sponsoring her education since both parents are divorced.

My problem is this, everytime this man is in town, she goes over to his house to clean up, and will spend the night over there as well, and this man has never for once visited with his wife. Secondly whenever this man calls her on phone, and she happens to be anywhere expect her house or in school, he will start accusing her of sleeping around, something i am suspecting might be a 'lover's jelousy' than a mere concern for her well being. I might be wrong in my suspecions but i cant just bring my mind to rest when he stoped paying her school fees for a while when it was reported to him that she was caught coming from a guys house by a friend. I knew that day in particular , cause i was escorting her when she bumped into someone she remarked as her uncle's bossom friend, it took the intervention of her mother and sister to placate him.
I was shoked one day when she remarked that if you dont know well, you might think that they where dating, and futher said that his wife might be suspecting them atimes. I was thinking, what must be running through her mind for saying all these? I have seen her selfies in this uncles apartment and most of the pictures are not so "funny" as what she wears around the house.

Now today, the man is around and as usual she will be up there cleaning and stuff, but what is worrying me this night is the " swtheart,my husband good nite" sms i got from her after all the missed call i gave her earlier tonight. Its unlike her, cause we never fail to call eachother and say our goodnights every night.
I replied her asking if shes spending the night in her uncle's house which she did not reply.
I dont know how to confront her on this, about my fears and suspicions.
Your advice is kindly needed, as the imaginations alone is giving me sleeples night.

bros, take this from personal experience. I will give you two options.

1. Continue to be a supporting 2nd striker and assistant boy.
2. Get yourself a fiancé because you don't have one as of right now.

1miccza:


I just feel you've got something going there for you which you could explore cos that was a wonderful suggestion

OK, thanks

missKiffy:

OK, thanks

My pleasure

Curlieweed:


Guy,

Whether the uncle is shaggiing her or not is a non issue. If the babe gives only you that puzzy, can you finish it?

If you want to marry you better ignore all these faceless clowns and go ahead and do the deed. You need to ask yourself if all these advisers are going to be marrying the woman together with you.

Shun all these idle minds and get on with your life jawe. If marriage dey fear you (aka cold feet) face your fears like a man and stop shopping for excuses.

?. ;DU smoke weed finish dey advice brother man to go marry one of these indomie oloshos of our 21st century generational ,conjugal, Nigerian girls association of ........

Some shameless men dey sleep with their daughters,some dey sleep with under age...how much more for uncle..?i laff in Zimbabwe

evegran:
I am glad I am blunt and not afraid to express myself anytime.

Op, you shouldn't even be with someone if you're so afraid to ask em questions about something that is bothering you, number one!

Number two, what Uncle? (Who should be playing the role of a father) Wouldn't want his daughter to be engaged and get married in the nearest future?

Number three, what Uncle doesn't realise she is a grown woman and has every right to have a boyfriend if she even has plans of marriage in the future. Her Uncle should even encourage her and meet her "serious" boyfriend, giving him rules and asking him to treat her right because she is his daughter.

Op, your suspicious are sensible. I am equally convinced she is having a sexual relationship with her Uncle.

Ask her the questions and tell her, you will not be able to cope. Somehow, you're going to have to threaten to leave her if she doesn't stop and realise threatening to leave her means you will propose to be paying her bills ( at least the bills her Uncle pays-which clearly keeps her indebted to him because he is a dirty sick man).

Try that, if she agrees to stop it and even start avoiding her uncle. Please, seriously pay her bills and allow her focus on just you. If she gets mad and doesn't even give you a sensible explanation, prepare yourself for a break up. Because even after you marry her, she will continue fucking her Uncle and might possibly Bleep your own Uncle too.

Bonjour.

Seriously pay her bill....? Is she up for the highest bidder? Like the biggest spender gets the girl? Really? This is the advice we are giving?

Our values in this country are so... We'll, what am I saying? What do you expect? No surprise. A country we're individuals have no self-esteem or respect.

If a man has to pay a woman's bills to keep her, then how is she different from a prostitute. And how is he different from a LovePeddler-monger.

If you can't be with him when he is in lack, then you don't deserve to be with him when he is in cash.

Our social values are messed up. That's why a girl allows herself to remain in poverty while she waits for a man to come and save her.

I spit on brainless backwardness!

seangy4konji:
So I v to get access to her phone to hear the voice calls again right

It can either b uploaded automatically to Google drive or sent to ur email...

U can also send dem manually to ur fone tru Bluetooth or flashare

devvland:



Seriously pay her bill....? Is she up for the highest bidder? Like the biggest spender gets the girl? Really? This is the advice we are giving?

Our values in this country are so... We'll, what am I saying? What do you expect? No surprise. A country we're individuals have no self-esteem or respect.

If a man has to pay a woman's bills to keep her, then how is she different from a prostitute. And how is he different from a LovePeddler-monger.

If you can't be with him when he is in lack, then you don't deserve to be with him when he is in cash.

Our social values are messed up. That's why a girl allows herself to remain in poverty while she waits for a man to come and save her.

I spit on brainless backwardness!

nice write up, ur way up in the league.

Randyhot:
lol..funny dude, seriously i will check it out, thanks bro

Nairaland SOS stories are "believe at your own peril". Nollywood productions.

Osiris16:
From OP's response it's clear you know the truth but just don't want to admit. You are saying I don't want to loose her. What advise where you expecting to get here.

For you FYI your "fiancé" is an adult woman, she has met the man she is going to marry. It means she has to tailor her lifestyle to what the both of you can afford. Trust me, that uncle is NOT taking advantage of her. She is a willing party.

Well said!

It's just too obvious my that she's enjoying her so called uncle's dick than yours. Be a man. Set up a committe to investigate this. From what I could infer, u are deeply in love and thereby blind to the truth you undoubtedly know. Make sure u Catch her red handed, if not she might make you feel guilty that you don't have trust for her. I see you end up begging her. She's too smart for you.

brotherly from most of the posts, almost everybody are saying the same thing, dat gal of urs obviously isn't just cleaning up like she said she is,.i think she is hitting it off with her supposed uncle,faced the truth now and quit before it's too late.look for another gal dat would appreciate and cherish u not someone taking u for a ride and continue lying to your face.try secretly investigating her but for me it quite obvious what ur findings would be. pls leave dis gal and move on

meeenhhh.!!! d kind doggy style wey dat suppose uncle dey give ur babe eeehh..... if u see u go faint

Irishrena1:
I don't usually jump to conclusions but this one is strong. I can't just shake out the impression that she's doing ish with him

forget about conclusion...d so called Uncle dey scatter her kitty cat jareee